We have been separated for half a year now but I continue to think back things that he did and the lies that he made. One particular reply that he made continues to pain and anger me every time I think about it. When I confronted him with his infidelity with a married woman, I asked him what was good or specifial about this girl. His reply was, "she is a good girl." I got so angry. My immediate reponse was "if it was your wife, me, who was unfaithful to you, would you still consider me a good girl? IF she is a 'good' girl, would she have carried on this affair with you even though she is married?"
2007-06-04 19:33:22 · 4 answers · asked by Azure 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. My husband got 3 women pregnant in the 13 years we were together...they all aborted the babies.
Now, you have to stop 'allowing' his problems stay yours. YOU HAVE TO CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY. He will tell you only what he sees and he is delussional to think that this woman is a good girl. He was attracted and she was willing...shut case.
Don't give him the power over your happiness any longer. Find things that make you happy and do them. Work on your hair, nails and clothes. Be pretty, just to go to the store. Build your own self-esteem, cause you still have a lot to offer a good man. Give of yourself to others who need you and stay too busy (read a book) to remember his name before long.
I went to say something about my ex of 13 years, after he left for 1 year, to a friend and actually had a hard time remembering his name. IT WAS LIKE FUNNY!
Other men saw my 'JOY OF LIFE' and was attracted to me before long.
6 months is a short period, so OK, you've been mad, you've grieved, now choose to LIVE! IT WILL ONLY MAKE HIM MAD AND FEEL STUPID THE NEXT TIME HE SEES YOU AND YOU ARE LOOKING AND FEELING EXCELLENT WITHOUT HIM! MY EX EVEN BEGGED FOR SEX, 4 YEARS AFTER THE DIVORCE, AFTER SEEING ME FOR THE FIRST TIME. GO FIGURE: I TOLD HIM, "YOU COULD NOT HANDLE ME THEN, WHAT MAKES YOU THINK YOU CAN NOW." GIRL, ENJOY LIFE NOW THAT THE BAGGAGE HAS BEEN REMOVED. GOD BLESS.
2007-06-04 21:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop dwelling on the past, this was a year ago. I suggest you file for divorce and put all of it behind you or it's going to keep on festering until it ruins your life. Why you have remained only seperated for an entire year is beyond me. You're STILL married to this guy so there is no closure yet. File for divorce and move on.
2007-06-05 02:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this must be hard for you, but you have to say to yourself, " I am lucky to be out of this relationship. My ex lied to me, cheated on me and wasnt honest to me'...Seriously, the pain will fade in time, try not to stew on things. Down the track you will thank yourself for getting out of the marriage. Good luck, and chin up.....
2007-06-05 03:00:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say he is the guilty one. She couldn't of had the affair with him if he wasn't going for it. She is wrong too, but he is the real bad guy in this thing. He is not a good guy.
2007-06-05 02:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋