Married now 18 years.
We were separated 10 years ago and about to file for divorce. DH had cheated and I was done.
DH came back when he saw I was okay with life and moving on saying he was back so like it or lump it and leave. I had no where and no family to go & no job (2 little kids) so I stayed.
Now I am just not sure what to feel or think...part of me resents the way things happened. I am over him cheating.
The kids are almost out of the house and I am not sure if I will stay when they are gone.
DH is a good father, provider and a nice guy but...I just don't know.
I have stayed somewhat in contact with a male friend I worked with way back when we were separated. We only chat via email and the occasional phone call. We are only friends, I would not leave for him.
Is there a future with this marriage when the kids are gone?
2007-06-04 19:30:21 · 8 answers · asked by Wondering Woman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I think you can view this as just a "time" in your marriage that was very rough. Then let it go.
You could also view it as the villian who killed your marriage.
My questions are; do you love him, need him, want him, and mostly enjoy his company? Has he been faithful since that period in your lives? If you know/feel that he has and you do love him - then by all mean stay in the marriage. See a counselor, move, or anything else the two of you can make just yours again. Good luck.
2007-06-04 19:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by soozemusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's is something for you to consider: a long term companion. I've been separated for half a year now. When my brother learned about it recently and saw that I lost a lot of weight, he asked me to consider looking past the infidelities my husband committed. There may not be love anymore but the comfort of being with each other and the support for each other into old age maybe something that's worth considering. After the kids are gone, will you be ok living by yourself looking after your house and yourself? Will you appreciate having someone familiar to be by your side? For me, having somebody I can trust is much much more important than having anybody to go through old age with. I will probably change my point of view when I get older but for now, I cannot see myself living with a liar, someone I cannot trust, in order to preserve future companionship.
2007-06-05 02:44:15 · answer #2 · answered by Azure 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does your husband hit you? Does he disrespect you or insult you? Is he a drinker? Ask yourself these questions. If the answer is no then ask yourself another question: Do you still love him?
If the love is gone then why stay? Are you financially well to move on? If you no longer love your husband than do what your instinct tells you and live your life the way you want to.
2007-06-05 02:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by Moraima H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Empty nest syndrome is a common problem when the kids are gone. the problem now is you two already seem distant. Unless you talk and work on things and grow together you are just kidding yourself. work on it before its too late. and forget about your "buddy", that's just fuel for the fire and a easy escape route you don't need.
2007-06-05 02:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by Ken W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't expect there will. It will be alot easier to leave once the kids are gone.
2007-06-05 02:45:09 · answer #5 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question! Get out of the marriage and enjoy the rest of your life...............
2007-06-05 02:45:02 · answer #6 · answered by city girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love each other.
2007-06-05 02:36:11 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that one.
2007-06-05 02:35:11 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋