Yesterday I was fired for drinking at work. Stupid, eh? It wasn't a great job and there was a history of bullying and lack of training which I got blamed for. I was allowed to resign rather than being dismissed and I am told that any reference I ask for will not mention my misdemeanour. So on the face of it, it need never come to light that I was fired.
Apart from from feeling ashamed and embarrassed, I couldn't face telling my partner the truth so I told him I walked out. He has been wonderfully supportive as he's been telling me to do it for 3 years.
So on top of my shame, I feel absolutely awful about lying to him, and I've got to carry on doing it now until the dust settles and it fades into insignificance. It will have to extend to family and friends too.( They have all told me to walk out also. )
But basically, I'm getting sympathy and support I don't deserve and I'm a liar too.
I can't explain how bad I feel. Any words of comfort for me please? I feel better for sharing
2007-06-04 19:28:03 · 6 answers · asked by lou b 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why oh why do we feel the need to confess?
You feel like a heel...and you did something stupid.
You also got a "Get out of jail free" card. Use it. Your fairy godmother just put you on a positive pathway. Do not get off of it.
THERE ARE NO AMENDS TO BE MADE HERE. Sorry for shouting, but absolutly no guilt. No one got hurt. No reason in the world anyone should start hurting now.
Don't do something more stupid by telling your partner and your family that you were fired for drinking on the job. Do not confess. You are allowed to beat yourself up mentally for a week or two, but don't compound the issue by taking your cheering squad into your mentally anguished state with you. There's not a reason in the world you should.
Make it something positive. Join AA if that's what you need. Take the drinking test(s) and make two positive steps forward:
a) find a job you like
b) get a grip over alcohol.
You hated your job, people encouraged you to quit. By the by, you were allowed to do exactly that. This is a good thing, a meant to be kind of thing. Take the positives AND the positive vibes those who love you are giving and turn them into something positive whether you feel like you deserve it or not.
2007-06-04 19:48:33 · answer #1 · answered by lmerrittaz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are much more important things in life. Many people in your position, might have done the very same thing. Don't let it linger in your mind, or feel guilty about it. It may end up being a blessing, because maybe a new better career awaits you. Just try to learn from your mistake, and not repeat it. If it still continues to bother you, just tell your partner the truth. If he really cares about you, it won't matter to him that you lied. He'll just be happy that your out of a dead end job, that you disliked, and that you'll now be free to explore new, more rewarding avenues. There are mountains and mole hills in life. My friend, this is just a mole hill. Really.
2007-06-05 02:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
From your email you sound pretty down about what happend. I would not excuse your behavior because it was very irresponsiblem but more than all try to learn from it and get help if there is a problem. This time it was your job, tomorrow it could be something worse like driving under the influence.
I think you should not feel bad about getting the support. No one is perfect. We all have lied at one point or another. The important factor here is trying to resolve our issues to prevent a similar situation.
Keep your head up because your incident will not follow you for a future job. Try to relax and reflect. Things will work out for you.
2007-06-05 02:37:33 · answer #3 · answered by Moraima H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The pattern will repeat unless you deal with yourself honestly.
You have 2 fundamental problems: drinking and office conduct. Your prospects will be very limited unless you learn to deal w/ these problems. You can take classes to better control yourself as your way out.
2007-06-05 05:28:48 · answer #4 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth will set you free.
2007-06-05 02:32:33 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
start your life over,
2007-06-05 02:42:15 · answer #6 · answered by stop canada. 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋