2007-06-04 18:51:55 · 16 answers · asked by Tina C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If it bothers you they should not do it. He cheated on you and if I were your sister I would not want anything to do with him. You would always come first to me and your feelings. You are my family and he choose not to be the day he betrayed my sister. No I would not continue a relationship with him and i would be upset if my husband continued to do so. Best wishes sweetie.
2007-06-04 19:08:31 · answer #1 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation. If they were very close before or they live in the same small town, there's nothing odd about it. It also makes a difference how close they are now. Keeping him on the Christmas card list is a little different from asking him to be godfather to their new baby. My brother still goes to baseball games with my ex-husband. Our divorce was very friendly but it still seemed a little weird until I realized that it had nothing to do with me. They have a mutual interest and both occasionally receive free tickets. Why shouldn't they do what they like. If it really bothers you, talk to your sister about it but I think you're better off just leaving it alone.
2007-06-04 19:02:10 · answer #2 · answered by Kuji 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be normal to one but not to another. I always believe that each person is entitled to his/her opinions. Your sister and her husband are grown-ups so they can choose their own friends. However, if let's say the reason for the divorce was that your ex committed adultery, then I would expect your relatives to be supportive and on your side. I would not expect them to continue contact with such a loser who had done harm to their sister (you) and destroyed your lovely marriage. But, again, they have every right to do what they wish. From your point of view, if you think they should be considerate and not continue contact with your ex, you need to tell them how you feel and what you expect them to do. If they choose to disregard your feelings, maybe it's time you alienate your sister and her husband.
2007-06-04 19:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by Azure 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still keep in touch with my ex inlaws. One of my best friends over the last almost 30 years has been my ex's cousin, just because he and I divorced doesn't mean the friendship ended. My ex's nephew lives a couple hours from here and we visit quite often. When it comes to human relationships there is no such thing as "normal"
2007-06-04 20:21:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the family. I only see my X's family at grandkids birthday. However, my mother in law and I are the best of friends 29 years after divorce. Someone NEEDS to stay friendly for the kids sake. They need to see communication and caring between X's. It makes it very difficult on the kids to be torn from one family to the other. Holidays are ruined.
One son won't live within 1,000 miles of family so he & his wife don't get caught in the middle of problems. The other son won't stay Christmas eve with either family- they stay at their house. The boys spent their lives every other weekend with other parent, parents splitting holidays and not liking it.
I did not realize how hard it was on them until grandkids were born and after 1st birthday and 2 birthday parties for each family my son said enough-I AM NOT DIVORCED and will not have my kids torn like I was. Be SMART and stay socially friendly because divorces last much longer than marriages. All of mom n laws x kids still see her & love her.
2007-06-04 19:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by banderagal@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its normal. We have a similar issue in our family and see our ex-brother-in-law several times a year. He always has been a great guy and all the family likes him. Just becasue the marriage did not work out we all still remain friends.
2007-06-05 04:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes particularly if her husband and yours got on. I do with one of my sisters ex-husbands, its not meant as any disrespect its just as a bloke i got on with him and had no hang ups over it. mind you he didn't cheat on her, was more he liked a couple of drinks.
. But your sister maybe making the best of a bad deal, she can upset you far more than her husband because bloods thicker than water.
so that probably don't help you that much
2007-06-04 18:59:58 · answer #7 · answered by andyjh_uk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they may still want to have a relationship with him. And you should not take it personal when you once thought he was something special yourself. My son has two ex's who are the mothers of my grandchildren, and I still have very close and loving relationships with them. I accept my son does not want to have them in his life, but our family as a whole, are still very much involved with each and see no point in shunning them because they are no longer with our son. To me, they are still and will always be my daughters no matter what.
2007-06-04 18:59:41 · answer #8 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your husband was part of your extended family... my kids still see their aunt, same situation (divorced, she cheated), in fact, she sometimes comes to family gatherings... and we are all happy to see her... if you are divorced, you don't get to say who he talks to... if it makes you uncomfortable, I would hope that they don't invite him to the family bbq, tho.
(I don't know why that sis-in-law of mine still comes to the in-laws.. I sure the hell wouldn't if I didn't have to..)
2007-06-04 18:57:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is not normal. Maybe they feel that it was your failure to please him when he needed you which lead him to commit adultery or you had a bad behavior. It depends on the way they view you.
2007-06-05 00:18:24 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋