I don't understand it, I work 8 to 9 hours everyday have two days off during the week and during my days off I clean the house do the laundry, cook take care of him and the animals. And he gets pissed that I happen to go out to a friends house, that lives in the same building as us.Not like I'm out and about. He can always come up stairs their his friends too.But yet he can go out anytime he wants to with any of his friends even the ones I hate.Go out to 2:00am to 3:00am. Almost every night.Hanging with his friends,while I'm sitting at home probably just getting out of work. But when he's home and not hanging with his friends I'm suppose to be there. Probably so he can have me wait on him hand and foot. He never does anything for himself. He would be lost if I should died before him, also to mention we have been married for 26 years.Also to mention the lazy ******* doesn't even work sits at home and collects SSI.(becuz of an illiness.) Somebody give me some advice on what to do......
2007-06-04 17:49:16 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
You married him, you have to answer the question as to why.
2007-06-04 17:51:10 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want to hear this, but you caused this, by waiting hand and foot on him since day one, just like a lot of us. But its time to sit down and let him know how you feel, and also being he's home ask him if he can help out a little. If you can maybe rearrange you schedule to get some of your laundry and other work done, before the weekend, then you can have a day off.
Maybe put the wash in before work, and let him put it in the dryer, so when you come home you can get it out and fold and put it away. If he leaves his clothes all around , let him know your tired, and if they don't get hung up, or in the hamper, then let him know that they won't be getting cleaned. You have to figure it out, and put a plan in action, you deserve to have a day off also..
2007-06-04 18:02:55 · answer #2 · answered by lennie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to overreact to every stupid thing that will help increase your calm. Then look at the situation for what it really is, and if it still bugs you that he is going out until 2am and you do not, then try to have a rational conversation about the problem. And for gods sake don't yell or rant, cos that just turns people off. You can fix this problem by using your god given language skills... all you have to do is talk about it rationally. The way you rant here like a lunatic makes it look like YOU are the one with the issues. If you make yourself look like the bad guy then you will never win.
2007-06-04 18:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by gt5364e 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's never too late to leave him. If you don't want to mess with divorce, just move out and let him figure it out.
If you think you want to save this marriage, try marriage counseling. Some churches offer it for free. Go by yourself even if you can't get him to go. And stop waiting on him hand and foot! Pissiness won't really hurt you. If he assaults you, go to the cops and get him kicked out of the house.
Women live longer, and you've still got some good years in you. Can you enjoy them with him hanging around the house?
2007-06-04 18:01:44 · answer #4 · answered by Madame M 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hunny, you need to either drop his a** or tell him you are your own person you WORK he should wait on YOU. On the other hand, he could be really lonely sitting around by himself all day and miss you and just not know any other way to express it then demanding you stay home with him.
2007-06-04 17:53:51 · answer #5 · answered by Amy J 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just say to him if you don't do your fair sare o work around the house then I will go out with my friends and leave you to sit in your own slop.
2007-06-04 17:51:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not getting the Respect you Deserve. Leave Him and get with me. I don't work either But I Hustle.
2007-06-04 17:52:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone reaches their breaking point sooner or later. I suggest you tell him you both are going for marriage counselling, or else you are leaving. Good luck!
2007-06-04 17:57:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself another MAN.
2007-06-04 18:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by doglover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go directly to the local gun store
2007-06-04 17:51:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋