Me and my 2 bestest friends went out to a club the other day and we were all drinking somehow on our way back to the car they started fussing,I went to talk to a guy and then they started fighting,pulling hair and screaming now they arent speaking and each one of them wants to turn me against the other what can I do to stay out of it and I want to be both of thier friends matter of fact they were friends with eachother before I even came along what can I do?
2007-06-04 16:36:50 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i would suggest that you have a conference call or send a group email.
mention:
they were friends first
u like them both and want to remain friends with both of them
neither of them did anything to you so you can not be friends to just one or the other
remind them of how foolish they looked at the time
you will not allow either of them to bad-mouth the other to you
and finally let them know that from now on when you all hang out they can have non-alcoholic beverages only! (smile)
hope this helps...
2007-06-04 16:51:55 · answer #1 · answered by miss lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. Stay home and read a good book.
If you open to the hostilities, and accusations, and emotional upheaval which will come with their reacquantance, go for it.
It would be too much for me to become reinvolved.
They could make up as old friends, and then look you up. Don't get used to wipe up the fight they did just have.
2007-06-04 23:47:15 · answer #2 · answered by Marissa Di 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...tell them that they need to talk it out with each other, and if they don't want anything to do with each other, then you need to respect that, but also let them know that they need to respect you by not speaking negative about each other to you. just because they're not friends doesn't mean you can't be friends with both of them. they both sound immature though..hopefully they learn from that incident
2007-06-04 23:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by it's_love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your friends in a neutral, non-threatening environment (alone and perhaps with each other) to discuss this.
They need to act like adults and quit acting like kids.
2007-06-04 23:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them straight up you aint going against the other and that they need to work it out themselves.
2007-06-04 23:40:01 · answer #5 · answered by nicole_bby:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋