How to deal with challenging people?

Question

What qualities make an individual a challenge to deal with? How do you deal with that challenging quality?

I wasn't asking for advice. The question was formulated allowing each person responding to define what they consider to be a challenge and then how they choose to address the challenge.

Hope that helps.

Answer 1

I can't be bothered with those type of people .There are enough problems in the world to- day without wasting precious time with fools. I'd rather be with people of the same nature as me where i don't have to prove myself.

Answer 2

Having worked a job where I had 600 to 1100 customers a day, I had to do what I could to address this issue. The first thing I did was keep a smile on my face. Yes, it really does change the way people respond to you. I had a number of regular customers that nick named me "Smiley."
When there were customers with complaints about the way the job was run (it was a government job that people in my position did not have any say in) I gave them honest, responsive answers.
When someone just had to be hateful, I listened quietly, answered anything I could, and finished the transaction.
There was also the infrequent person who intends to cause as much damage as they can. That's what Security Guards and Police are for. Occasionally, I was the only person on hand when that happened. Then I chose to let them know what the ramifications of their behavior would be. Also, some other customers in line had no problem letting those folks know they weren't going to accept their behavior, either. It worked.

Answer 3

That depends if the person is a negative challenge and I'm assuming that's your position. There are many ways to pose the term challenge once we've determined the challenge to be negative. In other words is the challenge a physical threat? Is it a verbal challenge? Is it a sporting challenge? I need for you to be more specific in your query to answer without ambiguity.

Answer 4

I find overly emotional people challenging. It seems to me that those who have a firey side tend to overreact and overindulge. It's difficult to reason with emotion since it is not intellect.
Emotion plays favorites, and this is difficult to deal with in the sense that a bias typically forms.

I think emotion is a wonderful thing, but too much is an imbalance of the female-male portions of our brain and self. When one tends towards the emotional extreme, reason and rationality tend to go.

I find that the only way to deal with such individuals is to manipulate or give example. The latter proves better of the two methods. For overly emotional types, it is best to put them in another's shoes. Also, story such as myth proves effective.

Answer 5

1. dealing with challenging people (for me) has allot more variables than just the person being challenging. for example, it depends on how they are being challenging. if they are just being "difficult" like say a younger sibling, then what i do is i try to confront them in a nice manner first, & if that doesn't work, i usually resort to violence or threats of violence (usually just a well need punch in the arm or kick in the ***). if they are being challenging as in getting in your face & trying to instigate something, I've learned that standing my ground works best. because about 90% of those people tend to be just bullies & never expect someone to stand up to them & then they don't know what to do.
2. i think the biggest quality of what makes someone challenging is ignorants. usually the person whose being challenging does not want to see your point of view & is putting up a defiant defense against what you're trying to say.
3. again, to deal with challenging qualities is depending on the situation. for you cannot deal with a sibling the same way you deal with a bully, or anyone outside your family as fact of the matter.

Answer 6

Too many questions, suggestions to do things differently. Walk away from challenging people unless you enjoy the challenge. I prefer to walk away.

Answer 7

Tell us Guru. How 'do' you deal with the A holes of the world?

Answer 8

i dont kno..but you dont deal wit it..

you live wit it