if you could change 1 mistake in your life,...?

Question

... no matter how big or small it was, what would it be & why?

Answer 1

I wouldn't. This is the experience of regret and remorse. The desire to change X about the past to have a false view of what actually took place. It is to assume responsibility when there was none. It is to assume control where there is none.

It is not to have learned the lesson that was available over the decision and action that is perceived as a mistake.

There are no mistakes in life. There are challenges and opportunities.

There are no mistakes, merely reality checks against what our expectations and hopes were.

Answer 2

I wouldn't have married my husband. No, I learned so much from that relationship.
Maybe I shouldn't have worked so hard to get a degree that I passed by opportunities for a family. No, not that either. I needed to learn what I learned from my classes and from my fellow students.
Perhaps I should have taken labor jobs so I could develop myself and be stronger now than I am. No, my illness would have just gotten worse earlier and I would have missed so many other opportunities that I have gotten.

Hmm...I guess I needed to make all the mistakes I made so I could learn how much better I really have it in life. Okay, nothing, I would change nothing.

Answer 3

"guru" is right - changng even one insignifigant event would destroy every good thing that followed it (as well as the bad).

Let's demonstrate (using what I thought of the first time I was asked this question - and being slightly vague on the details):

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If I could go back, I would have confronted my ex when I first found out what she was doing behind my back...

This would have made me single much sooner than I was (saving me a lot of pain, and perhaps allowing me to meet someone new) - but at the same time, I would never haved made many of the major decisions in my life at that time (getting my first "real" job, moving out, etc.) - as well as everything (big and small) that followed for the next five years or so.

And most importantly, I would have NEVER been in the situation I was in when I met the love of my life.

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In other words, I would have been a completely different person - for better, or worse. And that new person would wonder what they had missed by making that change...

Answer 4

I would not change a thing. If you are science-fisction readers, it is very possible that you read about littlle changes done , by purpose, in the past, that changed the present? Maybe one little mistake in our life made the changes that lead us to great achievements or hapenings? I would not change a thing. I am happy with the persons that surround me now, that God and life gave me my two children. Why change anything?

Answer 5

To have trusted someone special sooner. I couldn't make it to the first time she invited me out. Nothing more than friends, but, I missed the opportunity when it was right. We did become best friends months later, and just recently that's gone. And she was an amazing friend. I don't regret, but learn since we were friends, but, I can't help but to feel that if I was able to make it to her first invitation, it might have been different. I think even if it ended the same way, I would at least have learned more from taking a chance sooner. I still have faith.

Answer 6

NONE, because the mistakes we make in life are what make us who we are now, and thankfully my mistakes have made me a better person I think, without those mistakes i wouldn't have "learned" what I know today and wouldn't be the person I am today

Answer 7

coming 2 america I was actually much happier in mexico

Answer 8

I think Guru is right

Answer 9

Losing my virginity with cyber sex...