Someone has power over you, and you deceive them into believing that you respect them, and you believe everything they say is the truth?
Is this the smartest way to relate to authority, and if you don't do this are you doomed to failure in life?
2007-06-04 15:04:23 · 5 answers · asked by martin h 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
It's called kissing up, and it really doesn't get you anywhere, and if it does, you gain no respect by anyone else, since they know that they worked their @$$ off while you were kissing your boss'. If you really want respect, work hard and be assertive in your ideas and beliefs, unless you personally see a reason to change your opinion. Your hard work will be rewarded.
2007-06-04 15:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. Psychosis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This defensive pattern is common. It begins in childhood and if you don't change your mind, you will attract the same set-up throughout life. Your "belief" will cause this, and has to change for reality to change. Focus on the unpleasantness of the relationship/role and know that it is NOT universal or eternal - however much your past experience has convinced you that this is true. It CAN change and even disappear out of your experience of reality. Remember the origin and how your feelings have remained the same from the beginning. Be fully conscious of your reactions to the memory. Contemplate the opposite being true - what would that opposite experience be like, feel like. Consciously choose that new experience despite appearances to the contrary - continue until it changes. Reality responds to consciousness - including your conflictedness. If you believe submission and success are inseparable, they will be.
2007-06-08 21:48:09 · answer #2 · answered by MysticMaze 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you could call it necessary deception. Survival. I know I have problems interacting with people who think they're above me--I don't like their attitudes and I let them know it. No one is superior, but their job titles make them think they are. And yes, relating to "authorities" this way gets a person nowhere. However, the question I ask myself is whether I can look in the mirror and feel good about my attitude. If I say yes, then I'm fine with it, no matter what others think. If you have a "superior" who thinks everything they say is the truth, that person has a problem.
2007-06-05 12:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by teeleecee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Several things come to mind. I would consider the behaviour as manipulation. I would also consider the response one that is based on fear.
Each of us contends with power and authority.
This deception is not necessarily the best way of dealing with power imbalances.
2007-06-04 22:09:05 · answer #4 · answered by guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your way of thinking is the coward way, most people who have power want to be challenged if everyone just agrees its boring . think your argument thru be rational and present it in a nonthreatening way thats the way to success
2007-06-04 23:26:34 · answer #5 · answered by paulcarberry2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋