How can I let go of my emotions?

Question

I heard that since we are little kids we have this ability to let go of any unwanted emotion...

I am an intellectual type (I like to analyze and stuff) of person... how can you put it so that I understand it? to let go of my emotions

I meant unwanted emotions like damaged emotions

Answer 1

Stop thinking. Each time you think you create an emotional state. Repetition of unpleasant emotions is a reflection of what we think about and how frequently.

Learning to be silent internally is the fastest and most efficient way to end the cycle of unpleasant emotional states.

Each time you analyze something, you are creating a state of mind that will likely be unpleasant. Thinking of what others have done, why they did it, how they did, when they did it, will leads to some very unpleasant states.

Unpleasant emotions become a choice when you learn to silence the mind.

Answer 2

Except for a couple of suggestions, you've gotten lousy advice.

No, we don't let go of these unwanted emotions if they were not allowed full expression and validation in childhood. We store them as beliefs about the world which will trigger repeats of the same experience and misery throughout our life.

There are several steps.

1. Accept that YOU are not your thoughts and feelings, YOU are the OBSERVER of them, (It sounds like you have a start on that already) but they have to be FELT and validated and examined as to source and reframed to disappear. All learned egos are the same - they are defensive survival patterns that form before we are able to rationally understand what is happening.

2. Everytime you notice the beginning of the feeling - grab it, focus on it, and notice what it causes in the body - EXACTLY - pressure on the chest? in the head? how big is the feeling. Examine it thoroughly, amplify the feeling as much as possible and when you can't stand it anymore, say a phrase like "Relax and let it go"...breathing out. Repeat this until it dissipates from the body, THEN start again, inhale, recall the feeling, amplify it and repeat the process. Over time you will notice that you cannot repeat the original intensity. A fully expressed and validated feeling cannot maintain itself.

3. Search your mind for the earliest experience of the feeling to identify first cause, notice how it has remained with you. Know that it is body chemistry and brain patterns that are retriggered causing the unwanted feeling. The child's original interpretation is in error. Remember the incident/s in the light of present adult reasoning. It is possible to do this without external assistance, like taking the part of the childish ego by the hand and entering the memory together. NLP is also a powerful tool for reframing and eliminating these fears and attachments that are harmful.

We cannot experience full aliveness, bliss, or real joy while the learned ego controls our thoughts, feelings, perceptions and experience. It is no more that lousy software causing a system crash. It has to be dumped.

Answer 3

First, there is no such thing as 'damaged emotions.' You might be talking about a painful memory which triggers negative emotions.

Everyone has the ability to repress an uncomfortable memory. That's when you simply convince yourself it never happened. I'm not sure that is healthy.

Something you can do, that people with phobias do, is continually expose yourself to the thing that makes you upset until you no longer get upset.

You could also try 'accepting' the negative emotions when they come and processing them quickly. Let them impare you for a couple minutes but get over them quickly.

Another thing that might work is to go find a bunch of things to do that make you happy. Do them a lot and the thing you feel bad about won't seem so bad.

Answer 4

The human mind has no limit yet even the smartest genius Around uses only 4% of his mind.. just 2% more then eeryday people.

It means to use your "will power" if you may call it that, to hide or shy away from any emotion/event... or an emotional event that may have caused you distress..

If you want that to happen bad enough its supposdly said that your mind will clear that thought and store it in the unconscious. Although the irony here is that some things and events in our life are already hidden away in the unconscious from when we were kids because we desired for them to do so, thats why we can't remember most of the things

This is however from a philosophical/psychological perspective... Bio plays a role too

Hope I helped

Answer 5

LOL- I think what you have "heard" is an oversimplification to the point of bad data. Emotions are an integral part of humans. Logic is rational and analyzable. Both have their proper place in life. The trick is how to balance the two.
Even anger has a valid place in life, in certain circumstances. But neither emotion OR logic should take over to the exclusion of the other.

Answer 6

Hi Me, The way we look at life, the depth of emotion we have are fairly consistent from early in life. When we are having a tough time with anger, we have to essentially talk to ourselves about it. Say, "Okay, am I over reacting? Could I use a walk around the block? Calm down. You can think of better ideas than this. Relax." Those are the kinds of things I use. I'm better at it now; I used to not be able to let go of my emotions at all.
As you work at it, you are training yourself to have better self control. That's success. Good luck.

Answer 7

The ultimate goal is to "control" your negative emotions. Make a conscientious effort to remember with your mind but not with your heart so that with time the unwanted thoughts will diminish until they subside into memories that can no longer cause pain or distress. This takes time and real determination but it can be done if you refuse to give up.

Instead of allowing your emotions to take control of you, YOU take control of your emotions.

Answer 8

very good question, but I believe I have the answer, you don't necessarily want to let go of you're emotions after all that's what makes you in the first place, but what you could do to better yourself would be to enhance the positive emotions such as pacience, compassion, understanding and let go of the anger, jeoulousy and attachment. Say you're angry at someone but lets dealve deeper into why you're really angry, you can probably connect it to attachment jeolously and all sorts of other negative things, also theres a good site you might want to try it is a buddhist site : www.buddhism.kalachakranet.org

Answer 9

Just because an emotion is unwanted doesn't make it invalid or unnecessary. We learn alot from our emotions, good and bad. How I control it or let it go is realize the learning experience and to be open to the results. The more you realize what makes you feel bad the easier it is to realize what makes you happy, and visa versa.

Answer 10

When you decide in your mind that you ARE able to separate yourself from your emotions then you can let them go. I have a Master's in Counseling and I always tell clients that we have the power to allow situations and people to affect us...we cannot control them, but we CAN control ourselves. Sometimes it helps to actually VISUALIZE your emotions leaving you or you can take a piece of paper and have it represent that unwanted emotion, crumble it up and throw it in the garbage. You can take deep breaths and release them as a way of "releasing" that emotion...if you want further info, contact me.