We are 2 months pregnant ... he has never done cart wheels about this even though we planned it. He has announced it to EVERYONE, but at times he seems exhausted by it, which makes me feel alone. He seems more irritable, which makes me sad. Is this normal for a first time dad?
2007-06-04 11:45:53 · 17 answers · asked by Happy Girl 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think he is worry
give him a chance, we are able to deal with this much better than they are
some men do not express well their feeling
so try to mention the baby a little less because he knows that it there, he is probably worry that he will not matter anymore he will come aroundGood luck & Congrats
2007-06-04 12:22:39 · answer #1 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so very sorry for you loss. Losing a twin is a unique and tragic thing. I don't want to lie to you - it depends on how long the baby is carried, conditions in the womb, if there was infection, etc. It does NOT always look like a normal baby. The skin may be very fragile and red and peeling. There may be a lot of bruising. But you need to focus on the baby as a whole, the fact that this is your child, it has hair, fingers, toes, lips, ears, etc. If you're afraid, you can have your nurse describe your baby's appearance to you before handing him/her over to you to hold. Best of luck, and again, I am so very sorry.
2016-05-21 05:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be any number of things. He may be worried or second-guessing his skills as a father, and may need some reassurance in that area. He may not be consciously thinking about it, but he could be experiencing a feeling of lost independence. Who knows.
Men are just as complex as women -- we've all been carrying out roles which have existed for thousands of years. My best guess (it's very difficult to provide an answer to a question such as this) is that one of the more difficult things he's facing, whether he realizes it or not, is making a new routine for himself. His reality is and will be changing drastically, and it may be a while before he eventually reaches a new stage of normality. Ask him questions, and reassure him as to his skills as a father. This is just a new step for you two.
When it comes down to the wire, is there anyone who is actually 100% ready to have a child?
I'd say it's normal, and not abnormal. People react differently to new experiences, stress, plans, etc. Remember that whatever his behavior may indicate, it's not his fault, or yours or anyone's. He's simply adapting to a new lifestyle.
Take care, and best of luck.
Cheers,
~H.
2007-06-04 12:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by hbomb8404 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My "fiance" acted the same way for the first couple of months of pregnancy. He actually got to the point to where he was MIA for awhile, I would see him one day out of maybe 2 to 3 weeks. I am now almost 6 months pregnant and he has just started coming back around. He and I moved back in with each other, he is more involved, he speaks to his unborn daughter....it's the way it should have been from the beginning.
For first time fathers, they don't know how to act, they don't understand and on top of that, we are so much more sensitive to things which makes him feel even more out of place. He'll come around. I know right now you feel alone and so forth, but trust me, don't let that ruin your experience of being pregnant! My babys father and I still have our ups and downs but it's getting better......you two are trasforming into parents, it's a big step, although he is happy he is scared. He might have the fear that he won't be a good provider, a good father or even a good support system for you...give him a little time......I know it's not fair, trust me, but try and stay in good spirits..
2007-06-04 12:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by oOoLaLaiTzSina 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's common. Most men live in a bubble where it's fun to TTC because in the back of their mind they don't see it ever actually making a baby. They just see it as an excuse for more sex. Then after they find out their wife is pregnant they get scared! They don't want to hurt you, they don't want to hurt the baby, they get afraid that they won't be a good dad. They fear they won't be able to support the child through college. You'd be surprised what they think up. My husband NEVER got excited about any of our babies.....he's just not that kind of guy and it does hurt because I would have loved for him to just be soooo friggen happy he could explode just once, but the best I ever got is "eh, are you sure you took the test right" and "there goes early retirement" That's just how they think. It does get a little better has the babies get older....usually once they start walking and starting to talk and your husband feels like they aren't going to break....then he'll loosen up and be "fun dad" once in awhile, but for us, it repeats with each baby...
2007-06-04 12:01:35 · answer #5 · answered by Heavenly Advocate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah. He may be happy about becoming a dad but Im sure he's nervous. Its a huge thing and he's new at it. Dont you feel a little nervous?
Also, you are probably getting loads of attention, while he's probably getting none. If youve had morning sickness, he's probably had to be very compassionate towards you, always trying to keep you comfortable. Cut him some slack, he'll be fine and I bet he's going to love hearing the baby's heartbeat and seeing his lil one kicking on the ultrasound. Gl!
2007-06-04 11:51:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No this is not normal, it means he is worrying about something, So you need to sit Him down and ask Him what it is, And what ever it is reassure Him all will be OK , Tell Him how you are feeling so this can be a Great joy for the both of you.And work out what ever it is, He is scared, they all are, You have to reassure them that God will see you through anything you face If you ask Him to...But you need to go to your Man and Talk to Him if you cant then Why did you marry someone you cant talk to...See what I mean, Its called grown up.Face what you are dealing with instead of running from it. face head own and ask Him Baby something bothering you don't give Him time to say nothing and say I know their is, So lets hear whats bothering you. And what ever it is face it and reassure your Man All will work out...God Bless your Family.And congratulation own your Baby , your blessing From God...A family that prays together will stay together...
2007-06-04 12:20:10 · answer #7 · answered by patricia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure it is. He's probably just overwhelmed right now. He's excited about it on one hand, but on the other...he's thinking 'What if I have a son? Will I be a good father? Will we have a good relationship? What if it's a girl? Boys calling...day care...college?' It's a lot to comprehend at once. He'll get it figured out. Don't worry. Just encourage him to talk.
2007-06-04 11:50:20 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
usual it is
its a mix up of excitement and fear cause not only has he 2 care for u he also has a baby just like ur self u will probally feel like ur happy but then not its all bout mixed feelin especailly during the first or 2nd trisemeter just ask him 2 come with u 2 ur apts once he see or hears the baby he might change my man did sort of
2007-06-04 11:57:21 · answer #9 · answered by mummy of 2gorgeous boys 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its just you. Your hormones are running wild and U R very sensitive right now. I have been married for 12 happy years and we have 4 kids and he was very excited all four times! Was he a "lovey-dovey" type husband before the marriage? Don't go making problems!!
2007-06-04 11:58:21 · answer #10 · answered by dookiebirdjb 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋