I have no patience..?

Question

I have grown up around a VERY tempermental father and a neglectiv emother. I have ZERO patience left and it seems like the littlest thing cna completely change my mood from good to bad. How cna I learn to be more patient?

Answer 1

Well, the moral of the story is that you learned the very temperamental behavior you disliked in your father. Whatsoever you teach the young ones will be done unto you can be said now to your dad.
All is not lost since it seems you have this inbuilt "Hey wait a minute this is not right" left over sense in you.
How can you "unlearn" the very impatient ways you were treated when you were growing up? Teach yourself.
or surround yourself consciously with people unlike you.
Find a mate or a spouse who is your opposite, and let him or her heal your psyche.
Watch and learn from animals on how they work very hard to bring morsels of food into their hive or nest. They dont sweat the small stuff.
Separate what is truly important to you from the fluff we are made to think and believe is important.

Answer 2

The great thing about being an adult is that we get to "choose" the person we want to be. Your lack of patience is your power over others. You are choosing to be that person. For whatever reason your ground zero comes quicker than most. You probably have gotten the release you need from such an action. It gives you something you desire or you wouldn't do it anymore. Dr. Phil and just about everyone says that we "make a choice" at the moment it happens to behave any way we want. The reason I know this is true is because if the President walked in would your reaction be the same? Probably not. It's time you respect yourself the same way you'd respect someone else. Once you do that you'll act like an adult and stop throwing immature temper tantrums.

Answer 3

A good way to start, is to really think about what might be happening at that moment, really think about what is exactly happening and ask yourself if it is really that important enough to get upset about? Sometimes just by being tired, you can be short with people, or just not able to take in all the information at that time. Just walk away at that moment and calm yourself down, then sit down and listen and try to be patience with whom-ever you are talking with. Many times people just want someone to listen to them, and a lot of the times, they really don't have much to say, they just need to vent.
Just learn how to listen to people without letting your thoughts jump in...just relax and don't take what they are saying so seriously.

Answer 4

Remember that emotions come and go...often your feelings will change in a matter of minutes, as well as situations. Just like your mood can go from good to bad, it can go back to good in a short period. It's the same w/ situations. You have control of your feelings and the outlook in any situation.

It's one thing to be inpatient. It's another thing to act upon it and regret it later. Let yourself feel it and try to distract yourself. Think of it as some sort of emotional "episode" that you just need to ride. Once it subsides, I'd suggest you dissect the trigger and if you getting inpatient really was warranted.

Answer 5

Try all the things that anger management people do to calm down- counting to ten, stepping away from the situation, reminding yourself that, in the long run, getting nervous about stupid stuff just leaves you with heart trouble and ulcers. Think about how your moods effect others, and then try to act.
In other words, think before you act.

Answer 6

What everyone said is good and well. But I'd also like to say don't blame it on others. You're impatient cuz you want to be. Next time it happens, ask yourself have you ever done somehting like that and try to understand that there can be a fine explanation. Then accept it and move on.

Answer 7

There is no magic wand, but certainly some mental excercise will do. Always...............count to ten before you do or say anything you feel will hurt someone.

I have been happily married for 20 years now. During our first heated discussion with my wife, we agreed that we would never go to sleep until we resolved our differences. It has worked wonders.
Learn to listen and you will learn to speak. Learn to listen and you will learn to understand people.

Good luck.

Answer 8

Think before you act out, take a few minutes out if you have to. The most important thing you must do is listen, understand the problem then try to work things out, whatever you do don't raise your voice cause that will make things wrose.

Answer 9

If you're a young adult, it's just puberty. It's natural for teenagers pregnant women, and overly stressed people to have short fuses. Just try to take some time each day to relax. Things will get good again.

Answer 10

The less we "expect" from others and life in general the more patient we seem to become. High expectations of others almost always leads to impatience and frustration.