hes inconsiderate judges lazy disrespectful and selfish and he takes fits and all eats all food his own and me and hubbys.hes in couseloring how i get him to be honest hes issue to his counselor and all and he keeps telling me my hubby and my mom he will change and likes us and likes it here .me and my hubby want to try to make this work hes around 24/7 he dont get out also to do his own thing and do something with his life and dont offer and just dont do stuff inless asked and he is lazy inconsiderate uncalled for selfish and a slob he lies to my mom his counselor about what is going on all explaining herehe claims he is gonna change and likes it here til he can start showing and proving none of us believe him anymore. and he is borderline personality disorder seems its the issue but not a good excuse he never sleeps much and I take same night medication as him and I sleep all of the night. how do we also get him to be honest and do what he needs to do for himself and help himself.
2007-06-04 10:51:48 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Guys will never change unless it's for THEIR benefit.
Don't waste any more time waiting for him to change.
2007-06-04 11:02:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 22:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this guy a blood relative that you feel you owe him a place in your home and lives? If he isn't, it's time to stop enabling his behaviors and tell him to get out. Many emotional manipulators, like this guy, will say anything to get you to let them continue to suck you dry, and they know just how to push your buttons. Until you wake up and make this guy take responsibility for himself, he has no reason to change his behaviors does he. I'd tell him you've had enough of his bs and he has to pack his bags and hit the road, NOW. Not tomorrow, not after dinner, pack and go now. Where he goes, and what he does isn't your problem, it's his, and it's high time he took care of himself.
2007-06-04 11:06:03 · answer #3 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have borderline personality disorder as well. I do have sleeping issues. He may be going through a period of emptiness, where he can't feel anything, so nothing matters really anymore.
The best thing would be for you to sit and talk with him. Not with your husband and your mother, he may feel cornered and ganged-up on, which will make him defensive and not listen to anything but how to get out of the situation. If he doesn't have a job, ask him to get one. Ask him what he likes to do. If you and your husband go out, invite him along. Knowing how I get, if people don't invite me when they go out, I figure they don't like me around and also feel very alienated around those people.
Instead of asking him to clean the kitchen, ask if he would help you with it. That way you're not throwing the whole task on him, once again not feeling dumped on.
If you have anymore questions, just email me.
2007-06-04 10:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he's got to want to change.......plus, criticism reflects on parts of you that you dislike.
2007-06-04 10:56:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋