I'm gonna go crazy worrying and analyzing the way things could have been or what I could have done to protect her... My baby sis Katy passed away a few weeks ago and just turned 19 1 week before...
2007-06-04 09:43:25 · 20 answers · asked by bspitz89 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Sorry to hear of your loss, I lost my baby brother a year and a half ago and I know how much it hurts. I am not going to lie it will hurt for a long time and you wil go thru so many different stages. All I can tell you is to allow yourself to go thru each emotion, remember and hold on to the good times and know in your heart how much she loved you and would not want you to hurt. Keep busy as much as you it helps. If you ever want to chat you can email me at tritanbear@yahoo.com. And what your going thru right now is normal and will drive you crazy. Even now I do it, wondering what he would have done with his life, missing him on holidays. feeling bad about all he missed. He was 22 years old and like your sister had a whole life ahead of him. There is so much to question. But cry when you need to and keep busy with whatever you can.
2007-06-04 09:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by TritanBear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know what I can tell you to help you cope witht he loss,
but what I can tell you is don't go down the same path I did.
I lost a friend to suicide, and then another in a car accident a few months later, and I'm probaly going to lose another to a heart condition, and ANOTHER, because the guy she loves is dying from a tumor the doctors can't get to, so she'll probaly end up killing herself.
I went upon everything wrong. I got into drugs and drinking, and then when that didn;t work, I resorted to cutting.
The best decision I can think of is to talk to someone.
Not a therapist, cause they will stress you out even more.
Talk to somebody you don't really know, that has been through the same thing. Somebody over the internet you've never met before.
If you would like to talk to me,
my email is blackcherry1122@yahoo.com
Feel free to email me,
I will always reply.
2007-06-04 09:51:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We lost a sister very unexpectedly about 3 years ago (she was a vital 40 year old) and to be honest, it hurt so bad that I became depressed and lost my job. It does get better over time, but the hurt is still always there, especially if it was someone you would have never in a million years expected to go before you. We still talk about her a lot and remember the good times whenever possible, but it will be awhile before you stop having that deep down pain. Sorry for your loss, and remember, it does get better to bear with time.
2007-06-04 09:49:48 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I do not have any coping skills to give you. I lost my father and a friend told me to give it time and that the things that make you cry today will someday make you smile. It is true but that took awhile. Perhaps you could lean on someone close and you trust to talk to. May your heart get lighter, your eyes clearer and your song louder soon.
2007-06-04 09:49:27 · answer #4 · answered by sideways 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain is a natural part of the process. It shows the love that you shared for this person and how much you will miss her. Keep in mind that all the crying and guilt you may feel, cannot undo what has been done. You have to accept the fact that it was what it was.....an accident. You, your daughter, no one is at fault. Know that the pain will pass. You do have to spend your time greiving. But you also have to continue with your life/lives. Make your peace with her, make your peace with yourselves, then continue with your life. She still lives through you because she is a part of you. That cannot ever be changed.
2016-05-21 04:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A death in the family is always hard. People can always ask why did it happen and what they could have done to prevent it, but in truth there was and never is anything you could have done to prevent it. You can only remember her and she wouldn't want you to go crazy over her death would she? She loves you and she would want you to live for her. You did notheing wrong, you couldn't have done anything to prevent it. Try talking to God... It might help to just talk without being afraid to say anything that might seem wrong.
2007-06-04 09:52:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No worrying or analyzing what if, will help. Just go thru your grieving process, with time your pain will be less. No matter how much we do to protect our loved ones, when it's their time, nothing can stop it, no matter what. Stop beating your self up and remember the years you had with her. It's so sad, that she had to pass so young, but God had bigger and better plans for her. I'm so sorry for your loss.....
2007-06-04 09:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by P-Nut 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My twin died when we were 15 it sucks. No question about it. Everyone has their own way to handle pain.... honestly there is a void that is seemingly impossible to fill. You'll always wonder what could have been and cry about what was. You can immerse yourself in other things to forget (which I did) or you can deal with it as it is. Just don't let it hold you back.
2007-06-04 09:46:18 · answer #8 · answered by Lexy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what happened dude, was there something you could have realistically done to protect her...I mean was she beaten and shot at your party or something? Or do you mean in another way? Regardless I feel for ya. You have my condolences. I'd suggest you talk to your clergyman...and drinking heavily for a coupple weeks probably wouldn't hurt either.
2007-06-04 09:48:47 · answer #9 · answered by Steelhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every one copes with death in a different way. i am sorry to hear about your sis passing away. all i can say to you is she is in a better place now. i hope you feel better soon.
2007-06-04 09:48:41 · answer #10 · answered by the1lioness1queen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋