What are side effects of just living together?

Question

legal? trust? respect? money?

Answer 1

all of the above.
1. you don't get to be on his health insurance.
2. you don't get any money, property, or personal belongings if something happens to him.
3.If you have children, they will not be legitimate airs
oh and remember the old saying..."why buy the cow, when you're getting the milk for free".

Answer 2

There is a legal issue, but it can be gotten around in some cases. The legal issue is simply that without a legal document saying you are a couple, then one of you can theoretically just walk out and leave you with all the debts and bills. Although you can be committed to one another without being married, and marriages don't always work anyway, either way you are committed. If one of you leaves, the other naturally might expect damages or support. It is possible, though much harder, to get what you deserve if you just live together if you can prove some kind of common law partnership, but it is very difficult. That is the nice thing about marriage: you are legally bound. No excuses. Of course, that goes both ways. YOU can't just walk out without legal ramifications, either!

Answer 3

Risks:
1. You may be less inclined to get married since after a few months you will simply view marriage as nothing more than a name-change and some a way to get tax-benefits

2. The "thrill" of marriage will be missing once you finally do make it happen (if that day arrives). In other words, the phrase "the honeymoon is over" will probably ring true before the honeymoon ever occurs

3. If a break-up occurs, one of you two will get burned with a lease, bills, other expenses that the other believes are not his/her problem

4. Much more difficult to exit out of the relationship. You may wind up sticking with someone out of convenience or to avoid the earth-shattering event of a break-up within shared residence. This is in my opinion the biggest negative side-effect

Note that you may be able to share a lease so both names are attached, and to avoid problems with bills might be good to each have a few put in your names (i.e. you take Water, Electricity; your b/f takes cable, phone, gas in his name).

Also some companies will provide your boyfriend/girlfriend with health coverage as a "Domestic Partner" if you claim same residence and have a shared credit card or bank account, my company offers this which has been convenient

Answer 4

Now what are we talking about here? Are you engaged and planning to live happily ever after together as soon as the special date rolls around? Then I say go for it. When I moved to Greensboro to be near my husband (fiance at the time) we wern't getting married for 9 months. I didnt want to get a roommate for that time, but I couldnt afford a nice place until time to move in togther. So he was my roomie (best roomie I have ever had). Everything worked out great, but I already had a ring on my finger and a wedding dress in my closet. We were just killing time until the wedding got here. It was great, but it wasn't always easy. I understand why traditionally you are supose to wait until AFTER the marriage to move in. We would get into these little arguments over nothing and it would run through my head "I could just walk out right now, I mean we arnt really married. I just live here." After we were married I would think "well we are married now. I better talk some sense into his thick head cuz I got to live with him for a long time" It's a totally different mind set. More willing to work through the problem then leave out. It's like your escape route is cut off so you gotta sit down and work it out.

If we are talking about living together with a guy you are just dating then I don't think it is a good plan for all the reasons listed above. I say get the ring on your finger, set the date, and then start combining housholds a few months early if you want.. Just be smart about it.

Oh, and another thing about living together, although I didn't care, my boss really didnt like the idea of living in sin. She would change the subject when I brought it up. She once pulled me aside and told me not to tell the clients I live with someone I am not married to. It was bad for business. I know it's silly, but some people care about that kind of thing.

Answer 5

This is up to you and your partner to work out. You both have to find what works for the both of you in the relationship. You need to be talking to your partner about any concerns you have about the relationship and negotiate what you want and also what your partner wants, like who pays the bills,cleaning the house or apartment, your needs, his needs, and so on.It can work as long as you both are on the same wave length and you both work together. All the best :)

Answer 6

My husband and I lived together before we got married. It worked great for us. We figured out how to save and spend together, how to solve problems without screaming at each other. I loved it!

Answer 7

well we've only just lived together for ...about......4 months now, so I cant tell you alltogether yet, but so far the hardest thing is getting used to each others habits and working out who is responsible for what as far as cleaning and keeping up the household.

Answer 8

If you can both be adults and do your finances and such with the idea that things could eventually end (and on a bad note at that), then you should be fine.

Answer 9

i dont know about any side effects, but, if your living together to see how a person is before you marry them, dont waste your time...... you never know a person until after you actually marry them. and then again, i dont think you ever REALLY know anyone.

Answer 10

Speaking from experience, none that I can think of.

Unless one of you is a total slob or ultra up tight neat freak.