Dont drive 40 miles to see him, meet at a mutual place, and if he offers you an "opporunity", just change the subject. If you still upset with him, I think you should be honest, and ask him why he didnt contact you (but dont come off as really rude). I've been there, in my situation, I just stopped communicating with my friend I always had to revolve her but nvr made time for me until she had something nice to share in her life. It was very annoying how self-involved my friend was. Anyway, best of luck, if it doesnt work out, you have nothing to lose cuz its already been 16 yrs.
2007-06-04 09:14:50
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answered by Its me again 5
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It sounds like you are not really vested in this friendship; you sound bitter that he blew you off after college and didn't try to contact you sooner than he did. So there is resentment already brewing on your part, which is natural. If you go and he pitches you, you will feel hurt and burned again. I say give him a call and tell him you can't make it, don't lie by giving a lame excuse, you just can't make it. Tell him you understand that he is working this scheme and if that's what he wants to talk about you're not interested. Tell him you would, however, like to meet to rehash old times and renew your friendship, if he is interested. Be honest and upfront with him. You have nothing to lose. Good luck!
2007-06-04 09:18:08
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answered by gma 7
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I probably wouldn't go. I agree that if you do, you'll probably be sitting through a sales pitch. Funny that he contacts you now ya know? Just tell him that something came up and if he's interested, stay in touch via email or phone calls and see if he sticks around to pursue the friendship.
2007-06-04 09:15:34
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answered by Anonymous
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I know what you mean. I think in your place I would blow him off and in a very simple way: not showing up but without a previous call to let him know I won't be there. If you just blow him off without a call he will get the message and he will know he can't use you and he won't call again. If you call him to give him a excuse he will try to schedule so the best thing is not showing up and not calling. It is rude but he deserves this for trying to use you.
2007-06-04 09:14:51
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answered by C6 7
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Make him come to you. Don't drive for him. He blew you off, blow him off. And tell him the truth. It is good to see you after so long. I just wish it were on different terms, and you are not interested in whatever he is there to sell, unless that is really what you are looking for.
2007-06-04 09:14:33
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answered by ftank47 2
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I'd go, let him start the pitch, and then be upfront.
"You know, I was really excited to catch up with you, and find out how you were doing. This thing sounds like Amway, and I am definitely not interested. It was great to see you, hope your family's doing ok, y'all take care!"
You'll be the bigger person.
2007-06-04 09:13:22
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answered by sacanda_trina 4
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He has alliterative motives, your right not to go meet with him, avoid him, tell him something came up, if your gut tells ya to stay clear do it. good luck.
2007-06-04 09:17:44
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answered by TaGIT 2
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