Ending a friendship?

Question

My friend bethany, we are bestfriends, and it seems to be harder and harder to be her friend. We get in fights just about monthly, and it's annoying. usually the fights start when she calls me out for doing something wrong. we get into a fight, until i decide to call her out on something that she constantly does wrong, and then she eigher yells and hangs up, walks away or signs off IM. She likes to get everyone on her side (though it doesn't always work). All of my best friends are her bestfriends. When she gets in a fight with me, they tend to side with her because she is very intimidating (she makes fun of people even though you can tell that is just is because she has aserious problem with her weight issues and stuff like that) . I am very worried and i am wondering how to end a friend ship with out ending all the other friendships that i have too. i am very sad and really need help ***please please***

Answer 1

Been there dear...more than once. Do yourself a favor and makes yourself less available, if not scarce when she wants to get together. You two need some "time out" and away from each other. Must you always socialize in the "group" ??? -Or do you find it possible to simply ask one of the "best" friend's to do something else with you APART from the "gang". Once you figure this out dear, you'll be miles ahead in dealing with others and conflict - so learn it now. YOU CAN'T BE BEST FRIENDS WITH EVERYONE FOR EVER...at some point, we drop people along the way, make new friends - particularly, as I say, when there is such conflict.

Don't be sad about this honey, really...consider it a life experience most of us go through at least once or twice if not more in a lifetime. You two need a break from one another - who knows? Maybe you've "outgrown" her and that's what this is all about, you just can't stand the bickering anymore and have less and less in common as you get older and are starting to recognize it.

Take rein of your life dear, to have a friend you must be one - so move on and find another in your group OR outside it and start a new friendship, one that isn't based on bickering and nitpicking.

Goodluck.

Grace

Answer 2

this friendship is not healthy...
if you feel sad every month as a result, then end it.

make new friends, then replace all the time you had with bethany by spending time with them...
the only way she'll learn to not treat you that way is to cut off her social oppurtunites.

as for your other current friends, if they side with her, then forget about them...
friends are supposed to be there for you, and they can't be spineless when the first sign of conflict arises...
good luck.

Answer 3

in that situation myself. like sid earlier, dont be avaliable. answer your phone rarely, stop answering emails, and trry to avoid her when you can, and tell people that you've grown apart, and that you've outgrown each other. or start a really big fight that makes her look baad, and lets you keep your frineds. that's plan B.