were u ever molested as a child....and if so ...how has it effected you now as an adult?
I was....and now that i'm an adult and have finally told ppl....i feel that they judge everything i do based on what happened to me as a child...........
2007-06-04 07:26:08 · 14 answers · asked by Poosocks 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
THank You butterfly......you are a true hero in my eyes :)
2007-06-04 07:35:51 · update #1
yes I was and i believe it made me who I am today. I became a social worker for child protective services and investigated child abuse and neglect. Every time I intervene in a case I know I'm helping a child from being further abused. Many people do not realize how being molested shapes who we become. A person can "deal" with the abuse, learn to forget it most of the time, but we have no control over how it affects us and that is the lifelong effect it leaves.
2007-06-04 07:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
No, not I but I do work with children who have been abused.
I think that it is true, people probably do relate things about you to that part of your history, but with good reason and not to be judgmental but to help figure out why you do the things you do. I am assuming the things you are feeling judged for are not positive traits, because you probably wouldn’t be bothered by compliments. It would be ignorant of us to assume that things of our past (childhood) don't effect who we are today. It may not be a totally direct effect, but all we are is a sum of our past experiences. So maybe it does affect you, but not any more or less than other things /experiences from your childhood. And most people want to help others, and so I think that by doing this (relating things to your past) they are trying to help and effect change. I'm not saying it’s the best way to go about it, but it’s the first approach most people take. Have you never thought something similar about anyone else? For an example: “He’s a mama’s boy because his mother did everything for him when he was growing up.” Now when you’re talking about something as significant as sexual abuse, there’s no doubt that people would or should think this. My question to you is, do you feel that there is nothing about your personality that has been formed or came from that experience you had? I can see that it may be upsetting to you for people to think this, but know that it is not out of disgust or distain for you; I believe it is out of concern, which is a feeling born from caring for someone. I suggest not focusing on what others think about your past and why you do what you do; but to focus on making positive change in your personality to be the best person you can be today and in the future.
P.S. Please don’t feel judged, you asked my opinion and I gave it.
2007-06-04 14:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Awwww, I'm so sorry to hear that. Both that you were molested and that it's affecting you now. I was raped at 13 and I still think about it a lot. Not the rape itself, but it just made me a more vulnerable, sad person. I wonder what kind of person I'd have been if that had never happened to me. Hang in there. You are certainly not alone.
2007-06-04 14:30:22 · answer #3 · answered by Haylebird 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I was for 10 years of my life. My step father is now in prison and yes it is very hard to function as an adult especially in relationships but if you ever need someone to talk to, e-mail me and I will give you my real e-mail address. It is something you can put in the back of your mind but unfortuanatly you will never forget. I deal with it on a daily basis. Hopefuly you can find something that can help.
2007-06-04 14:33:26 · answer #4 · answered by jen123 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
aww.im sorry, but no i havn't.
im glad that you told people about it to let it out so they know what you've been through. they probably do judge a lot of the things based on what happened to you as a child becuase they might feel uncomfotable about it. they will get used to it and soon everything will go back to normal how you were before you let out your secret.
2007-06-04 14:32:01 · answer #5 · answered by nikki! 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
yes by my foster dad, when told on him i was called a liar, i couldn't let that bastard come in my room any more so i ran away from there , i lived on the streets for nearly 3 years , i think it has made me a very Strong person and i dont take things for granted!
2007-06-04 14:59:37 · answer #6 · answered by whisper 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
some people feel the need to have a reason to judge others
most do not, i am very sorry what has happened to you.
you sound strong now, well done to you
2007-06-04 14:30:56 · answer #7 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I can't relate, but I do feel for those who were. To all the Dr. Phils in the world...I say, " Piss-off"!!!
2007-06-04 22:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by chris j 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nop
2007-06-04 14:29:07 · answer #9 · answered by Hippie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
thankfully no I never was. My sympathies to you
2007-06-04 14:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by Raistlin 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋