what makes gay so bad?

Question

me and my friends were talking at school today, but they then started talking about a gay person they saw in the newspaper ( i think someone from little britain?) and started talking about what a f._._ he is..

i'm not gay, i'm straight, but i don't see what makes gay people so bad? it's not normal.. but that doesn't make it horrible?

i tried looking at Lev in the bible.. but have you seen some of the stuff thats written there? like keeping slaves is ok as long as they are from a closeby country, and people who can't see well can't go to god..

i'm not gay, and i don't want to be gay, i'm not repressed, stop making things up.

it's not the character in the show, but the actor who plays him, he's actually gay.

mystine if it's not a choice, how can you "change" and be homosexual because you hate the other sex?

Pixie, if god made adam and steve, then wouldn't that mean the entire human race is born out of incest?

Gommarah wasn't destroyed because it was homosexual, you left out th epart about the guy being incestual with his daughters, offering his virgin daughters to an unruly mob, and the part where the mob tried to seduce an angel. it hasn't any bearing on today.

alterego i'm not homophobic.. i don't hate or fear homosexuals.

dmj, yeah, lesbians are nicer to look at...but isn't it the same concept?

Answer 1

First off, there is nothing "not-normal" about being gay, it's a natural variation.

there are a couple of reasons for people thinking it's a bad thing.

1) religion, some religions teach people to reject the idea, and then these people take it upon themselves to impose their views upon others, not all religions do it, and some (e.g, christianity) are mixed, with extremists who are all out against it, and others who are tolerant of it.

2) personal distaste.
homosexuality isn't for everyone, granted, some people dislike it, which is all fair and good, nobody's going to force them to like it, but sometimes people take it upon themselves, as above, to "crusade" against something they don't understand.

in both the above instances, people vilify it, and make it out to be "evil" or "unnatural", but that's never the case, it's natural varitation, it's a common fallacy that people "choose" to be homosexual, it's not a choice, for the large part of the LGBT community, it's just the way they developed / were born. to see some of the abuse that people suffer for their "choice" would be enough to convince all but the most ignorant of that fact.

theres one other group of people who make homosexuality to be "bad" and that is :

3) Normal people who have become brainwashed, or given in to peer pressure.
there is alot of homophobic ( the groundless hate, or fear or, homosexuality) sentiments in just about everything nowadays, from the constant mutterings of "f**" as you've mentioned, to ridiculing the idea, or giving people "equal, but different equality, aka, civil partnerships", ( which aren't really equal at all if you think about it.. everyones equal but some are more equal than others?) and people get the wrong idea, they often don't wish to be the target of this abuse ( which can be very violent in some cases) and they'll partake in it themselves to offer some sort of protection.

at the end of the day, people like different things.. but nobody asked to be gay, that's just the way people are born, so why prosecute them for that?

as for your friends.. they don't sound like the kind of people you want to hang out with, but i won't judge, but when they start talking about things like that, walk away, don't join in, because at the end of the day, most homosexual/bisexual people are innocent of all but loving someone of the same gender, and why would anyone want to attack and humiliate someone for that?

Answer 2

I live in the U.S.A. and don't get BBC America on cable, so I've never seen Little Britain, but had read a little about "the only gay in the village." Just did a Web search, and found the Wikipedia article on the character (Source below), Daffyd Thomas. Frankly, it doesn't matter that he's gay--or says he is--the important point is that he's a total prat! (If he were real, psychotherapy might help, but it's apparently not an option within that sitcom.) So if he's the character your friends were commenting on, it may not really mean much.
Of course if they go on like that about everybody who's gay, it's a different story. Prejudice is always ugly.
If you care to educate yourself, with some of the better Answers here and other online resources, you can prevent yourself from being a prejudiced ignoramus. And if you're a leader type, you can even educate some of your friends.

Answer 3

I know I completely agree
There is a cruel stigma associated with people who are gay.
OK, you have different sexual orientation - but hay does that make you a bad person? I don't think so.
I believe it is, what the person's character is like. At the end of the day, you are gay or not, who cares. People are going to move on in their lives, and hay maybe respect you more for being brave and admitting it.
It is better than lieing to yourself. Some families are very orthodox and may take a while to adjust to you - but you are still their son/daughter - and its you as a person want to know about.

Answer 4

first off being gay is normal. Homosexuality is all around you in nature, you just have to notice it. Second, I'm glad you don't have a problem with us... because we aren't horrible. :) People who don't understand homosexuality declare it horrible, because it's different, different usually equals fear. Because there isn't a ton known about why someone is born gay, people are afraid. They somehow think we have an agenda, want their kids, touch animals, etc... We aren't... We are normal people just trying to live our lives and it happens that we like the same sex. There really isn't anything wrong with that! We are good people, I wish everyone would see that... :)

Answer 5

Gay people aren't bad. The reality is that people generally need to think of someone else as being bad, so they can consider themselves as being good. Right now, the focus is on immigrants and glbt people.

It doesn't mean they are bad.. it simply means your friends aren't thinking about the words they use or how they can harm others. Think about the conversation in terms of anyone else having overheard it. Imagine one of those people was a young gay, lesbian, bi, or transgendered person.

From hearing that conversation, that person discovered others hate them, or consider them bad, not because of who they are and what they do in life,... but who they are perceived to be.. It is a form of violence against a person you don't even know.. So ask yourself.. how about walking away from that conversation, or putting a stop to it the next time.. How many times a day, do you hear someone use the word.. ***, or gay or any other word used in a conversation.. and how many times do you think it takes a person to hear those words, and the meaning behind them, to know they are not wanted.

Could you perhaps remind folks of that?

Answer 6

Take a look at the excellent chart here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale

So the theory is, hardly anyone is a perfect "0" or 100%
- "straight", or a perfect "6" - completely gay, placing most of us somewhere in between. I believe it to be very accurate even today. It's just something most people don't ever 'deal' with - namely, that difference.

In my life I see others, and even in my own life I am finding increasing evidence this is in fact, true.
(Yes, I am a perfect "6").

Answer 7

Firstly, in a group of people, individuals will always agree with the view of the majority regardless of whether or not they really agree. It takes a very brave person to speak up against a group's view about something like homosexuality.
Secondly, Who are you to say what is normal or not. It is 'normal' to gay people to fall in love, and lets not forget that is all they are doing, with a someone from their own sex.
You are homophobic, lets hope your children are not gay.
(by the way, I am straight)

Answer 8

People as a general rule are scared of things that they do not agree with or are unfamiliar with. They lash out irrationally in negative ways such as hate speech or thinking there is something "bad" about being gay. Obviously your friends do not have any Gay friends, otherwise they would not talk or think like that.

Gay lifestyle is not the norm (main part of society's lifestyle), but it is a large part of society. It is just different. Not "abnormal."

Answer 9

what defines normal?

gay is no more wrong then straight it just frieghtens more people because it's different then the majority. the majority defines normal in any given society. back in the days of the roman empire male on male sexual relations was incouraged so that the weman would remain pure for marriage. therefore in the roman society gay was normal.
besides i know a lot of christians and othe religions who are fine with female/female sexualality and encourage it when watching adult films and materails of such nature. but are openly disaproving of male/male conntact. why the double standard? because men like female/female sex it turns them on.
i don't get it either.

Answer 10

It's ignorance, pure and simple. This is one of the hates that have been passed down within families and also surprisingly, by ministers of the bible. I commend you for your wholesome attitude about this sort of thing and hope that you will always be that way.

Sexuality is assigned to a person at or before birth and that person has no control over this whatsoever. It is sad that so much discrimination exists about something that is so trivial.