Sex...how often?

Question

I know it depends on the individuals, but after 6 years of marriage how often should a couple be making love? My husband want's sex twice a day but to be quite honest I'm finding it hard to comply I'm worried that if I dont say yes he will go else where. Is he normal?

Please don't get me wrong...I do love him but I have three kids to look after (all under 5) and I'm always so tired.

Answer 1

After six years and he still wants it twice a day, You must be doing something right. In a relationship we do things from time to time just to please the other person. Take shopping for instants I don't like to shop but I do it because it makes her happy. She doesn't like to go to the races but she does because it makes me happy. so do you get the pic, yet

Answer 2

Hello Nemo, my name is Alex,

I CAN help you with this situation , no your husband is not normal for having sex more than twice a day. You need to try and comply him with different rules and results, such as making a planned "date night" making him feel more comfortable around the enviroment , and hopefully you and him will have a wonderful evening. Another thing is that try having sex not so often maybe doing it twice a week. I will tell you one thing Nemo, your husband is on a sex drive, this is one of the most complicated stages in man's life. Not only he will have good sex with you he'll want to do it more often. If the having sex twice a week plan doesn't work, then you may need to call in a professional or must I say a sex therapist this usually works out for couples who are having difficulty in their relationship having sex or too much of sex. I appreciate you Nemo for being so brave and open to the world. I hope you and your husband can work things out.

Answer 3

I met my hubby in 10th grade in highschool and we have now been married 20 years- since we were 18. We normally have sex about 6 or 7 times a week. Sometimes twice in one day and we will miss a day in between. BUT my hubby has never even tried to guilt me into it- he knows damn well if Im really tired from work that its going to be lousy anyway so why bother! Who wants pity sex????? lol He loves u and finds u desireable and wants you- thats not a bad thing- thats great! Do it as often as YOU want to do it- make the times u do totally awesome so that when u r too tired or just not in the mood he will remember when u did the last time and say- yep worth the wait! He's JUST a man so ummmm yep he is normal! Good luck to u

Answer 4

It's actually very unsual for him to go at it twice a day. Unless he likes sex that much. I am married for 3 years and 2-3 times a week is plenty. We both work and it's very exhausting after a days work to come home and do it. You need to tell your husband that he wants it too much, if he loves you he will understand. He won't go somewhere else if you are providing for him 8-10 times versus 14 times a week. Just tell him, he should understand. Be happy that after 6 years of marriage he would still want it twice a day....

Answer 5

It's not the quantity, it's the quality. One 2-3 quality session outweighs 5 quickies any day. With kids, your in the same situation as many other couples. You need to plan and make time to get close. Work on catching up on your sleep and set aside (plan) a night to fool around. If you plan it and don't get enough promised sleep to stay awake (you fall asleep again), things will only get worse.

Also, it suppose to fun and anticipated. It's suppose be pleasurable for both of you. If you look at it as just another job to check off when completed (he gets off and you just lay they thinking about your chores), there's no sense in doing it in the first place.

That's the problem these days. Husbands want to have sex and fun all of the time. Wives and girlfriends see it more as a nagging chore than for the fun. That's pretty sad in my book.

Answer 6

It's within the range of normal, though of course the "normal" range for sex can vary between several times a day and once every week or so, so that doesn't help you much. If you really can't keep up, and don't want him finding other partners, the best thing I can suggest might be to let him know that you're comfortable with him getting himself off part of the time, and make sure he has the time and space and access to whatever resources he needs to be comfortable with the idea himself.

Answer 7

At least you are caring enough to ask for advise - so here is my 2 cents:

Is there a chore that takes about as much time and energy as having sex with him? Now look for 3 or 4 of them (might as well gain a little energy back) and tell him that your compromise for this is that he takes care of these 3-4 things a day and you'll give him what he wants. Maybe it's getting the kids bath time, cleanup, putting them to bed and doing the dishes while you have a moment to sit and rest.

Answer 8

He obviously has a higher sex drive than you- and probably doesn't do enough housework- otherwise he would be as tired as you. When he gets home from work i suggest you give him some of the responsibility of looking after the kids to tire him out! Tell him you are exhausted and reach a compromise- if he looks after the kids, does the housework- sometimes you will agree to more sex- but he must learn that it is hard work being a mother and housewife.

Answer 9

On speaking to other ladies once or twice a week is normal not per day!

Men would have it every 5 mins but the struggle of working, running a household and looking after the kids is too much for modern women..

Me and my hubby have a good sex life but def not twice a day... would become monotomus after a while... at least when we do have it, it is passion filled..

You shouldnt feel that if you dont do it he will go elsewhere.. are these your fears or fears he has put in to your head!??

Answer 10

yes he is normal. i been married for 23 years now and got married at 17.

just tell him your tired and to respect that. but sex in the morning and before bed is good,

but have a day off not just when your period is on.

or try to take a bath with candles before making love to him

or put on a xxx tape or dvd and tell him your be back in 10 minutes when you come back sex wont last that long and your done. plus it might put you in the mood also.

( i do this when im not in the mood)

but if you argue about sex all the time he will look else were.

not that he don't love you but he just needs it and better for him to get it from his wife then some slutty girl out there and bring you home some diseases.

just take it easy and always take time out for yourself and you will work it out.

good luck

Mrs.Boea

Answer 11

He says twice a day. She says..? What do you think appropriate or desireable?

There is obviously a split but by how much. Too much and he looks elswhere, Not much everything OK, A bit much diff would mean -are you willing to adjust and just provide a little help for him on ocassion?

It is always nice to get a little HJ from the spouse. Do you surf porn? Do it with him and get yourself in the mood? Introduce a little toy to the party? Lot's of ways to spice it for both. Let your imagination run wild?

Old Guy