im 16 and all alone?

Question

i go to job corps and live there to and imma bout to be finish on the 27 of this month and i ask my mom if i could come home and she said no i cant she doesnt want me there cause im disrespectful but dont u think in order to get respect you have to give it cause i cant respect someone that doesnt respect me... this is my foster mom which is my dad's sister and she told that she didnt have time to deal with another kid and that she already raise her children and doesnt have time for another she adopted me when i was 4

Answer 1

If she has legal custody of you then she is responsible for you and to kick you out like that is illegal. You need to talk to the law or childrens services.

Answer 2

I take it your real parents are dead or arent fit to raise you?? Well that sucks for you but dont look for pity from other people. You have been dealt a bad card in life, so the best thing to do is look up and keep going. Your step mom seems to not have anything to do with you, I dont know the reason behind that. But the respect issue seems to be a excuse to being lazy and a total bag! Your old enough now that if you seek some type of help there are plenty of organizations and stuff that will help get on your feet and make you independant. Just remember never to take your issues out on anyone that doesnt deserve it and always be happy buddy, cause you sound like a very good person!

Answer 3

Wow - I'm really sorry to hear about your situation. That's really sad. It's shameful that your foster mom isn't taking care of you but this might also be a good time to evaluate yourself as well and how you act. I would try to locate any relatives who might be able to help. There are also local women and children shelters that will at least give you a place to sleep and food to eat. I just hope and pray you don't fall into a horrible trap that some young women do who become homeless. They sometimes end up prostituting themselves or doing drugs....I hope that doesn't happen to you. Stay strong honey. 16 is old enough to get a LEGAL job so you can take care of yourself.

Goodluck!

Answer 4

Hey Shay. I'm very sorry that you have to go through such horrible things at such a young age.
Have you ever thought of contacting a local church organization for wayward youth? Like in know in my home state we have an Organization calles Springboard. Girls form ages 13 to 18 are given a place to live with other girls their age and a Den Mother. You live in an actual house and can work and have a curfew and are taken to church and outings and treated like a real family member. This would probably open alot of doors for you too. I don't know where you live but any christian church should have some help for you, If they are a good church. Whatevr you decide to do don't let yourself be alone. It isn't safe at your age these days. I will pray for you Shay.

Answer 5

Aw Sweetie I'm Sorry...They say you need to respect before you get respected..But I understand you on this one..My Mother never respected me or my sisters...I have only seen my Mom a few times since I was 15...She was a Horrible Mother and I Still wont have her in my Life she hasn't changed...In your spot...So I went to Live with my Aunt...who already had kids 3 they still lived at home they were young but she then through everything on me and my sisters...babysitting them, cleaning the house etc etc and that went on for awhile and we felt we had to put up with it...Finally we left we had enough...We went to another relatives and finally found someplace where we felt like we belonged...and we did...Do you have somewhere else you can go another relatives?

Answer 6

I've got to tell you, when it comes to respecting other adults, yes, you have to give respect in order to get it.

In this case, though, this woman shouldn't have to earn your respect. She opened her home to you. Perhaps you could look at that as her way of respecting you.

I'd be pretty ticked off to have cared for a child who wasn't mine since she was four years old, then have to deal with her being rude, disrespectful and ungrateful.

If that answer doesn't work for you, then turn your logic around. If you treat her with respect, she probably WILL respect you.

That said, since you're still a minor, so unless you become emancipated, if you're legally adopted, she has to take you in. That's the thing about being a parent: you dont' get to stop being one when you get tired of the child's rude behavior. Legally, you have to be allowed to go home, but I still hold to my belief that if you want to be respected at home, you need to adjust your mindset.

Answer 7

I am so sorry, this really is awful. Sadly it looks like you are going to have to make it on your own. When you graduate hopefully you can get a job and see if you can't rent an apartment or something.

I'm so sorry you foster mom is being a *****.

God Bless!

Answer 8

Well if she adopted you she Is your mom not a foster mom.

Because she is your mom she deserves to have respect from you whether you think she is disrespectful of you or not. If you have been disrespectful of her in the past, she probably is protecting herself emotionally.

Answer 9

damn!! that woman's evil, does yo dad know about that if he's there? if he doesnt, tell him and if he turns a blind eye, just ignore their attitude and live on, try to build a future 4yoself, 16 is young but also a good start of being independent. Am so sorry 4 you honey but don't worry, God loves you and everyone who has responded to your question is concerned as well, you can make it!!!!! we luv you.

Answer 10

Your not alone, you'll get past this my dear. Why not try to resolve this thru a 3rd party, if your really willing to give this a go?

Good Luck!