people telling me i'm "huge" = 36 weeks?

Question

hi all, i am so annoyed! people keep asking me if i'm having twins and telling me how huge i am...like i don't know. i've outgrown even my large maternity clothes and i'm so uncomfortable. at 36 weeks i've gained 36 lbs which is just slightly above average, and i've been watching what i eat and exercising every day...but i'm just getting bigger! how do i deal with people? it's so rude! (strangers and friends/family)

Answer 1

In the last weeks of pregnancy I felt like only a tent would fit me. People would rub, poke, and pat my belly and I started to feel like a big walking uterus. The best way to handle that type of thing that I found was to keep my arms folded across the top of my belly (they fit nicely there anyway) and to back away if unwelcomed touchers came near me. Another one that I often had to deal with was people talking to my belly. Sweet as it was, after about 5 or more times a day I would lean down and say hey, I'm up here... One day I was feeling particularly large and a woman asked me if I was pregnant (me with my swollen cankles, unmistakable wobble, and generously ample belly) and I looked right at her and said NO and walked away. (OK, I waddled away...). It was mean, but I was so tired of being prodded.

Answer 2

People were telling me how big I was too, everytime someone said, "wow, you got big fast." I would just say "thanks" and that pretty much made them all feel like asses, people should know that you don't comment on a pregnant women's size let alone any women's size. Family is the worst, I stayed very distant from mine throughout my pregnancy, and just emailed and talked on the phone about my progress (if anyone wanted to know) But you can look forward to losing a lot of weight really quick, after the baby is born. My baby girl is 2weeks old and I've already lost 36 lbs. So hold your head up and stay focused on that precious little life, that's on it's way into your life. You are just fine, 36 lbs. is really good (to gain) I gained nearly 60 lbs by the end of my pregnancy! If it makes you feel any better you have every right to snap at anyone who makes you feel crappy about your self! Congrats on the baby!

Answer 3

You know what? I was 100 lbs before I got pregnant with my daughter and the day I delivered her(At 37 weeks) I was 177lb.. I got the whole thing about getting so big and it was really depressing.. Just tell yourself to be proud because you are gaining all the weight due to having a baby. I'm not sure if this is your first or not, but mine was and it made me proud to think I was changing(Wasn't comfortable about it for a long time) into being a mommy! And just think, after you have the baby you can get rid of that baby fat! It might take a while, but you'll get smaller and more comfortable with it. Good luck and hang in there.

Answer 4

Well you've gained 11 pounds over average and you'll gain about a pound a week from this point on so your total weight gain will probably be over 40 pounds total when 25 is recommended (at least that's what I recommend to all my patients, but some doctors will say that 35 is ok, but in my experience, it's not). Needless to say you're nearly 9 months pregnant and you may be carrying low which makes it look big or it could be that there's a lot of amniotic fluid in front of the baby or a myriad of other reasons. Just smile politely and tell them thanks and no, it's just one but you're due any day now (which isn't far from the truth.)

Answer 5

Its strange that people feel like you cant comment on a womans weight when shes not pregnant but when she is they have free speech with regards to her size! To be honest, I think most people dont know it can be taken as rude. Calling you huge is just commenting on what a great job your little body has done at making room for another little human. Its never meant to be an insult, if it was they just wouldnt say it. Its just an observation at the phenomenon of pregnancy. You don't sound HUGE by any means and if you are GOOD FOR YOU youre having a baby!

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I should add, that I think in the absence of having anything else to say people only can think to comment on the obvious. At 24 weeks along Im not big yet at all, i had only gained 7 lbs in my belly but I did wear this one dress that really made me look quite pregnant. A friends boyfriend seemed like he had nothing else to say and in absence of words he told me I looked like I was about to pop. AFTER 7 LBS! AND only 24 weeks! people are just awkward and dont know what to say otherwise

Answer 6

Oh honey, I am right there with you! I am 33wks and have only gained 20lbs but it's all in my stomach and I looked like I am having twins! I still have 7 wks and my mother-in-law is always saying things like, "you will never make it", "how can you possibly get any bigger" and "are you sure it's not twins". I try to just ignore them but I know it gets old REALLY FAST. I handle rude people by saying that I am sure it's one and it is going to be a big one, or I just try to think about the fact that I will lose my weight in the next two months and they won't! Hang in there you are even closer then me so Good Luck to you and your "big Healthy Baby!

Answer 7

Ignore them. .I am 35 weeks with twin boys and people have been telling me how HUGE I am and asking when I am going to pop for the past 2 months. I am only 5'1 so there isn't much room for them but out. Its okay that you are getting bigger you have a little person growing inside of you. I wish you all the luck in the world and I bet you look beautiful.

Answer 8

Just for fun, when someone asks you if you are having twins or triplets (for strangers), ask them what makes them think that you are pregnant. It throws them off guard.

For family, tell them that you are having 10, but only keeping one, and that they get to raise the rest.

As for people that touch your belly, rub theirs back. I mean, it must be a symbol of good luck or something in their culture. It would be rude not to return the gesture

Have fun with it, you only have 2-6 weeks left. Good Luck and Happy Pushing!

Answer 9

Don't be too hard on them.It's natural to try and empathize with a pregnant woman.And everyone knows there isn't a pregnant woman out there that doesn't feel huge and awkward at that stage of the game, and they are saying that to try and let you have an opportunity to talk about it! Just thank them politely for noticing and agree it's an uncomfortable time. As for the ones,not polite enough to move on at that point,You might agree with them and tell them how hard it is to keep your house vacuumed and picked up,Maybe You could stop by and help? "See Jane run, see Jane run fast!" lol...

Answer 10

Tell them that at least you have an excuse, then ask them what their excuse is. People are so rude sometimes!! I'm 36 weeks too and all I hear is, "boy, you're ready to pop!!". I'm really not that big. I've gained 35 pounds, but it's only showing my belly & chest.