2007-06-04 03:29:03 · 12 answers · asked by Gypsy Gal 6 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
Does everything boil down to MONEY?
2007-06-04 05:37:14 · update #1
I have some crazy mixed feelings about this subject. Just because it is accepted, does not mean it's right. In my opinion, why give the guy everything he wants, without the "Marriage Commitment"? I'm not saying he won't be faithful if you're not married, but I have heard numerous men say that if they were married, then they wouldn't cheat. To a woman, (at least me and my friends) we have dreamed about and planned our wedding day since we were little girls, and if we're living with a man, cooking, cleaning, doing his laundry, giving him sex, etc. Why would he need to marry us? I think people should have more respect for each other. Also, I find it odd that people say they need to live together first, to "see if it's gonna work" HELLO!!!!! What about our parents and grandparents who never lived together first, aren't they the ones celebrating their 50th wedding anniversaries with 4-9 children, and still very in love?? I believe they are. Maybe we should be more "Old fashioned" in the sense that we should learn from our parents!
On the other side of things, marriage is not something to be taken lightly! I see way too many people getting married after a few months of dating. That's crazy. How could you possibly know each other well after 4 months? Take things slow, and don't get married just because you're expecting a baby. Big mistake! If you love the person, you'll work through whatever problems arise. And not give up easily. Okay, I think I'm done now, I just thought I'd share my thoughts. =) But what do I know, I'm just a 25 yr. old single mother that has been through a lot of crap.........
2007-06-04 04:33:36 · answer #1 · answered by Happy in love! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'Society' isn't a good catch all phrase anymore. It is comprised of far too many different groups. But I do see changes and shifts in the attitude toward cohabitation as a response to the high divorce rate. Parents seem far more at ease with their children living together to 'test the waters'...rather than spend a fortune on a wedding, only to have an early divorce. Parents today are also part of the generation that started the whole movement, so difficult for them to oppose without seeming hypocritical.
2007-06-04 10:34:29 · answer #2 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I think its a good idea to have a "trial run" so to speak. If major problems develop in the relationship, then it can be ended without any paperwork or fuss.
If it looks like everything is going smooth, plan the wedding.
2007-06-04 10:38:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as the saying goes...."The state has no business in the bedrooms of the nation"
Living together is just a part of human behavior which is a universal phenomenon. But personally i'd like to get married legally...with a contract...
2007-06-04 10:41:50 · answer #4 · answered by (◕‿◕✿) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few years ago, I was totally against it, but people change, "society" changes, and now, I am living with someone, and we are not married. People I know think nothing of it, even expect it nowadays.
2007-06-04 10:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by vega_five 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they think it's better than rushing down the aisle and then living together while getting a divorce! In today's world...it's a better choice to test drive the situation.
2007-06-04 10:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by Benton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(Disclaimer: Being a male, I only venture to reflect upon my own sex. My answers need not corroborate to the other sex.)
What they actually "think":
Married ones: "Gosh!! - I wish I had done that!"
Unmarried ones: "What a perfectly sensible and exemplary thing! Why does others make such a hue and cry over this??"
What they "say to you" mostly:
- a concoction of what they think you support + 20-30% of their own opinion, mixed together.
2007-06-04 12:03:51 · answer #7 · answered by Rajarshi M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on who in the society you are referring to. Some people think it is ok. Some people do not.
2007-06-04 10:36:03 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is fine. i dont understand marrying someone you dont know in the live-in sort of way. you could have a serious clash when it comes to way of living and then where would you be?
2007-06-04 10:38:49 · answer #9 · answered by chelley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seems like no big deal these days to anyone any longer.
2007-06-04 10:36:16 · answer #10 · answered by cadaholic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋