I just found out that my ex is going through his 3rd surgery and can't walk or stand. I haven't seen him in about 5 yrs and we only email occassionall due to the anulment. I'm worried, but I don't feel its my place to find out more about what's going on. Is there something I can do to let him know I'm pulling for him, but not get too personal?
2007-06-04 03:26:00 · 10 answers · asked by twosey ♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am remarried and wouldn't want this to cause my husband any pain as well.
2007-06-04 03:26:58 · update #1
Send him a well-wishing email and let it go at that. No need to do more or get your husband upset over nothing.
2007-06-04 03:29:49 · answer #1 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband what you have heard and that you feel bad for him, then ask him to send a get well card and/or some flowers to him signed by BOTH of you (not with your handwriting on your husbands name either) that way, you sent a get well wish together, your ex will see its from both and will just appreciate the thought.
If your husband says no way, then leave it at that and next time you send him an email regarding your annulment, send a nice closing clause in your letter back wishing him a fast recovery, or whatever.
2007-06-04 10:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by avengress 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You two are still friends right? Yea, so you married him and had it anulled. I'm sure your husband knows about it and that you would still care about the guy. Find out what's going on, send him some get well gift and move on with it.
2007-06-04 10:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, I agree that you wouldn't want to do anything to ruin your marriage. How much or little you do is dependent on how you and your husband handle your ex(es). Tell your husband what you've learned about your ex, let him know that you're worried, but don't want to step out of line, but yet what to let him know that you care for him as a person.
If your husband is okay with it, then send your ex an e-mail to let him know that you're concerned about his heath, and wish him well.
2007-06-04 10:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by Tweety 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be a supportive friend, let your husband know how you feel, why you feel that way and see if he is ok with it.
If it won't be a problem in your marriage, then feel free to send a card or a small get well gift. You don't have to get overly personal to cheer someone and lend support.
2007-06-04 10:36:58 · answer #5 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is your ex, but you still care for him as a friend. Send an e-mail conveying your support, your prayers and your good wishes for his speedy recovery. You can tell your husband this, and maybe, if there is not too much baggage, you can both visit him to offer good cheer.
2007-06-04 10:39:39 · answer #6 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to let your husband find out that you know this much. If he finds out that you're thinking about your ex (even in an innocent way) and you dont tell him about it, he may be upset.
Talk to HIM about it and figure out where to go from then.
2007-06-04 10:31:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no go visit him and help him out. Just because he is your EX doesnt mean you loose complete feelings for him ( as a friend, nothing romatic) Im sure he'd really appriciate it
2007-06-04 10:47:30 · answer #8 · answered by Rebekah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Send him a card, signed by you and your husband.
2007-06-04 10:46:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave it alone all together!
2007-06-04 10:29:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋