I broke up with my boyfriend three weeks ago, because he let me down when I needed him most of all, and also because he treated me really badly. Just very insensitve, selfish and controlling person. I begged him back a few times, which further lowered my mood because he said no. It's really hard. I know he never really loved me, I know that he is SO the wrong person for me, and I know that he treated me poorly. But I miss him so much and I can't get him out of my head. My head says it's the right thing but my heart is hurting still. I have low self esteem, and am finding it hard being alone. I just don't feel strong without him.
I already spend lots of time with friends, but they're all couples and it can make me feel even worse. How long will it take to start feeling better, and does anyone have any tips to help get over this? I'm so sad and scared being alone.
2007-06-04 02:42:52 · 9 answers · asked by rollacoasta 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You sound so low. Hope I canhelp?
A person like that will never make you feel strong hun.
He does nt sound like the person you need to be with. Your feeling pretty low? Understandibly but you have to look after number one in this life and you need to cut the cord and get your life back.
Your friends Im sure are friends with you as a person not as a couple. In a few weeks or months you ll be feeling alot better and more positive.
I can empathise with you........we ve all been there. I do however, think he isnt treating you right at all.
You have already done the right thing by getting rid of him. Dont back down - the fact hes controlling, this will only feed his personality.
Dont ever beg!!!!!!!! You need to love yourself more. Try and do something that makes you feel good about yourself. Whether thats jumping around the room listening to your fav tunes very loud or just enjoying a nice bubble bath. You know what makes you feel good. Find it and use it!!!!!
Enjoy spending time in your own skin.
He does nt deserve you!!!!!!!
Your heart will heal I promise................
2007-06-04 07:09:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing! the good point in your story is that you are aware that he is not the right person for you and at least your out of it now, i know it hurts like crazy but it does get better with time, u just have to keep busy. Your friends that are in couples are probably unaware that you are feeling worse spending time with them, why don't you ask to spend time with them without their partners? Try an activity like the gym or even walking with loud music in your ears! anything to take your mind off him and you will not notice how quickly time will pass you by! organise a few girly nghts or weekends away, enjoy your newly single status!
2007-06-04 11:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by Lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In no time at all, you'll be looking back at this situation, laughing, and thanking your lucky stars that you escaped such a hopeless relationship.
No matter how bad you feel today, it's got to be better than being with someone who didn't want you.
Your self esteem will grow with each passing day. The world is now your oyster so, go for it girl - live a little; and who knows, the love of your life could be just around the corner!
2007-06-04 10:20:32 · answer #3 · answered by Dream On 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you miss the ex. just the idea of geing with someone. ask your friends to spend to spend time with you without their boyfriends. That's what friends are for anyway.It also sounds like you need some time for yourself right now anyway. Whatever your hobbies are you can find groups of people that like the same things and they get together and go out and do those things. Give that a go and you'll probably learn more about yourself, meet new friends and maybe even a good guy!! good luck sweetie!!!
2007-06-04 11:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your pain, it WILL get better, my (soon to be ex) husband was the same, he controlled me, pushed away my friends and family and made me feel so low and unloved that Christmas day I was writing goodbye notes to my family and planning my suicide, as you can see I am still here, Life goes on, one day you will hit a milestone and think, thats the last tear I shed for that man, then its time to get on with life. I found making a big change helped me, even if its something silly and trivial, my husband loved my long hair, so I had it all cut off! Made me feel great and back in control.
One day it will just hurt less, hopefully that day will be with you soon. Best of luck x
2007-06-04 10:05:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know he is not right for you, you know he has treated you badly and he wants nothing to do with you. Rejection has made you depressed and lowered your self esteem. You have to get your mind right so that you can pull yourself out of this downward spiral of destruction.
Change your outlook, with each new day repeat to yourself "I'm positive, I'm good without him" repeat this to yourself in your head as many times as needed and you'll see you will feel better in a couple of days.
Good luck.
2007-06-04 11:00:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh girlfriend, I feel ya!!! I dont have an answer Im afraid, because Im still waiting for mine to heal aswell (read my questions, I did have a good answer from a girl about my brokenheart). I find crying and thinking about his bad points is helping a bit, but I cant stop thinking about him either.
One thing that does help, is playing songs by beautiful women who've also been hurt. Im an RnB girl so Toni Braxton, Teedra Moses, Mariah, Ciara, Mary J, Beyonce etc all have songs about having a brokenheart. Its helping, but it will take time.
Good Luck for both of us!
2007-06-04 11:15:07 · answer #7 · answered by buff1ne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will heal that wound. I know it's hard. I've been in that situation myself. Just give it time and accept that it will hurt. Don't go back with your ex. He sounds like bad news. If he asks you back, say NO.
Be strong.. and patient x
GL
PS you will get stronger by learning not to rely on him
2007-06-04 09:59:52 · answer #8 · answered by tuthutop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi honey ;. don.t fret . i loved a woman for 15 yrs . and she never returned any of it back .he sound.s bad news ;anyway .i ,know that doe.s not help you very much . you will get over it . sooner or later . you need someone to talk to .apart from friends or family . keep your chin up.
2007-06-04 09:53:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋