can a man whos cheated ever be faithful ?

Question

after thirteen years i found out that I have been cheated on with at least 4 different women. He says never again. Do you think I should ever trust him again ?

Answer 1

Man or woman, a cheater has unique skills and will get better at it over time. My wife cheated on me and after I caught her she got more secretive and imaginative. You have a huge decision to make. Go ahead and be taken advantage of for the balance of your life or strike out on your own. You may want to start planning your exit to make sure you're financial able to cut loose. Talk to an attorney and a financial planner...you may choose to not take their advice but at least you'll be informed when and if you need to pull the trigger.

Answer 2

Its up to you. But you said that you found out - so he didn't tell you, you had to find out. 13 years is a long time and I am sure that you have invested a lot into the relationship. Then he cheated with 4 people. Do you know if its been more than 4? He obviously knew what he was doing. Do you think that you can forgive him and get over what he has done to you. I don't know if I would trust him, but the decision is yours. Good luck.

Answer 3

Once a cheater always a cheater...not true. Sometimes when a person cheats they are so guilt ridden they never stray again or in your case with 4 under his belt (or notches on his belt) just the fact that he got caught cheating and your reaction of hurt and betrayal may keep him from ever doing so again. I personally think that a man or woman who would turn to another for sexual gratifacation while envolved with another human being is not worth another chance to trust. Trust is the most important part of a relationship, so many treat the very act of love and intimacy like animals in the wild going from one to another.

Answer 4

We don't know him. It is possible for a cheating man to stop cheating, but is it likely? It depends on the man. Is he a sex addict? Is he ego driven. These kinds of men are not likely to stop unless they admit they have a problem. He has to get honest with himself and explore his issues. He won't be able to "will" himself faithful. It just doesn't happen like that. It will take a lot of work. If he doesn't put in the work, he will cheat again.

Answer 5

I already know that this will not be a popular answer, but I'll say it anyways.

Normally, no...you should not trust him again. The only way I would trust him is if God were to come into his heart. I know...I'll get bad votes on that. But God is the only power I have found that is strong enough to keep a straying man faithful.

On the other hand...if he doesn't have God in his heart...he'll do it again. Leave him

Answer 6

you're affected by the burden of love. the affection which you crave at the start is unwarranted as you're destroying his family individuals. the single that is suffering would be his young ones and different family individuals memebers. you have long previous by it, i'm specific you recognize how a lot you have been by. So don't be a house WRECKER.. bypass locate some green pasture to dinner occasion on. close him out of your existence and in time to come again thoughts will fade away and you'd be advantageous lower back. For the 2nd on account which you have a lot like to offer..... WHY no longer supply to your 2 beautiful young ones, they deserve soooooo a lot.... take care..

Answer 7

Oh my goodness, sorry to hear this. No, No and no. You will never be able to trust him. He has cheated with 4 different women? I would say divorce is in order. Sorry to say but you will always think he is lying, and you will always be aware if he is late, and think who is he with, what is he doing? Why would anyone want to live like that? Good luck and God bless you.

Answer 8

I know you can forgive,we all can forgive and it's wonderful!
The question is,can you forget?
Cause that's what you need if you wanna start trusting him again.
You have to forget that he cheated on you and it doesn't matter if he did it with one woman or 20 women,what matters is that he did something he knew it was wrong from the beginning!
If you can't forget,it's better to end it cause you'll never be really happy with him again.
Every happy moment will be poisoned by the question "will he do it again?".
I wish you strength and happiness from now on,please be honest to yourself and do what's right for you!

Answer 9

First thing to know is that it has nothing to do with you. just from personal experience, if he does it once there is hope, if he does it twice, he'll do it 5 times. there is a such thing as a "mistake" but, if its happened multiple times then their conscience isnt up to par in that area and its easy for them to do it. not saying they dont feel bad after but not bad enough to keep them from doing it again.

Now look at it from this point... do you love him enough to TRY to trust him and deal with it. no im not saying stand by your man, but most men will cheat unless they look like a ninja turtle. man are weaker than women, and is it better to stay with the one your with knowing their issues and craziness or start over learning someones issues and craziness? if he takes care of home (i.e.) YOU, can you try to trust him? if you dont have trust in a relationship it puts a stick in ****. i no im giving you an open ended answer leaning in both ways, but thats just to give you sum to think about.

Answer 10

Never say never! What's to stop the slimeball from doing it again to you? His word? He's done it 4X, and he'll do it a fifth time. His word is only a buffer between the last time and the next time. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Staying with him and believing his empty promise will always lead more tears. If you believe him, you only have yourself to blame...I warned you.