Newly wed couple. husband overseas waiting for immigration. Like normal couples they have arguements on the phone over issues. Husband starts nude sexual webcam chatting, wants to meet those for fun/sex. Has job stability problems. Tells in chats he sleeps around.
He tells wife what he said in chat is fake, false, fantasy. nothing more. He did in frustration.
Divorce is filed, but he is asking to rethink.
Was it not ok to argue like normal couples? Did the wife cause him to stray? Would u reconsider and save the marriage?
2007-06-04 00:32:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Immigration can happen only after marriage. Husband gets green card after getting here.
2007-06-04 00:48:29 · update #1
Hon, the man isn't even here, and you are argueing. You're argueing some very critical points, too. He's not lying on line. He's lying to you. He wants that immigration visa, and he'll do anything to get it, except honor his wedding vows. He has No Intention of being married.
The argueing you are doing with him Is Not Normal. Wife does not "cause" husband to stray. Husband chooses to stray.
He sounds like a horrible husband. Can't even keep a job.
I'd let the divorce go through. Better to leave this one alone.
2007-06-04 00:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
By the way you are talking, I am guessing that you are the husband. How can I tell you ask? " Was it not OK to argue like normal couples?"
If it was arguing about taking out the garbage or the in-laws, etc. But it was arguing about nude sexual webcam chatting!! And then ... " Did the wife cause him to stray?" the question sounds kind of one sided to me. If you are the husband, you are at fault! If you are the wife, get out of that marriage now, not only is the husbands activity not OK, but it seems like during your marriage he will pin the blame for everything on you. Sheesh!
2007-06-04 07:43:38 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No wife has ever caused a husband to stray. If a husband strays, it's due to his own decisions, not due to anything his wife might have said or done or failed to say or do. Don't buy into his pathetic attempts at shifting the blame. Divorce is the only answer in this case.
2007-06-04 07:42:01 · answer #3 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HUSBAND to blame, beside of his being job stability problems, he's a cheater, havng nude sexual webcam chatting. So let the divorce happen quickly. ASAP. So wife will not suffer any longer. TO HELL WITH THE CHEATER!!
I don't think i can go on with this KIND of man.
2007-06-04 07:45:07 · answer #4 · answered by dhel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both are to blame as this marriage should never have happened until all issues regarding immigration was issued, employment secured and so on.
2007-06-04 07:37:10 · answer #5 · answered by Patty G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the guy has a different set of moral values or what he thinks is acceptable. He won't change once in the land of female opportunities and you will just be in his way. He may have problem finding jobs here so you will be feeding him and his hobbies. Nice going.
2007-06-04 08:17:39 · answer #6 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't the reason your new husband is a sicko. Most likely you didn't spend a lot of time getting to know him before you married but I wouldn't waste anymore time now. Continue with the divorce.
2007-06-04 07:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I would not reconsider,what he done on the Internet is a form of cheating what the hel* it is cheating.thank goodness my man does not run to the computer to have a fun sex thing everytime we argue.She is right with her decision to file for divorce.
2007-06-04 07:40:45 · answer #8 · answered by leoslady3900 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he was never really committed. Couples argue in many different ways, but his adultry is not your fault. Don't let him make you feel like you are the one to blame. If you reconsider he will have to be willing to fully committ to you.
2007-06-04 07:38:09 · answer #9 · answered by Briana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
humans has brain which can imagine....fantasy..
men has more, to be accepted,
believe you me,
some accepts others don`t,
it`s a phase for young man, newly married in particular,
it will subside over a period of time,
around 45 age, all will vanish,
just like that,
to be reconsidered, positively,
save the marriage,
2007-06-04 07:48:26 · answer #10 · answered by Karsan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋