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Question

or should the children,be looked after in special hostels and visit regularly.it is a difficult decision for parents to make.i mean so retarded all deformed,have to be fed,are completely incontinent,urine and bowels,just lie in bed and turned every 4 hours.for the rest of their lives.what is the general response,the love will always be there.but what do mum and dad do

Answer 1

Oh my God

I would like to point out that people with pro found mental, or physical disabilities are HUMAN BEINGS. They feel pain, etc as much as you or I do. The only difference is they have a body or brain that does not work the way it should.

It has only been in the last twenty years or so, that Governments have tried to treat people with disabilities as HUMAN BEINGS, hence there is no longer many mental institutions or asylums for those considered as being "retarded, deformed or mentally deficient" by Victorian standards.

These people need to be treated with extra care and support, so they can live a near normal life. NOT LOCKED UP in a institutions, where they were previously treated as sub humans, who were not given proper nutrition, or medical care, if they were given any medical care it was crude and often cruel.

I strongly recommend you read the below link about one young woman who spent her very early years in such an institution and then tell me if people with pro found disabilities should be kept locked?

I believe that with support from community and medical professional, many parents would prefer to have the child kept with them.

However if parents realise that they can not met their child's needs, due to the child disability, then place the child into care, but one that meets approved Government standards.

It is extremely difficult to raise a child within your own home when the support services are not being met.

Answer 2

Each parent has to answer that question themselves. I have known parents that could not handle having a child with a relatively mild challenge such as Down Syndrome [which my son has], and others that didn't blink an eye at the news that their child would only live a few years at most, and never be able to talk, walk, eat solid food, etc. I know what my husband and I are capable of dealing with, but I would not presume to tell someone else that they had to do the same thing.

If approached, I will gladly share our family's experiences. Yes, my son is relatively healthy. He is not physically 'deformed', does the same things other teens do. But his life, and therefore ours, is not 'normal'. Not everyone is emotionally equipped to raise a child with challenges, be they big or small.

I would hope that others would not judge those who realize their limitations, and therefore select to place their children in alternative care situations.

Answer 3

Children with disability can take a lot of time. Disability services have care who help parents with these children.
It is best if they can live at home. Some have responded by learning to play music or painting art works.

To relieve parents from children with sever disabilities there is caring homes for them to stay in for awhile so parents can have a break.

But in the 70 they where isolated in insutitions and most never came out.

And some smart people where put in insutitions like hellen keller and then some one decover she was smart.
Annie coming out is a book about a girl with C.P she lived in an insutition until some one taugh her

Answer 4

I would keep the child at home and take care of him or her. I've looked at children, online, waiting for foster homes, and most of them seem to have physical disabilities. I think it's very sad and wonder how their families could let them end up there.

If you are physically unable to care for the child, the government will often assist by paying for a home health nurse to stop in and do what you can not. I think it's heartless to leave a child in an institution.

Now, if the parents of the child are elderly and need care themselves, I can see them having to make that decision. I also realize that some of these children are removed from their homes because they are not taken care of in an adequate manner by their biological parents.

Answer 5

Yes, it's a hard choice to make and even mild disability and deformities can cause concern, major stress, and medical bills. Some parents decide to keep their children for the long haul, others decide to give them up for adoption, special foster homes, mental instutions, etc, and in a few cases some can be detected before birth and a mother may decide to abort.

But either way, it's a hard choice. Even as a disabled person myself, I'm not sure if I could handle a seriously disabled child. I may be one of those parents who would give it up to one of the adoption/treatment foster care options.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

My nephew has severe cerebral palsy, and remained with his parents until he was nearly eighteen. They had to place Ben in a group home because he became extremely violent and uncontrollable. They now visit him every weekend and he is extremely happy living with his friends in the home, so I feel they made the only choice they could.

Answer 8

I think it is an individual decision. I would not fault any parents for making such a difficult choice..no matter what they chose.

Answer 9

you take care of your own. higher professional help if you need to but don't think for a minute the handicapped is out of touch. unless you have definitive proof that they have no idea who you are, then you can't abandon them. i am sorry for your delimma. it must be very difficult, but this is your child, regardless of their condition. don't let them realize that you are just accommodating them. love them, unconditionally.

Answer 10

No matter the response to this question, your mind will stay ignorant to this subject, unless you yourself have a kid one day that happens to end up mentally or physicall handicapped.