ok whenever my fiance and i are having sex i cannot stand deep penetration i feel like there something inside of me that hes bumping, im not pregnant or have any disease i just got check up. its just i hate deep penetration cause it hurt.is it because i didnt start having sex until i was 20 with my fiance? is there any other way that i could enjoy deep penetration. its just im young in my early 20's why is that a problem cause i asked my close girls they said they never had that prob before altough i have heard of women that does hate it. if any of you out there ever have that please help me out i dont want it to become an issues when i got married.
thank you take care.
2007-06-03 19:00:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
you may need to try different positions...i had a similar problem and through trial and talking to my boyfriend about what feels good/hurts we've made it to more enjoyable/comfortable sex
2007-06-03 19:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by kdizz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this problem is not related to just starting sex at 20. we all come in different sizes; means ur fiance might be kinda large, and ur vagina cant take his full length cos ur smaller.. its quite common and normal. sometimes i have the same problem, although it does not occur all the time or in all positions.
the only thing u can do is try to find a position which the both of u enjoy. Otherwise u really cannot do much about it.
what u might be feeling is his penis touching ur cervix inside. that can definitly hurt, and if hit badly it can start to bleed also.
the only advice i can give is trust ur body, if its too painful u should not force it simply because u think taking it in deep is a requirement. it is not, sex can be fun in so many different ways and positions so dont worry too much about this issue.
what u could try is doing it while lying on ur side, either facing him or facing away, that way it cannot go in very far but still can be very pleasurable for the both of u.
or u could be on top, that way u get to control exactly how far it goes in.
good luck and have fun trying ;)
2007-06-04 02:51:17 · answer #2 · answered by evil_grrrl666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well some women do not enjoy deep penetration. If you friend is large you guys may have to reposition when you make love so it is enjoyable for the both of you. Sex should not hurt if it does then something may be going on and I would suggest seeing your doctor again to make sure and discuss the problem the doc. I personally don't like it either because it causes me pain. I also had my bladder tacked up a few years ago.I wish you the best and also talk to your friend about the problem because he needs to know also. It may make him feel bad if you don't talk to him and if you plan on getting married you should be able to talk to each other about love making. It should be a wonderful thing for you and him. Good luck
2007-06-04 02:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by Debbie J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all, it is not normal ever to have pain while having
sex. It is a sign of another problem. It has nothing to do with
a mans size or anything like that.
Alot of women develop a disease called endometriosis. It is
very common and it is not fatal. It is painful. Some women
don't experience alot of pain and other do. Left untreated,
you will most likely start feeling more pain. There is no cure,
but it is most important that you see your doctor about this
and also note the only way to tell if you have it forsure, is to
have a laprascopy. It is a simple operation. I had mine done
this year and the best information I can give you is to look
up this disease for yourself. Don't be afraid and don't
ignore it. I hope you don't have it. But remember it is not
normal to have pain inside of you anywhere.
2007-06-04 02:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by boxmaker40 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if he may be bumping into your cervix, or bottom of the uterus. This is usually easily remedied by trying positions that allow shallower penetration, or by asking your partner to thrust less deeply. You may wish to try a female-dominant position so you control the depth and angle.
If switching it up doesn't work, time to get to the gynecologist to get checked for any infections or conditions that could be causing internal pain. Best of luck!
2007-06-04 02:13:18 · answer #5 · answered by Blarney M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried other positions? Maybe let your fiancee know that it is painful so that he can probably not push too hard, and make it pleasureable for the both of you. Every woman's body is different just like the man's penis size. I'm sure he'll understand and will be able to work with you on that. Trust me...if you tell him now and it becomes a major issue...maybe he is not the one.
2007-06-04 02:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by mekne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can think of is you a. don't have sex enough, b. need to just do it until you get stretched out, and c. do enough that you get used to it. (ha, basically have more sex!) Seriously though, have you talked to your doctor? Maybe you are right, maybe you just don't like it. Wish I was more help... Keep asking around.
2007-06-04 02:09:18 · answer #7 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see your doctor to find out what is causing your pain with deep intercourse. You fiance is probalby hitting your cervix but it should still not be painful so go see your doctor.
2007-06-04 02:03:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you mention it to your doctor when you went for you check up? I think only a gyn dr could truly answer this question
2007-06-04 02:05:36 · answer #9 · answered by veronicawilliams1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may be hitting your cervix with his penis; this can happen if he's big and/or if you are not aroused enough and the vagina did not elongate before sex. However, you should probably consult with your gyno also.
2007-06-04 02:12:14 · answer #10 · answered by Heathertogo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋