Have you ever been a victim of a violent crime?

Question

if so, how did you get past it?

Answer 1

Well, there are some steps that you can take immediately and some things that are going to be a long process. Things to do immediately, make sure you don't make yourself vulnerable again. Realize that it wasn't your fault. Stay close with friends and family.

As far as the long term stuff- There are many programs out there to help victims of violent crimes. Call your local courthouse or city hall and see what they can hook you up with. You will be looking for info on counseling and self-help/support groups primarily. They may be able to direct you beyond that.

Remember that after being victimised you may not be in good mental condition to make a lot of decisions for yourself. Find a friend and ask for help when making important decisions that could have consequences. GL

Answer 2

Yes. I blocked it from memory. But it resurfaced many years later in full force! So I turned to sleeping pills, increasing the dosage until I practically slept continually. I nearly died from overdoses several times, and eventually lost everything.... (more complex, but just an overview) When I hit bottom, things began to change. I actually began to face my pain. Also, I finally got off the pain medication (too tempting to hide in it) and decided to just deal with my physical pain too.

I left California to find myself. I'm still in the process of that, but I've healed tremendously. I had to face the fact that I was groomed to be a victim! I have been working very hard on my feelings, mind set, and behaviors. I am changing for myself and as an example to my daughter, who has also suffered abuse.

Here is the hard part... I have been able to forgive my abusers... that is, all except one. I am working very hard to forgive him too, since my anger and pain only poisons me, not him! Mom often said that poison destroys the vessel in which it is kept. I won't be that vessel. And I WON'T allow his cruel, ugly Punishment to contaminate me any longer.

I also discovered that energy is a real thing. We carry real energy left behind by the abuser! It may sound odd, but I have found it to be true. I have spent a great deal of time releasing that energy into the earth. The first time I did it, I was in the tub following healing meditation instructions. It was suggested that it be done on the full moon. Sea salt is also used (to extract and relax).

Anyway, the point is to visualize the negative energy leaving the body and filling the tub. In my case, the meditation actually took over. I saw an actual ‘being’ leave my body, though it had no face. (Of course, it was not a real being, but a meditation) Anyway, after the meditation was over, I let the water out and returned to meditating. As the water left the tub, I felt the negative energy leave my body. It really works, and whether it is physical or mental doesn't matter to me. I just know I feel better after. And I noticed when I did it too much, I felt drained and listless… so I believe it is real. I was told to meditate and imagine myself being filled with white light, to replenish myself. But it must last long enough to actually achieve something.

There's so much more that I have done, like change my music, the view of myself, the way I allow myself to be treated, learning to care for myself, realizing I AM worthy! And so much more. If you want to know more, let me know. If you must heal, God bless you, Love. Recovery and healing is a difficult road… but definitely well worth it. The rewards and peace of mind are indescribable! Take care and God luck!


I forgot to mention therapy and LOTS of self help books! Though the therapy helped some, I got more from the books!!! People who have really been there are much more helpful than a therapist who thinks he/she understands, but really has no clue!

Answer 3

Yes.

I got past it by putting it firmly in the past. I try not to put emotion into the memory and often look at it from a third person point of view.
I dont deny it happened I just dont give it the power to ruin my life.

DONT LET THE BAD GUYS WIN!

Answer 4

my car was stolen does this count..
for graduation my parents bought me a brand new chevy tahoe straight out the showroom.. I went to college the following fall.. Where I come from you can leave your keys in your car with no problem.. Silly me forgot to take my keys out when I went in the store!
But yea it was missing for about 5 hours I got it back unharmed I was soo happy the guy who stole it was only 16 years old! and veery drunk..
I got over being angry after a while to this day I still dont know why he stole it I think he was sentenced 3 months in Juvie ;)

Answer 5

Yes I have been, I got past it on my own, by being strong and knowing that it was not my fault and that I didnt have to own up to it, and that all things happen for a reason, it made me a stronger person, at times I still get angry and sometimes I still cry but that is okay... doesnt make me weak, just makes me human....

Answer 6

In 1992, a friend of mine was getting jumped by two guys outside of a mall..I ran up on one guy, pushed him off my friend when he stumbled back, pulled out a pistol, and shot me in the face from about 10-15 feet away..
I grabbed my jaw because I had a ringing in my head (note I did'nt realize the guy shot me at first), and took off running..
The guy fired another round in my back, and kept firing as bullets wizzed around me shattering the windows on the cars..
In the ambulance, the medic told me I was definitely shot in the face (I later ran across the same medic, and he was surprised to see I made it because he thought I wouldn't make it)..
When I got to the hospital, the police officer that questioned me about the incident showed me the t-shirt I had on, and the bullet that lodged in my back never broke through the t-shirt..I had on a thick coat as it was November when ot happened..
I never got over the incident 100% because I still remember it as if were yesterday..However, I do use it as a tool to remind to be careful who I hang around..
I can say the best thing I could do to get past that situation was to first forgive that person in my heart..They never caught the guy, and I never knew who it was that did it..It was kinda hard to recognize, or identify that guy because I got shot in the face point blank..
But, for me to move on I honestly had to forgive that guy first..Too many people harbor grudges, and aren't able to live their life because revenge is planted so deep in their hearts that they can't get past what happened to them..
If I ever saw the guy that did that to me I would honestly thank him because it brought about ALOT of life changing experiences even to this very day..However, I hope that justice does catch up with him, as I won't/wouldn't condone any criminal behavior..
I hope that my experience is able to help you in your situation, then my situation is still to this day helping people such as you..

Answer 7

digital mail me in spanish or english in case you ever might desire to speak approximately this or the rest eh. definite a former roomate who grow to be under the impression of alcohol 24/7 stole some $ from my room mutually as i grow to be at a female chum's homestead "celebrating" my birthday. Had the descency to call and apologise at 3am saying "i'm sorry. i'm incredibly sorry." yet does not difficult. I might desire to have reported as the cops on his a*s. this is no longer a "violent crime" although this is between the worst issues one might desire to do to somebody they declare to understand + later that day he tried to accuse me of having taken something from him. (a container of crackers i could offered earlier entering into that place) Bonus question: This adventure is truthfully one in all the justifications I refuse to have a flatmate.

Answer 8

Yes when I was a child and then again at age 15.

Answer 9

Yes I have. I'm dealing with it one day at a time even though it happened years ago.

Answer 10

No thank God, but I am a good listener if you need a shoulder. Email address is same as YA name