I distinctly remember when I was a kid having very strong attractions toward males and never ever having any bit of attraction to another girl. When I was a little bit older I had an experience with a girl and at first didn't think anything of it and was still attracted to men. But as time went on I found myself being more and more attracted to females and less to men. Now I am only attracted to females and not males at all. Do you think I am not a true lesbian? I am 100 percent positive when I was born and as I grew up I was attracted to men, now I am not at all.
Also there are many many many people, some that I know that have changed sexual preferences. One of my cousins never was attracted to girls and actually had a husband but after she went away to an all girl prison she divorced her husband and now has a girlfriend.
Just wondering how you explain this?
2007-06-03 18:45:51 · 11 answers · asked by imaqtpai 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Okay buddy, I know for a fact I wasn't born gay, but believe what you want.
I am not ashamed of who I am at all, I'm proud of who I am. I just don't understand how people can think you are born gay, since I know I wasn't.
I understand the puberty thing but my cousin who I was talking about is well past puberty, she was in her 30's.
2007-06-03 19:15:06 · update #1
Da Ben - I didn't know what gay was when I was a kid, why would I want to force myself not to be? I don't have any memories of gay tendencies until I tried something with a girl. After that I started to like girls more and more.
2007-06-03 19:16:27 · update #2
Static - Your arguement at least could make sense. Some people could be born gay and some develop to be gay. A lot of people say "everyone was born gay" though, so I'm just saying that's not true.
2007-06-03 19:18:55 · update #3
I was going to answer the original question until I got to Fa's answer...........about gays not passing on the 'gay gene'........Fa, answer me this:
man has brother thats gay (runs in the family?hhmmm???)
man has sex with woman thats lesbian
it produces gay male child........
can it be anymore obvious?
the child I speak of is my 22 yr old son and I knew by the time he was 2 he was gay...
and I'm damn glad I had that child!
2007-06-04 01:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by D~~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexuality is something that can change throughout a person's life. Usually these are minor changes, and nothing generally noticed in a significant way. I suppose this is possible. Myself, I started my life thinking I was straight, and about a year ago I finally admitted to myself that I was bisexual. At the time and for probably almost until now, I've preferred females, because, hey, boobs. Okay, nothing so silly. A few days ago, I was hanging out with a friend of mine from my childhood, and, I don't know, I just realized how well I understood him, and how I got everything. I'm starting to think I want to be with a guy more now, because the relationship might be so much more understanding. Men and Women think differently, we have to accept this. I'm just.. thinking it would be wonderful to really REALLY understand a lover, like I do that friend of mine. (Also, we uh, went "exploring". He thought he was straight. THE FOOL!)
Anyway, Maybe my experiences can help explain what you're wondering. Sexuality is non-static. You might be an odd case where there's a complete reversal. It does happen.
2007-06-03 19:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by Theo B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different.
I am Bi I have the luxury of choosing my partner's gender. I know there are many people who do not have the chose of which gender they are attracted to. Some people change and others don't. Your experience is only your experience. It does not translate to anyone else. I know of bi people who have shifted in both directions some to be more gay and some to be more straight it isn't a chose usually.
I think some people are born gay and some people are gay for psychological reasons. I don't see a problem with that.
It's all about diversity and freedom.
Just be you and accept others as they are.
2007-06-03 19:16:09 · answer #3 · answered by closed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was born bisexual and I believe that many people are born with the potential to be bisexual. Some of these people are clearly bi from the start, some never act on their same sex urges and some do act but only later in life. There are other people who are completely gay. They have never had an attraction toward someone of the opposite sex. These people are extremely unlikely to change and they are the ones who are referred to as born gay.
2007-06-03 18:54:31 · answer #4 · answered by Kuji 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's impossible to say ALL people are born gay, or straight, or bi, or whatever. Sexuality seems to be very fluid, and I think people will all have different experiences at finding who they love and their orientation. I myself have only ever been interested in females. I remember in preschool, kindergarten, and first grade having little crushes on girls. I absolutely know I was born gay. That doesn't mean everyone else who is gay was born that way. Who knows?
2007-06-03 20:26:54 · answer #5 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No two people are the same.. I don't really believe in rating a person's life.. I don't believe that anyone is 100% anything.. I was ALWAYS attracted to women, but I tried being with guys.. did my attempts make me less than 100% even if I knew the whole time it wasn't working?
People are different.. that's it.. Some always know, some choose it for their own reasons, some "fake" it for their own reasons, and some gradually find themselves changing.. Don't worry too much, if you are comfortable with who you are than good for you.. who cares what others think of it?
2007-06-03 18:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by kaijawitch 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most know it from birth. Puberty sometimes changes it when hormone levels change. I have had an attraction to males ever since I was really little. I used to hope that it would change, but it never did.
2007-06-03 18:49:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
after we have come out of the closet to ourselves...it's relatively easy to look back and see the traits in our younger selves..that we were, in fact, homosexual. When we were younger your mind can do really powerful things when you don't want to believe something is true...You can pretend you are straight and never know you're really gay until you snap one day.
2007-06-03 19:14:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sexuality develops at puberty--it's not uncommon for changes like that to happen, and they're not exclusive to 'changes' in orientation.
You are not 'untrue' in whatever your orientation is, don't worry. You are what you are, and you're fine however you are. :)
2007-06-03 18:50:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you were born gay, child, it's that simple, and you just grew into your sexuality!!!
Don't try to make me think I chose this, because I didn't!!!
2007-06-03 19:05:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋