She was being abused and I reported it to child services, now she claims I've made it worse. What do I do now? We were best friends.
2007-06-03 17:04:02 · 18 answers · asked by rjw30ishny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You were in a lose/lose situation. Times like that you have to do what you feel is right and let the chips fall where they may. If the abuse was serious enough, did you really have any other choice?
2007-06-03 17:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow. This is always a toughie. I've known people who've been through it. Trust me girl, you did not make the wrong decision. You were trying to help your friend which is such an act in itself.
When Child Services comes in it always seems to make everything worse. The kids get confused. The parents get mad and everyone is really stressed. Trust me though. You're helping her. Just help her get though this step by step. Anyone dealing with Child Services needs someone to talk to. Usually they're scarred and anxious. Give her someone to talk to and a shoulder to cry on.
Just give her hope. Everything WILL be alright for her. Things will work out. Just be her friend. That's what she needs most now. All I can really say, is she's VERY lucky to have a friend that cares enough about her to call child Services.
2007-06-03 17:10:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to make notes about times and places when each time your kids were put in a questionable place, and what was said. Child custody cases can become very bitter and nasty. Your Ex would only see it as an attack on her and her boyfriend. She doesn't see him as verbally abusive or anywhere negative, hence why she keeps taking him back. I would consult an attorney that specializes in family law, and get your ducks in a row, if you want to pursue full custody, but you need to keep in mind what the costs and risks are. If she has no money, that is a very good thing, less of a chance of presenting a proper chance at defending her position, which if really that bad, is not worth defending, but don't expect her to just give them up. Many moms, even unfit, feel that they are the worst people in the world if they lose their kids.
2016-05-20 22:44:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How have you made it worse? By possibly saving her life? Give her some time to get over it, she's probably just embarassed over the situation. Nobody would want to be in that situation, but to have it brought to the attention of CS may have caused a bit more embarassment for her. Watch for any more signs of abuse though, and if you notice anything, I would report it again...she may not tell you next time about the abuse. Just remember you could be saving her life.
2007-06-03 17:08:14 · answer #4 · answered by Amy R 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing, child services should be doing their job. You should call child services again and let them know things have gotten worse for your friend since you called them, she needs to be removed from the home, she will come around to you when she realizes you did it because you loved and cared for her.
2007-06-03 17:15:57 · answer #5 · answered by Chef D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you did what you thought was right,idon't know about the situation to much except she was being abused.how did you make it worse,was it her parents or something else? if you thought her life was been put in danger you did the right thing.she just thinks you made it worse,but actually you may have saved her life.give her time she will soon realized that it was the best thing you could have done,and anyways you was her friend and was really concern for well being.don't blame yourself.you've helped her is all you done.
2007-06-03 17:12:54 · answer #6 · answered by rebelady28379 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child abuse is a very serious thing! I hope you had proof, because if you do not have enough proof, unfortunately you can make it worse..on the other hand if you suspect abuse you should report it because by reporting it, you can stop it..
2007-06-03 17:13:00 · answer #7 · answered by citygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its always like that. at first day get hurt about it and then later on when things get better they thank u for ur help and support. just give it time and everything will fall into place and if she doesnt c it as a good thing dat u did den 4get her. i no if my best friend did dat 4 me i wud b very thankful.
2007-06-03 17:12:58 · answer #8 · answered by annawuvzchris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. Of course your friend won't be happy with you, butting in like that. She probably feels like you broke her tust by letting out her secret.
But you did the right thing. Try to explain to your friend that you love her and you didn't want her to be hurt, and you only wanted best for her. And that you still want to be friends and you want her to forgive you.
She might still be mad, but when she figures out you did it to help you, she'll come around.
2007-06-03 17:08:47 · answer #9 · answered by Bren J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what did child services do? If she is still in the home, what happened?
2007-06-03 17:06:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋