ok, so the night manager at work, apparently likes me. I talk with him a lot and we hold some interesting conversations while at work and people make fun of me for it, but I've just ignored them.
well, now I'm starting to realize that he favors me a lot at work and will do things like give me more tip money than other people (we have a tip jar that we split at the end of the night). and he'll always ask me if I want to stay or go home early for whatever reason, but he wont ask others, he'll just send them home when he sees fit.
just little stuff like that is starting to bother me. I don't think it's fair and I don't know how to confront him.
2007-06-03 16:03:29 · 7 answers · asked by hobo 6 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment ➔ Food Service
in response to the second answer:
I've heard he's checked me out a couple of times, but he hasn't made any advances at me, so I'm kind'a ignoring anything of the sort.
honestly, though, my roomates having an affair with one of our other managers (general mangers, actually) and this is the second times she's done that, so considering the working environment, I don't think it'd be far fetched for him to try anything with me. but I'm definately not going to have any of that.
2007-06-03 16:10:33 · update #1
I think it's good that you've come to realize what is happening and that you want to put a stop to the situation. Your boss needs to be careful that he doesn't create a situation that can be construed as sexual harassment. If the other employees perceive that you are receiving favored treatment because you have a special, perhaps sexual, relationship with the boss, then they can claim to be victims of sexual harassment. The premise is that if they too "cooperated" with the boss, then they too could receive favored treatment.
Continue to be pleasant with your boss, but don't linger in any conversations with him that have little to do with the job. Don't allow yourself to be alone with him. Don't take advantage of any favored treatment offers unless the other employees have the same access to those offers. You don't need to have a confrontation with him, just cool the relationship down a bit so he doesn't see you as being more than his employee.
2007-06-03 16:19:33 · answer #1 · answered by majormomma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are certain things you need to do, if you have not do so already, if you see you are getting preferential treatment and are uncomfortable, either from an ethical standpoint or from the standpoint of getting "grief" from your co-workers. If you are getting more tips than normal from a tip jar, deny the amount you don't believe you are entitled to.
Otherwise, any thing else that is being done that makes you feel uncomfortable - or that you don't see similar treatment to your co-workers - you have to him know first. If it does not fix the problem, you have to get a complaint documented. If you are uncomfortable with going over his head, you may be able to go to a manager at the same level, who you are more comfortable dealing with, to help settle the problem.
2007-06-05 08:45:08 · answer #2 · answered by breaknine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are city, county, state, and federal agencies that deal with this. You might be in something cosidered to be sexual harassment, even if inuendoes, lewd suggestions, talk about after work, or bend over, or anything are mentioned. Get up the gumtion, and call the authorities. I've foiund calling agencies of worker's rights, labor unions, or government agencies, help in the work place far better than dealing with supervisors, or you employer. Go over thier heads, expose this for what it is, favoritism can be considered sexual harassment.
2007-06-04 02:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by palon1957 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you appreciate his friendship but, when at work, you are fine with him treating you like all the other employees. Is there a possibility he may have a romantic interest in you? If so, that could be a whole other bag of worms, and perhaps trouble...
2007-06-03 23:07:45 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never good to mix business with pleasure.Tell this conniving
manager that you only want your fair share of tip money and that you do not want any special treatment. You are bound to have problems with your co-workers over this and someone is going to complain on you.
2007-06-03 23:26:42 · answer #5 · answered by blackbolt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right now it seems like a good deal..but sooner or later he will be looking for his "favors" to be returned...most people don't do things out of the kindness of their heart..and taking more then your share of the tips..that is wrong for both of you..you are a thief..when you take money that does not belong to you..easy money soon leaves your hands..as their is no blessing on easy money...i learned this the hard way..
2007-06-03 23:10:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it bothers you, go to the owner and tell him, or a day shift manager
2007-06-03 23:07:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋