All my friends talk **** about me all the time. My best male friend's girlfriend is having a baby in two weeks and when i call him to talk about things like my other friends talking **** he never listens to me. I have never done anything wrong and everyday people talk **** about me. Im a single mother w/ a 9 month old son the father could care less about our son and thats hurts me. My(ex) best female friend is dating my sons father. I want to move away BUt i dont want people to think im running away i just want to start my life over....will someone please give me advice on this whole sitution... PLEASE!
2007-06-03 15:34:16 · 18 answers · asked by N!cky 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2007-06-03 19:02:35 · update #1
Nicky
you should forget about those people, go ahead and start your new life and never turn back.Who cares if they think you are running away they were part of the "old" Nicky's life,the "new" Nicky doesn't have "trash" that stink up her garden.The only people that you have to worry about are just you and your son thats all.Do you get my drift?
2007-06-03 16:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by John Z 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I empathize with your situation... there have been many times I've felt like running away from everything and everyone and I'm sure there are many other people who've felt the same way.
It's hard with a nine month old son to decide to up and move and start fresh, but if you can and there is nothing holding you where you are, like family, a job, etc., why not? But, the real question is, are you serious about this or just upset about everything that has been taking place?
You can have a new life without moving away. You need to change your circle of "friends." I put that word in quotes because the people you've mentioned, by the actions you've described, are not your friends.
Your best male friend who you describe as someone who "never listens" to you, has the impending birth of his child on his mind. Do you remember when you were pregnant and how many things were going on in your mind at the time? Also, you have to think, since he's one of the only people you've described as still being your friend, he may be tired of hearing the same thing.
It's hard to get over dissappointments, frustration, and betrayals in life, especially being a single mother, but you can do it without moving away. If you have time away from your child, go places or get involved in groups that do the things you like to do in order to meet people that may have things in common with you. By doing this, you may be able to form friendships and bonds with other people.
You should give your best male friend a little space, make sure your son's father is taking care of his son (financially, if nothing else - but try to make sure he's in his life as a positive role model; during these times you can also take advantage of some time to yourself), and build those bonds with other people.
I hope this information helps - be strong through this confusing and hurtful time your going through.
2007-06-03 22:52:35 · answer #2 · answered by 1+1=2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you have a lot of people around you whose mindset is still left in high school. I don't know you or your life situation but I feel like you moving wouldn't be running away. It would be taking yourself out of a situation you are not happy in and finding new caring people to surround yourself in. Wow.. what a best friend you had... doesn't she know that being with your babies dad is the ultimate betrayal? Some girls.... Girls who talk about you, more than likely envy the life you live. You have what they want and so to make them feel better about themselves they talk about you. Putting you down is a front to make themselves feel better and you are definitely better than that. So do yourself a favor and move away.. you aren't running away your being an adult something those people need to learn to do!!! Hope this helps some! Good luck with whatever you choose to do!
2007-06-03 22:44:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you shouldn't be calling your best male friend to complain about your life, but congratulating him and his girlfriend on the new baby and to see how she is doing. His situation has changed. Apparently the relationship is becoming more serious because of her becoming pregnant. Its really not appropriate for other women to be calling men in serious relationships to talk and complain about their personal issues.
I'm sorry that you are in a rough spot right now. But, you should be trying to make the most of your life for you and your son, trying to ignore what people are saying...working hard to bring in an income and fostering strong ties with your family (if you can). People don't like incessant self-engrossed complainers.
2007-06-03 22:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me the only thing that matters is that you treat people the way God has intended and to live your life that way. People will say or not say things that may hurt you but you must focus on your life and do the right thing. Try a counselor to deal with your problems. Try the yellow pages or go to your local church, someone there will gladly send you in the correct direction. Remember God always loves you no matter what.
2007-06-03 22:44:22 · answer #5 · answered by renee1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nicky
Maybe your friends aren't that friends.
I'm sorry about having your sons' dad to be such a j..., but sometimes that's the way it is.
I think that moving away might be actually a good idea. It would let you start over, meet new friends that actually are worth calling them friends, and you won't need to see your exfriends treat you poorly.
Why should you care what they think, when all they do is dish you out?
2007-06-03 22:39:20 · answer #6 · answered by Roberto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
change sucks but it sounds like you're not in a healthy environment and i dont believe its a good place to raise your son. the change will suck and the transition will be hard. Pick somewhere with a good school You'll start off in a small apartment but eventually you'll move into a home. You'll also be making better friens that treat you with respect and become your family, not these people now who have zero respect for you and sound like trailer trash. And if times get really hard just remember how sweet it will be when you're living in a nice home with nice things and they're still in the small town with their deliquent children and insanely jealous that you moved on with your life and how superior you are to them.
2007-06-03 22:41:42 · answer #7 · answered by Monie Balonie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what do you care what those people think. they don't sound like very good people in the first place. maybe a move is just thing you need to make news friends and start over for you and your son. good luck!
2007-06-03 22:37:57 · answer #8 · answered by pditty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hay nicky
its your life. be the way you the way you want. u got to build attitude. ""Whatever **** they Talk, WHO GIVES A ****."""
that should be u r attitude. now that u r a mother and sucked up with ur husband..
leave him and just walk away. its your life and son' future. its not running away. its all for your life and your son. you are facing all this probs. let not ur son face the same ****. help him grow in a clean and sound atmosphere so that he is mature enough to face the world rather than askin people over Yahoo Answers.
i seriously prefer... you walk away and restart your life the way you want and lead. its just good for u and Ur son too...
2007-06-03 22:45:41 · answer #9 · answered by Nishant P 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dang girl u in a mess!! best advice is to put all faith to God for rite now... best of luck
Ry k
is rite, it isnt running away, just u need a fresh start if u r eva gonna feel any better about yourself, u are gonna get nowhere in the place u r in now
and who cares if they think u r running away, its not like they are eva gonna see u again, u will have moved on to make a fresh start
2007-06-03 22:37:19 · answer #10 · answered by amanda m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋