i asked a question is it normal not to cry and got some good answers 1 really made me think?

Question

somebody said have i no emotions as i never cry.. well i dont think i do.. i can really upset my partner she will cry her eyes out infront of me and i feel nothing i just stare at her im not proud of this its the way i am i feel i have no emotions at all.. when she had an ectopic pregnancy and lost the baby, tubes and ovarys she was heartbroken and couldnt stop crying.. i on the other hand felt nothing this cant be normal

Answer 1

Hey dude,

I believe that you are a normal person.

The fact that you have written this question asking 'this can't be normal' and the fact that you said that you are not proud of the way you are, shows that you have a heart and feelings and you are a normal person.

I believe that you like many people, you have a hard time expressing emotions in the physical sense.

Don't listen to some of the comments that people have made to your question.

One day you might find yourself deep in thought about how you feel about the things that have happened in your life and it might do you good to talk to the people who are close to you about these feelings.

Think of it this way, you are someones 'ROCK,' when some people are upset, they need someone to lean on, they need someone to be their rock and you are that person, to be strong for others.

You are a normal, good person. Don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise.

Answer 2

I think a lot of times in a relationship, of any kind, when one person is very upset and crying; then the other person will automatically take the 'strong' and supportive stance.
It happens a lot too, when one person is angry, and then the partner, becomes very staid, and steady emotionally.
You are being strong for them right now. It's an automatic reaction in extremely emotional situations.

It is in a sense closing off your emotions, but it's the expression really, that gets held back. I'd say it could even be a built in survival tactic for humans, or a 'defense mechanism' in which you distance yourself.
One of you has to stay strong.


It's very normal, and a natural reaction under such upsetting circumstances I think.
You may find that later on, by yourself, your feelings will surface.
Your roles may switch a little then.

Answer 3

It is how you feel inside that matters, not how you express yourself externally. However if you genuinely feel nothing emotionally, then I suppose that is `normal` for you. Your body` make-up `may be defective in this area, perhaps you were born without emotions or they may have been damaged somewhere between birth and now. Either way it is not your fault, you really should consider getting some help or guidance from a professional. Surely you must have noticed this `trait` at sometime before now ? We have the ability to shed tears and to wail and cry, not just to make a noise; but because this releases the emotions from our mind and body, so that we can remain evenly balanced.

Answer 4

That was me - i think you know that this isn't normally, as what you do to let of steam is make other people cry. Am i wrong - is this to either prove to urself that your hard or something, or to put yourself in a horrible situation cos you really want to cry and let off some emotion in the normal way people do. Either way i think what your dong isn't fair... Not to yourself of any other people you get involved with. go and see someone.. You need to feel high emotional feelings its completely normal if you dont then you'll never know all the truly nice high emotions that you can feel also.. It isn't all doom and gloom to FEEEL - sometimes its good..

To the person below whose condoning what you are when its obvious you want to change... i reply to his thought..
''One day you might find yourself deep in thought about how you feel about the things that have happened in your life.and it might do you good to talk to the people ..''
What people will be left.. ? NOBODY WILL GIVE A SH1T COS YOU'VE NOT GIVEN A SH1T ABOUT THEM..What goes around!!

Answer 5

I work with women who lose their babies. Often the partners feel unable to express anything as they are so aware of the devestation it has caused their partner. They feel unable to do anything but provide practical support rather than emotional support.
Feeling nothing can be the indication that you are suppressing emotions...the fact that you actually care that you feel nothing is telling you that something is wrong.
Grief, depression and shock can cause a shut down in your emotions. You need to try and look back as far as you can remember to see where the block in your emotions began.
Seek advice from your doctor and Good luck.xx

Answer 6

don't listen to the people who say you are heartless.
I'm going to be blunt when i say that this is Not normal, but people do have this, often.
you suppress your emotions. you are basically in denial. don't be mad at yourself for this. i used to be like that, and sometimes still am. sometimes, when something really bad happens to you, you have no reaction, and yet with small things you cry your eyes out. that in a way is your reaction to something that happened a before.
i don't know if that made sense, but that's how i used to be, i used to own a dog, and three years ago she died.... but i had no feelings.... in my head i was thinking.... "i should be sad..."
three days later i lost my cell phone and cried for hours.... obviously i didn't cry for the cell the entire time.
and maybe the reason (if you do do this, i might be reading your thing wrong) you sometimes try to upset your partner is because you need to see someone cry, if not you
hope i helped. and good luck

Answer 7

Are you sure that you just won't let yourself feel these emotions?
Maybe you are pushing down your emotions and storing them internally so you don't have to "feel" them now. At some point, the time will come when you have to deal with them. A lot of men especially push down their emotions during times like you mentioned because it's just too much to deal with at the time. I don't think you are abnormal at all. When the time comes and you do let these feelings surface, don't be afraid to let them out and cry if you need to. Real men do cry sometimes.

Answer 8

Crying is just one portion of being an emotional being. If you're not doing other emotional actions or feeling them, I'd check with a healthcare professional. It is not healthy to not show emotion and doing so can be a contributor to early heart disease (some studies have suggested).

Answer 9

there is a difference between not crying and not caring isn't there?
of course as a woman i cry all the time but i can also be very rational and strong and quite unfeeling too at times.
i don't think it's a problem that you don't cry but to feel nothing when your girlfriend loses a baby and her tubes and ovaries is possibly a bit harsh!
but hey, who am i to judge?
m x

Answer 10

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