For some reason when I meet people they tend to not like me for what ever reason I don't really give a damn :) but I am quiet vexed I am not rude, I brush my teeth, smell good, I wear the latest stuff....I know I am not ugly I am beautiful and Intelligent it's nothing at all that I would change about myself....my mother once told me that when people look at me or talk to me I have the tendencey to unknowingly make them feel inadequate she said that my nose is so far in the air that if it rains i will drown..but I don't feel like I should have to dumb myself down to be liked...what should I do to not make people feel less pretty or smarter than me...I am tired of being percived as a Mean Girl..
2007-06-03 13:26:58 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
None of my female neighbors like me..when I come down the stairs and they are outside they get quiet and eyeball me or just roll they're eyes and click there tongues..then when I pass they start to talk I..I have never had a confrontation with them never argued with them or said anything rude...I say hi and they don't say anything..are they just ghetto jealous whores are is it something I could have unknowingly done?
2007-06-03 13:31:18 · update #1
ps..thats a nice little picture you scribbled down there reality_check didn't know they gave you guys extra doodle time in special Ed /:)
2007-06-03 13:35:55 · update #2
I love me :)
2007-06-03 14:52:36 · update #3
I've run into this a lot too... my best friend told me I was completely arrogant five or six years ago and I know it's a vice I'm prone to. It's a choice you make though -- sure you might be prettier and smarter than most people. It happens, and you're lucky! That doesn't mean you should rub it in. Appreciate it, definitely. But realize that people will automatically perceive you as a threat. So if you want to lessen that effect, I've found that it's nice to never brag, make sure you ask people questions and be interested in THEM and not talk much about yourself. Also compliment people a lot. Don't be fake, but definitely tell your friends and people when they look good. It'll make them feel good about themselves and less intimidated by you. And maybe you know everything... but you don't have to let on that you know. It's ok to play dumb sometimes. In fact, it's a lot of fun to play dumb sometimes. Make sure you're not trampling others' ideas and feelings because you're sure you're right.
No matter how pretty and how smart you are, there's a lot you can learn from other people. So try and be a little bit humble at least -- it IS a virtue! -- and make sure you respect people. Try not to see yourself as better than them, as much as you can help it, and chances are good you'll start seeing things in others that make THEM special too. Everyone has a different set of skills and abilities, and you can get SO MUCH MORE out of life if you pay attention to them and appreciate them for who they are.
Hope that helps!
2007-06-03 13:37:53 · answer #1 · answered by some girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good looks and fashion do not make the person.
It's what's inside the person that counts. You may have a snooty attitude, I don't know, but it sounds like you are bothered by the reactions of other people. You might have to become a nicer person somehow. Try to get to know the people you meet by really talking to them, ask them about themselves, their families, their interests. They may just feel that you are interested in them and not what they're wearing.
2007-06-03 20:35:34 · answer #2 · answered by jammer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a matter of dumbing yourself down it's a matter of being open and friendly. Sometimes I myself have a tendency to sound superior even though it's not my intention. Learn to hold back a little people don't like to feel intimidated by intellect. If none of this suits you find a different crowd.
2007-06-03 20:32:43 · answer #3 · answered by Noree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be more friendly smile, maybe it's like a certain look you have that makes people run away. You Seem confident but the others aorund you probably don't so just be a little more friendlier and people should stop shying away.
2007-06-03 20:31:28 · answer #4 · answered by Jems 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reading your column made me conclude you are arrogant...
i knw a lot of intelligent, beautiful and rich people who are confident and do not strike me as arrogant...
perhaps when you said " i don`t really give a damn " and " the part about dumbing yourself down " gave me the clue...
people who are not arrogant truly care what other people think...
people who are confident and not arrogant do not really mind if the person they are dealing with has intelligence, wealth or social status higher or lower than theirs...
i once was introduced to this young lady... the daughter of a hotel tycoon ( not the Hiltons ) she was obviously wealthy, graduated summa *** laude in Switzerland, and was devastatingly beautiful... carried herself with confidence but never stuck me as arrogant... i observed that she treated everybody the same way... from the bellhop in their hotel... to her driver... to the medical director in our hospital... and me i was the resident in charge of her mom who was hospitalized at the time.... she treated everybody politely, courteously,and respectfully...
i don`t know specifically what to tell you but i guess you could observe successful, wealthy ,well-liked people in your area... watch them, and observe how they deal with the people around them... i suspect that they do things just a little diffrently from the rest of us... i believe that is the reason why they are succdesful people...
2007-06-03 20:52:44 · answer #5 · answered by Clive Roland 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason to dumb yourself down.
However you can be kind and you can not be judging.
Some of the smartest people I have known do not try to let everyone feel put down by them.
2007-06-03 20:31:40 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who thinks they are cute and smart ring their own horn and are by definition arrogant. If you want to see how the 'other' people put up with you, try spending time with people who are ten times better than you are. What a lesson that would be !
2007-06-03 20:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by bebop_music 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's really simple ... you're classy, beautiful, intelligent, outspoken, disciplined, well read, worldly, etc etc and you know this already. So, it's not important to focus on that anymore, all that's a fact and that should leave you all the time in the world to focus on others peoples accomlishments and ackowledge them as well and you know what ... i'll bet you find more people will start liking you and wanting to be around you a lot more.
summation:
think less of yourself and more of others when in social settings and relationships and you'll be perceived as more likeable.
2007-06-03 20:29:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
u r confident. but a little 2 confident. u need 2 keep the extra confidence inside urself. like, say u got 1st place in some contest. u can say "i thought i would win it." or sumthin', but no "YES!! i knew it." start by smiling. that's wat i do. im a shy person, but my budz think im way 2 nice. u sound like a great friend once ppl get 2 no u. think b4 u say nething. what would u think if one of the mean girls sed that? "oh they r so annoying" or "im happy 4 them"?
i no this sounds so goody 2 shoes, but still. put urself in other's shoes
2007-06-03 20:31:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arrogant
2007-06-03 20:29:48 · answer #10 · answered by Roma 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋