how can i get proof of wife's cheating ? can't afford a detective.?

Answer 1

just keep an eye on her habits, everyone messes up eventually, check phone bills and look at her odometer, figure up how far it is to work and back, and see how often she goes out of the way. these are just a few things you can start with. If you think she is, why do you want to know? If she is, do you really want to stay with her? I wouldn't, just tell her you know she is cheating and leave, unless you don't know for sure. good luck to you.

Answer 2

There is something that makes you think she is cheating, you should focus on what made you come to that conclusion, if she is staying out late or saying that she is with a girlfriend then ask questions and then check up on it to make sure what she saying if matching up with she is telling you. Just remember this, if someone doesn't want to be with you anymore you have to let go, dont stoop to the level of being a detective, you deserve better and you will receive it.

Answer 3

Buddy,
Let me tell you a few things, just the fact you have an idea that your lady IS, she probably is.

Be your OWN Detective. Take notice, if she acts any different around you than normal, does she resist lovemaking with you?
If she takes up a new hobby all of a sudden, that's a clue, unusual "routine" such as coming home from work late; (that old one, but yes.)
Also if she is dressing up alot and going out frequently when it wasn't the "norm" before.

Basically, anything abnormal.

Answer 4

Become your on detective. But don't' try to prove she's cheating, Try to prove she's not. If you go into it looking for signs she's cheating, then every sign you see will in your eyes be viewed as a cheating sign. Also be careful of what you ask for........ once you find out...... then what? Think you'll stop her from cheating? Leave her? After you have all your facts , you need to think about what you're going to do with them and the aftermath of what they will bring. Good luck.

Answer 5

patience....and lots of it my friend. if she is doing what you suspect, you must not allow her to know you suspect anything-tho i realize that is truly a difficult feat in itself...trust me when i tell you that if she is not aware that you suspect/know something is goin on- then you have the advantage. she will be very cautious about her actions and behavior at first, but given a little time with no (apparent ) notice or concern from you-she will relax and figure she has you buffaloed.... this will make it simple for you to observe,listen and sleuth out the facts. the more you act as though nothing is wrong-the more likely she will slip up...after all, a detective does nothing different-and costs more too. good luck-i know this situation is hard on the self esteem, frazzles your nerves and can leave you feeling so many strange emotions---remember one thing--IT IS NOT YOU-THIS IS ON HER KARMA-YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG-IF SHE IS GUILTY DO NOT BELIEVE IT IF YOU ARE TEARFULLY INFORMED THAT "IT WAS ONLY ONCE AND WILL NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN; I PROMISE"

Answer 6

First ask, but if she is cheating she may be willing to lie too. Cell phone records are a great place to start. E-mails can also offer proof. Just be careful you are crossing a line there.

Answer 7

I suggest you start being the detective or having a friend help you out. Take a camera and catch it on film or video camera. Document all phone calls and computer history.

Answer 8

You can afford a detective. Start saving your money. You're also going to have to be able to afford a lawyer so saving your money now is a good idea.

Answer 9

You be the detective. Rent a car and follow her around for a day.

Answer 10

ok first things first get a video camera if affordable ad place it in the house hidden so while your out you can see if anyone come in the house with her. you can also check her e mails, cell phone, and a schedule if she has one. or my favorite. you can borrow a car from a friend and follow her around. you might be surprised were she goes! : ) im 13 and i have experience im doing this stuff.