Do a lot of women change...?

Question

after they're married? I always hear about how they have higher expectations in their husbands after marriage and they nag and complain more.

Answer 1

Because we all have expectations. I expect him to do certain things and when he doesn't then I tell him. And when he still doesn't do it I complain.
He does not understand all that I do and the few things that I ask of him are like asking him to move a mountain and it is not fair. Not all men are like this but a lot of them view house work as women's work. So when both parties have worked their 40+ hours at the workplace, the chores at home should be shared equally. Or, if one stays home to raise the children the other should not be exempt from helping around the house.
I think it stems from one partner thinking it is unfair and wanting equality and most of the time it is the woman who is being the one who is in the position of taking on more of the responsibility and when she got married she thought it would be more equal and she is fighting for that equality.

Answer 2

That is true they do(depends on how many is a lot).
The reason being,is that were all on our best behavior when were courting,and not on our best behavior when were married,and that is because we tend to take each other for granted,thinking that everything is OK,when in fact its not!
We just don't tell each other do we.
Men are pretty lay back attitude to a situation,whereas a woman is not happy in a more focused way.
What i am trying to say is men aren't so touchy about things as women are(not all but mostly),and can let it all go over their heads.
Its not a don't care attitude,its just they don't understand what the fuss is about,and although women have higher expectations ,men do as well,its just that they don't communicate it to their other half,who in turn "nags"them because they think they are not being listened to.

Hope this answers your question.

Answer 3

Everyone changes....some for the better, some worse. It really depends on what you brought into the marriage or didn't see before you married. And nagging isn't just a female thing....men do it as well...just over different things. If you didn't do your homework before you married, then you shouldn't expect anyone to be different than who they were before the marriage. It's as simple as that. And pick your battles. Some things are just what they are.

Answer 4

It is said (although I am not sure where to cite it) that everyones personality changes almost 100 percent over the course of 7 years. Personality is in constant flux so it can be said that a woman has different expectations after marriage, but it is because of the accumulation of time in the marriage and the change both of them have gone through.

Answer 5

They are correct about the nagging and the complaining in my situation my ex-wife would hear what I have to tell her but she would not listen. Which I found to be very disrespectful. Everything had to be done at the red hot second. You cant be this demanding and expect a healthy relationship. People get tired.

Answer 6

I think marriage can change both parties if they were not honest with each other in the first place. It certainly is a test to see if the person is truly who he/she said he/she was and whether he/she is the right one for you. I have seen girl friends who marry and change and I have seen girlfriends who husband suddenly changes. My opinion on all that is marriage was leaped into without being thought out by both parties. Alot of the time especially nowadays people get married just because they think its the right thing to do and time is flying by. It is almost as if someone is beating them on their backs telling them this is what they want to do. Alot of people around you encourage you to get married also, asking when are you two going to get married. My advice to everyone getting married, if you know deep in your heart it is not what you want dont do it, even if your girlfriend/boyfriend is pressuring you to do so.

Answer 7

Everyone changes even if its just a little bit and not neccessarily because of marriage its just something that happens over time as we grow and experience new things. Sometimes Nagging seems to come out more if u havent lived with ur spouse before marriage but thats on both sides its just part of adapting to your new life together but its really not that bad...Once you get used to eachother's habits its all good.

Answer 8

I think both of them change. Before I married my husband he worked a full time job, didn't drink, didn't smoke, and I could rely on him. Now 14 years later he smokes, has an alcohol problem, and has had 13 jobs. He spends little to no time with the kids. I have supported us for a long time. I handle all the responsibilities and have to make all the decisions. This is not how I pictured my life.

Answer 9

My sister got married recently, and told me that she had no idea that this was what marriage was like. She was married about 6 months ago and is just not starting to get the hang of things. She said it was a real disapointment, but I don't think that it's like that for everyone, it just depends on the type of person that you are and what your expectations of marriage are.

Answer 10

No, I don't think so. Especially if the couple have already been living together for a long time. I do believe that often after having children the relationship changes and not always for the better unfortunately.