2007-06-03 12:00:24 · 12 answers · asked by trixxxi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Trusting someone is very hard when you have been hurt so many times. I have that problem with women. But i know there are good ones out there and that there are good guys out there. You just have to become cautious when getting into a relationship and find out who they really are before you start sleeping with them. Most of the time people base their relationship off of sex and then it never works out. But if you don't try to trust someone then you never will find out. Don't give up but could it be the type of guy you go for? If it is then you might want to change what type of guy you want. Most women are into a certain type of guy and when the same thing keeps happening to them they wonder why. It is the type of guy you are going for if they have all been similar. Try something new. Some guy you normally would not give a shot give a shot because you might be surprised to find you have more in common and he is more faithful then other types.
2007-06-03 12:13:16 · answer #1 · answered by Will 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to remember that not EVERY guy cheats! Trust is something that is built over time. You should give each new guy the benefit of the doubt but not an all-access pass to your heart.
If you start out distrusting and expecting the guy to cheat, that brings such low expectations into the relationship.
It sounds like you have met alot of lousy guys. Maybe you need to choose a different kind of guy?
I am not saying their cheating is your fault! I am just saying if every guy cheats on you, then you must keep picking the same kind of guy.
2007-06-03 19:07:00 · answer #2 · answered by Matt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on the type of cheating... 'Physical' cheating or 'emotional' cheating. Both equally hurt, but I think you can train yourself to not think of men who physically cheat on you as such a bad thing compared to a man having an emotional affair/fling with someone. Those kind of men are hard to trust... Our emotional needs outweigh our physical ones I believe..I myself have cheated (physically) but I know that I am a trustworthy person. Because we all have needs. And I guess, too, you have to change yourself (if you have been choosing the same type of men) in order for you to be able to trust a deserving man. And the only way you can live fully is to put your trust in someone, because if you don't your relationship will never be secure, they're always be insecurities and you'll never be able to love freely and fully.
2007-06-03 19:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by Danu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard, but you really can't put blame on the new person in your life just because the past people you have been with have cheated. Its not just guys that cheat, women cheat too. where are you meeting these guys that cheat on you, if its a bar, stop meeting guys at bars.. get to know the guy before you date him... don't just jump into a relationship and hope he's a trustworthy guy. I think that is what happens to most people. anyway, don't get too involved too quick, good luck to you.
2007-06-03 19:06:19 · answer #4 · answered by crash27_m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you learn to stop picking guys who cheat on you. That'll take a while. Then you can learn to trust.
2007-06-03 21:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you going to hate this
but it's your fault
you picked the guys
you accept them faults and all
you overlooked some aspect that made him a cheater
and so you ultimately get cheated on
there are certain things that you must require to get a faithful man
and most women do not look for those core values and qualities
rather they go for the superficial ( looks, job, moeny, car ) and then wonder why the key core values ( what really counts ) were not there when they get hurt
2007-06-03 19:21:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to have higher standards before getting involved. DONT jump into bed with them! WAIT until you really know them and that they want to be involved in your life and are not players or have traits that indicate they are not a one-woman man. I wish people were more honest, but a guy isnt going to mess up a steady booty call by opening his mouth.
2007-06-03 23:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by Marrs G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask an even more fundamental question. Why do you keep picking that kind of guys? If you find these guys in the bar, what do you expect? And what do you have to offer to more decent men so they want you?
2007-06-03 19:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. Or, if you prefer, follow President Ronald Reagan's quotation: "Trust, but Verify." ÐовеÑÑй, но пÑовеÑÑй.
2007-06-03 19:04:55 · answer #9 · answered by Mark 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it takes time. i have been cheated on and it hurts but u move past it and u meet new people. little by little u see wat kind of person he is and trust builds along
2007-06-03 19:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by prettyeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋