What if your elderly father was unable to get to the bathroom because his feet were turning black(you would later find out,it is gange green), while his wife stood and watched as the infection took its toll and you were called to come over to make the decision whether he was to go to the hospital? What if he then became hospitalized and you found out that his infection was costing him his life, because it hadn't been treated fast enough and she was signing his name to his checks without power of attorney, committing forgery, to pay her bills while he laid in the hospital suffering from dementia? Would you take her to court? What if she only went to see your father once a week, and shared the holidays with her grown children while your father was hooked up to an oxygen machine, drugged out of his mind to keep away the pain? Would you try to get her on neglect?What is she was taking a vacation with your father's money? To what extent would you go?
2007-06-03 11:59:33 · 10 answers · asked by nissa1 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Lets say she came up to you in the VA and started threatening you and the VA police had to be called and she tried to get you thrown out of there, because you were visiting your father, would you have left? Even if you yourself was a disabled veteran with every right to be there? Lets say she had a hearing for the probate court tomorrow and you never got notification, would you crash and contest the hearing without getting a lawyer because it was after hours when you heard about it? Would you get a restraining order on her after she threatened to kick you off your father's property, and threatened to stuff your a#@ on the curb?
2007-06-04 12:34:49 · update #1
I would get an attorney and have a new will drawn up for my father. You should check into the abuse of elderly laws in your state. Contact Health and Human Services (name may vary from state to state) and find out what can be done to help your father. Open up a new account for your father and have his checks deposited into it. She will have no access to the new one, use your address not your father's. Fight the BlTCH.
2007-06-03 12:06:31 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
As far as your father goes the woman that was suppose to be taken care of him, I am assuming this is his wife, can be turned into the department of human services, on neglect charges. She can be charged with neglect and forgery,if your father did not give her power of attorney over his financial affairs. If she has put your father in this much danger something needs to be done. You may can get her charged with attempted murder and if this was my father I would do anything humanly possible to take care of and get this woman out of the way before she does kill him, maybe you could get a restraining order to protect your father until you can get some other kind of help. Do what you can now and don't wait the longer you wait the harder it will be to prove. Good luck....
2007-06-10 23:55:59 · answer #2 · answered by unforgivenevr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the key phrase here was his wife. So the money is not his anymore but theirs. If they were living together and he did this I would save call the police and have her arrested.
But when these old people marry after there mate dies unfortunately this is what happens and you can't do a single thing about it.
Even pre-neptual agreements sometimes don't work.
Once they marry them they are fair game.
She doesn't sound like your mother so my guess is she is one of those women who find old men and take advantage of them. Nursing homes are full of them also. They are poor take a job as a nurses aid then find the man with the most money and profess to love him to death as this the love of her life. He gets out momentalily and they marry he has a nice home paid for and money in the bank. Then she waits until he dies and she is set up for life to find the next victum.
To bad their is nothing you can do. Some even look in the obtuaries for when their wife dies and where they live and how much they make. Then comes in asking for a job low pay to clean the house. The next thing the kids learn they went to the court house and got married. When he dies it all goes to her. all she has to say is he promised me we loved each other and how can you prove she didn't?
2007-06-03 12:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by Vanessa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you, my friend.
We are facing the same sort of situation with my mother and father. she is neglecting him while favoring our lazy deadbeat drug addict kid brother.
Get a lawyer who knows this kind of law. Make sure he knows what to do before you give him any money! If your father can't fight this fight, you have to do it for him. He deserves to be honored by you in this way and he will appreciate it more than you will ever know.
This woman knows she is doing wrong because she is being so sneaky. There is no dungeon too deep for her.
2007-06-11 10:59:12 · answer #4 · answered by MIKE F. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say what I would do , but this woman sure is a piece of work. Just let God take care of it. He will do whats best and for every sin you do on earth you will suffer on earth. So it looks like she'll sure suffer in the end.
2007-06-09 13:55:36 · answer #5 · answered by Simply_Patricia 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes report her, contact the DA, contest the will. She is guilty of many things, depraved indifference for one. I hope you are already on this. He is your father, you don't need permission to look out for him.
2007-06-11 08:22:53 · answer #6 · answered by Penny K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a lawyer could help you sort all that out. If someone did that to my dad I would sew her to the max.
2007-06-03 12:06:26 · answer #7 · answered by Judy W 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a lawyer.
2007-06-03 12:04:11 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If it was me I would take her to court
you Should beable to prove she was neglecting your father
2007-06-03 12:03:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you,it's not legal,what i'd do...
2007-06-03 12:03:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋