I have been married for 3 1/2 years. I do love my husband but have been thinking that I want to go out and experience life more. There is 13 year age difference ( he is older). He is not abusive and is an awesome father. I am kinda bored in the bedroom but he is willing to do anything for me and the kids.
2007-06-03 10:42:24 · 11 answers · asked by Tiffiny9880 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You love your husband, he is an awsome father and is prepared to do anything for you and the kids. He's a gem, and if you love him, then you will find a way to work this out. The 13 year age difference shouldnt mean much. Men are still in their prime sexually in their 50's and 60's. It is usually women who seem lose interest a lot sooner than men do. My partner is 56 and is a wonderful lover....you couldnt find better. He just loves the intimacy and is very open to new things. When you are in the bedroom.....show him you would like to do different things......take the initiative and show him what you like. If he is willing to do anything for you and the kids then he may just kind of enjoy doing different things in the bedroom too. If he loves you, then nothing is going to turn him off.....he will be very open to new and exciting things in the bedroom. It may take some time for him to get used to, but with consistency, he will learn how to be more exciting in the bedroom. A lot of men will hold back because they think it may turn the woman off. When I first became involved with my partner he was totally amazed that I wanted to have oral sex with him. He actually pushed me away the first time. He thought it was something that women felt they needed to do to please their man. Once he learned it was something I really enjoyed then it just got better from there on in.
Couldnt you go out with him and experience more of life WITH him. Trully, the age thing should not matter.....age is only a frame of mind. If you told him of the things you want to do, then maybe he will be only too happy to do them with you. He CAN be your best friend as well as your husband. He CAN be your confidante too. You just need to open up honestly about how you are feeling and maybe he will just surprise you at how young he really is. Nothing ventured, nothing gained and if you love him and he is as wonderful as you are saying, then I would be thinking twice about wanting to end the marriage.
2007-06-03 11:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All marriages tend to get stale at times. We sometimes take for granted what we have. Can you imagine your life without your husband? Have you thought about getting a sitter more often and the two of you go out on dates? When children come along it's easy to forget that you are a Wife and Mother. Try to plan you and him time, bedroom? IF he's willing to please you and try different things then you have a wonderful husband. Maybe if you do a pro and con list of your relationship with your husband. We always tend to want what we don't have. Try not to rush your decisions. Hope this helps, hang in there. There are others who know exactly how you feel. That's what is so great about this website, having honest opinions, and those who really want to help and not hurt.
2007-06-03 17:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by freebird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have the choice to get out of the marriage now since you already have children with him. Don't you think you should be grateful for having a husband who care for you and your kids? Nothing is perfect. You chose him knowing that there is a big age difference. Your kids can't pick who to be their parents. So, if you really don't want to stay married, wait till your kids are 18. You'll be happier if you didn't spoil their lives. Good luck.
2007-06-03 17:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by Silly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking about what you're "missing out on" and start thinking about what you have. A decent man that is an awesome father. The grass is not always, in fact RARELY, greener on the other side. Get out and get yourself some goods hobbies, continue your education, keep your self busy with good activities. And above all, put some time and attention on saving your marriage. The time spent doing that will save you so much grief in the future, also save your children grief.
2007-06-03 17:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by DK Julie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. I would recommend counseling and not necessarily a marriage counselor, but maybe a sex counselor. There are just so many ways to spice things up.
2. I have to wonder how old you are and how you feel about yourself as a person? You may be confusing your thoughts about boredom in your marriage vs boredom with yourself. Maybe some couseling for yourself would be helpful.
3. What you are experiencing is not unique, but how you handle it can be. So many people these days just give up so easily on things. If this man is a good as you say he is and you love him, I think your marriage deserves a fighting chance.
Good luck!
2007-06-03 18:08:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you may just need to spice things up a bit more and not just be a mommy and daddy. Get to know each other intimately again and go on date nights and stuff that way that spark comes back into your life. Also you may want to get a new hobby too. Something for you.
2007-06-03 17:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by wilfeistykitten2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless he commits adultery, you have no basis for divorce. Remember your wedding vows, for better or worse, in sickness and in health ,for richer and poorer until death do us part. If you divorce him when he has been faithful to you, anyone else you are with you will be committing adultery and making them commit adultery. That is the main down fall for marrying someone so much older than yourself. You have free will and you can choose to commit adultery if you want to, but you cannot choose the consequences and they are dire. You are treading on dangerous ground evening contemplating it.
2007-06-03 17:54:20 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce it only gets worse counseling only prolongs the misery. You probably got married at a young age and now realize you missed out on a lot of things.
2007-06-03 17:49:43 · answer #8 · answered by ADR 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
that why we always tell the girls or boys here do not marry too young, boy! do they ever listen! sometime we feel like talking to some bananas
2007-06-03 17:49:59 · answer #9 · answered by ubon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT CAN'T YOU EXPERIENCE W/HIM?? A FEW LOSSER BOYFRIENDS?? LISTEN YOU GOT A GOOD MAN, WHICH IS HARD TO COME BY, NOW A DAY. YOU BETTER HANG ON TO HIM. REMEBER "YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT YOU GOT UNTIL ITS GONE"
2007-06-03 21:52:10 · answer #10 · answered by mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋