today he compeletly lost it he was shouting at me n being so horrible for no reason atal i had done nothing!he kept sayin he would hurt me and that he had the right to disrespect me then he grabbed me n started pushing me back i hit him to get off me then he turned round n punched his door loads of times putin his fist right through it then he blamed it on me like he always does saying why did i get him so angry he kept threatening to beat me up then he picked me up and thrrew me out the door i was so scared and relieved to no it was al over but then he rang me and were meant to be meeting tomoz should i get back wiv him he told me he has an anger problem
2007-06-03 10:02:00 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow hes almost twice your age and i think that he is too dangerous for you to be going out with. he feels he has control over you witch is not what a relationship is about. If he threatens you when no one is around then it could be very dangerous. and by the way like most people have told you him being your boyfriend is really illegal and you shouldn't even post this
2007-06-04 17:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly your relationship is a tad on the illegal side. Also at any age, a hostile relationship is not worth sticking with. Tell him that unless he begins to go to anger management therapy then you can't see him. Has he ever hurt you/ tried to? What sets him off? Little things or fairly major things? How long has this been going on? Consider these things. Of this isn't the first time it is more than likely that it will just keep happening. At such a young and impressionable age, that is going to really mess you up for years to come with relationships should he hurt you. You have a right to be respected by your boyfriend and you can get yourself out of it.. If he ever threatens you again, call the cops. Remember, you are your first priority not your relationship.
2007-06-03 10:13:01 · answer #2 · answered by delovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a taste of what life WILL be (not MIGHT BE) with him til death do you part. Which could easily be the next time he gets mad. If a guy will treat a g/f like that, how much worse will he treat a wife like that? Why isnt he with a girl his OWN age? Because teen girls are easier to control.A MATURE adult woman would NEVER put up with that.Now lest say you had a daughter your age and you were say 36 and she was with a guy like this who did these things to her, what would you tell her to do/ 1. Oh honey stay with him, it might get better! Or 2. Call 911 and leave while he in jail come back home.
You'd pick # 2. Now go home to your parents and tell them you screwed up that they were right and you were wrong.
2007-06-03 10:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right off the bat I have to tell you it was hard for me to follow your story because you lack punctuation...there are no periods at the ends of any of your sentences.
With that said, here is my take on how things are for you right now: you should not be dating an adult and certainly not someone that is just about double your age. For crying out loud, where are your parents? Do they know about this guy?
You should go with your gut: you know you don't deserve to be treated the way he treats you. So stop seeing him. The better question is why do you continue to go back to a man you know abuses you? Why do you allow him to treat you this way? Don't you know you deserve better than him?
Oh, one more thing: the next time ANYONE assaults you, pick up the phone (or go to another safe location) and call the police. And once they take this person away in the police car, do the right thing and follow thru and press charges and not chicken out.
2007-06-03 10:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by QueenLori 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, where I come from, a 16 year old girl and a 31 year old man, is a crime. It's called statutory rape. The next step for him, is putting you in the hospital. Ask yourself a question. Do you really want to be in this situation? You are 16 for pete's sake! Hang out with kids your own age and have some fun. Get out of this mess.
2007-06-03 10:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by che_rae_gra53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off your only 16 and he is 31! He is way too old for you and he knows it! If you're in this relationship get out of it because you should be dating boys your own age. And if he is being abusive then this is even more of a reason to not go around him again. I know you probably thought it was pretty exciting that a guy that age thinks your hot enough to go out with. No, he was being a sleazy pig because women his age won't have anything to do with him because he is really messed up.
2007-06-03 10:14:13 · answer #6 · answered by wilfeistykitten2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're too young to be with a 31 year old...Come on , he was already almost your age when you were born!! You shouldn't be with him in the first place, & NO you should't get back with him!! Why would you want to be with someone who hits you? That's not good.. You can say he "loves" you, but I think if a person loves someone, they'll never put their hands on them. He keeps blaming you for things & that's gonna kill your self-esteem. Get away from him, & soon. Don't go back to him because that's just gonna make him think he's always going to get what he wants.
2007-06-03 10:09:22 · answer #7 · answered by livelaughlove89 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not see him again. He will hurt you one day. Your mental health is being messed up. Think about what he has done. Why are you putting up with it? Love? That is not love. Takes care of you? Heck no. Makes you feel good? Hey, you were scared the other day, that is definitely out. There is no good reason to stay with him. He may give you good sex but that is not enough, besides, the price is too high. He doesn't care about you and blames you for the way he acts? Please! tell him to get real!! He does not care about you. Get out. Get out now. Good Luck
2007-06-03 10:15:36 · answer #8 · answered by Modern Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN AWAY from him now, directly to your parents and the police and tell them everything that's happened. The relationship in itself is illegal and he knows better. He should be in jail for assault at the very least!
Do not go back to him. He is the one with the problem and this is not your fault. You need to get as far away from him as possible. Things like this will never improve, no matter how much he promises to change. You don't want to wind up in the hospital or dead, do you?
2007-06-03 10:10:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl let me tell you something. under no circumstances should you ever, EVER put up with some guys "anger problems". it's those "anger problems" that lead young, naive (im sorry to say it but at your age most girls are) girls to their grave. Dont get back with him. move on. the guys a jerk and too old for you anyways. you should be thinking about what college to go to and your SATs not stressing over some jerk. if i were you, i would run far away from him and never look back. its for your own good
2007-06-03 10:09:35 · answer #10 · answered by medmia01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋