If your mate cheated would you ever truly be able to forgive them?

Answer 1

Yes I think its possible. It would be hard and the person who cheated would have to show the other that, it would be hard work but if you could put it pass you then your relationship in the future could be better, but if it continues then there's no excuse for either one of you. After its done with and if you have forgave your mate then forgive and forget. Don't bring it up all the time cause it could hinder the relationship.

Answer 2

There's no quick answer to this question. It is totally dependent on the person involved and your history together. For example: Has it happened before? How long have you been together? Was it a one night stand or a long drawn out affair? Are children involved? Is it possible for the person still "run into" the other? Do they work together? The list of questions can go on and on. My immediate gut instinct is to say that I might forgive them but the relationship would be over, but you never truly know what you'll do until you get there.

Answer 3

Yes you can forgive. You make the decision with your mind first and then it takes a while to get down to your heart. God says you have to forgive everyone, every transgression against you. But that doesn't mean you have to lay down and be their doormat. It will be very hard to regain any kind of trust with them. Trust will have to be earned by your mate.
When ever it comes up into your thoughts again, remind yourself that you have forgiven the hurt and pray for your mate and pray God will help you.

Answer 4

I've heard of people claiming they have forgiven but I don't know if I believe that is truly possible.

My personal experience is that sometimes they can't even let go of the suspicion with any subsequent partners. I was continually accused of cheating because his ex did.

I guess it would depend on the person and their level of self worth. There are many factors that could affect the willingness and ability to forgive.

Answer 5

Yes forgive, God desires that. However, I'm pretty sure the relationship would be over. I had a wonderful friend who kept forgiving. Eventually she got physically ill, lost much weight and couldn't sleep, she had to let go of the marriage because 'forgiving' is no guarantee the cheater will change. You forgive for your own sake, I guess..

Answer 6

you can always forgive them. however forgetting is the hard part. you have to find it in yourself to decide whether or not. you can move passed this and carry on in the relation ship. and if your mate is trully sorry for this action they will go out of there way to remove most any of the fears you have about them doing it again. it is something that may take a long time to get past but yes it is possible.

Answer 7

If it has happened to you--you might be wondering if you can ever truly totally forgive--to my experience--i cant.....i try and think that i have and actually try to but never do--too many different memories and bad feelings and thoughts go through my head and it all comes back to me and i start the anger and the hate all over again---ill see something or hear something from someone and me looking like the fool jumps out at me and makes me really mad--although I do still live with my husband--(we are now divorced though) i cant get things back the way he would like me to get them back ---when he acts as if hes never done anything to me--it makes me really mad to the point that i want to kick him out again--theres just also too many things that i dont know i think that i wonder about all the time--that i just cant let go of--i dont know if i ever want to know--probably not--but i still feel like theres a lot that i dont know and that makes me mad too--most of the time i live right here with him and hate him--i hope that you can make things work if it happened to you --i cant

Answer 8

The problem isn't forgiving its forgetting . You can go for days weeks months without feeling hurt and loving everything about them then one day they do something like check out a person and all those memories come back of all the hell you went threw . Maybe if you had amnesia you could

Answer 9

yes, depending on the situation. if it was a one time thing that happened and after much talking and expressing of each others feelings, i could forgive. as for trusting like some have mentioned, if i forgave him enough to not end things, then eventually id be able to trust him. people make mistakes. you have to look at the person and the whole situation.

Answer 10

Truly? No, I wouldn't be able to forgive, nor could I forget. That's just me, though. I wouldn't judge other people if they were to give it a try, you never know what goes on behind the closed doors of others.