Found the love of my life but he didn't want to know me just 'cos I've gained 3 stone. Has anyone else experienced this,as he loved me at 8 stone, but obviously not at 11 stone. I am really sad as I was always hoping that when my husband died ( he now has) I could go back to my schoolboy lover. Devastated - please help as I have no other direction.
2007-06-03 09:00:56 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-06-03 11:33:40 · answer #1 · answered by Dreams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a start the weight you've described doesn't sound ridiculously obese. Things change over the years - I'm not that much heavier but god knows my body looks totally different to when I was at school!
Also, why have you been hanging on for this guy for so long? Have you been in touch with him at all over the years or did you just contact him out of the blue? Maybe concentrating on him and your idea of him helped you get through your husbands death?
It's easy to look back at past relationships/partners when we're not happy in life and think 'what if' or 'should we never have broken up' - remember that you didn't stay together for a reason back then and what makes you think that will have changed over the years?
If you feel unhappy or unfulfilled in your life you need to learn to be happy with yourself before you can have a successful relationship - if you want to loose weight do it for yourself, not to make someone else like you. Try joining a club where you can meet other people, try new activities and loose weight healthily with realistic goals.
Find things that you enjoy doing - going for a walk, watching your favourite movie, reading a good book - there's loads of things to do out there so try not to focus on something that is making you miserable!
Good luck x
2007-06-04 02:41:49 · answer #2 · answered by Badgrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes i get you i was a fat kid at school all the hunks would ignore me i had a crush on one person he called me names all the usual rubbish then i grew up and was a ripe 9 half stone, was in a night club one night and guess who i should see oh yes Lady's it was the boy i had a crush on and yes he was looking like a tanned Adonis he had the young women circling him as if he was god , I hated this dick now so i told my mates i had a plan , first i made eye contact luckily for me he didn't recognize me, then i stood close to him at the bar making sure i ignored him ( treat em mean keep em keen) it worked as he came over and looked at me and kissed me and started feeling my *** cheeky bxxxxxd how dare he i thought so i started to feel his u know what got it out for all to see and left him standing there at the bar but only after saying its just to small for me. i had to make a swift exit then from the club as his mates were on the war path. IT FELT GREAT
2007-06-03 09:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are now three stone more gorgeous than you were before and if he can't appreciate that well his loss. Just remind him he has less sperm, less hair and less testosterone than he did before -
Kicking a man in the EGO is always the place it hurts the most!!
2007-06-03 09:07:45 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah J 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds pretty shallow if hes just 'not interested' because you've put on 3 stone tell him hes not exactly the guy your remember either
2007-06-03 09:06:11 · answer #5 · answered by Pinkhatlady 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can't stand fat people/
The solution to your problem is easy - lose three stone. You do this by cutting out all junk food, eating less, but sensibly, and doing lots of exercise. It will take time, but anyone can lose weight if they follow these simple rules. I used to weight 13 stone. I now weight 10 stone 8. Only you can help you.
2007-06-03 09:07:23 · answer #6 · answered by Dellboy from UK 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Was this husband the same one who you got to have the snip 20 years ago? Poor bloke.
2007-06-03 09:06:57 · answer #7 · answered by *~STEVIE~* *~B~* 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well 2day i was lookin for an old friend and as soon as my hubby saw a message i recieved he went nuts so im gonna stay the f*** away its not worth it let the past stay there.
2007-06-03 09:04:44 · answer #8 · answered by kelly t 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
what is 3 stone, 8 stone, 11 stone
2007-06-03 09:04:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
If the reason this guy doesn't want to be with you is weight, then forget him. I know it's easier said then done, but you don't want to be with someone that only wants you for your looks. I know it's hard, but time will heal the hurt. Good luck! :)
2007-06-03 09:28:46 · answer #10 · answered by Linz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not pissed yet Mrs Tart. Just put on more weight plenty of chubby chasers out there hmmmm!
2007-06-03 09:49:50 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋