We have been togetther for 10 years now and recently got married about 3years ago. We have 2 beauitful boys and a pretty up and down relationship. Only because we have both Have had our fair share of bad mistakes..I would say i hurt him the worst and live with that guilt everyday!!!! Theres not one day yhat i dont hate myself or blame my self.. Right now He works 5 days out of he week and is sometime gone for 20 hrs. His job does consiste of him being gone that long (i think).I also work 4 days too and i am a bartender,I am not that big of a drinker so i hardly ever go up there when i am not working and if i do its with my man anyway!!! Well he is a drinker and loves to play pool so he is up there a lot.Our issues are that i dont ever get to see him and either do my boys and when he dose have time off then he is always gone or at the bar !!! Latley he goes up there after work and dosent call to tell me or even invite me to come with.I an begging him for time and he ignores Help!!!!
2007-06-03 07:32:37 · 5 answers · asked by hotmomma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well sounds as though he is not that into you anymore. Whatever you did that you can not forgive yourself for maybe he hasn't either.
Marriage counseling might work because there is a disconnect somewhere in your relationship.
2007-06-03 07:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a sitter, make a great romantic meal and TALK about you feelings,come to a compromise about how much is too much @ the bar (i have seen more bars ruin a marriage than I can mention) Leave the past in the past and move on to the future for you and your kids, they need their Dad around and it sounds you both can be a Little selfish @ times maybe you both should agree to put you family first in all decisions. Good Luck
2007-06-03 14:40:48 · answer #2 · answered by dinosaurmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that his family has to come first if you two are going to succeed as a couple. Write us back when you have had a good conversation about how family has to come first, and tell us what his response was.
Also tell him what you wrote to us above...or better yet, show him this post and then discuss your question and all the different answers. Dont worry if many of the answers say give up, focus on the ones that don't say that unless the two of you call it quits.
2007-06-03 14:46:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both need to quit the bar ! You could get a job online," there are good ones" then give him a choice,you and the kids and home or he will be living alone ! To be a family sometimes you gotta make a stand.
2007-06-03 14:46:22 · answer #4 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you might not like this answer but you answered it yourself about 3 times in that question. I hate to be hypocritical here but maybe if you got a job where you didn't contribute to his delinquency you would probably be able to answer the (I think) question already. Also, if he was like that before you were married the chances of you changing him are slim to none so do y'all both a favor and please don't try. So the best thing you can do is not to nag him for doing it but when he is home make it hard for him to leave. Girls, can never understand that.
2007-06-03 14:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by Joe G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋