If You Supported Your Children Through-Out Their Young Years , But 1 Of Them Became A Terrorist. . . . . . . .

Question

Would that be your fault ?


Think about that the next time any of you try to blame the USA for supporting somebody who we 'thought' was going to do good , but ended up becoming a brutal dictator or a terrorist !!

Really, really think about that .

And think about this . . . .. Just how frustrating and painful would it be to see your kid kill others and then you'd be hounded for a lifetime for their 'TURN TOWARDS EVIL' ?

Would it be right or fair for all of us to blame you ?

And sorry , but I must say this . Answer the question first. . . . and if you have something else to add , then only add it AFTER you answer . If any of you need help understanding the question, just ask !!
Thank you .

Moneta - You had me at hello. . . .I mean , you had me at two-pronged . That's pretty close to where I stand .

Answer 1

I think the answer is two-pronged.

First: Parents are the cornerstone to who and what their children grow to be. You can't take the acclaim for good kids while simultaneously rejecting blame for bad kids.

Second: Parents have abdicated moral teachings to the government via our school system, and to the MSM.

In defense of parents, in many cases, raising our children has been wrenched from our hands, since discipline is considered a bad thing. We aren't supposed to instill, fear, guilt or accountability in their hearts anymore.

Until parents resume the raising of their children, this problem will only grow larger with greater consequences.

Answer 2

Your headline Q.
If there were no signs of abnormality when the child was growing up and as an adult something occured that reversed and altered his thinking to the degree that he became a terrorist, (and we all have many different definitions for that), then of course the parents could not be blamed and hounded for their upbringing of the child.
By the same token, if the USA helped and gave aid to any country with leaders that were trying their level best to lift that country out of the stone age and into the 21st century, then that would be commendable. If leaders in that country were replaced, overthrown, or had a drastic ' change of heart ' then of course the USA should not be blamed. There should not have been any signs that there would be any uprooting of the initial positive direction that country was taking.
The problem is that a lot of aid, help, money, connivence, and inaccurate judgements were expended on countries that did not have high ideals, but were theoretically important to the USA.This is also why we have a backlash to Iraq, Afganistan, Viet Nam, Panama, Cuba and even Nicaragua.

Everyone, including me, is confused!!...............Thank you.

Answer 3

Maybe and maybe not. Moneta did give a really good answer.
With so many single parent homes these days and that one a working parent, it is awfully hard to have the kind of influence on the child that a parent should prefer.
I have a friend, who took a promotion at work which resulted in a transfer to another city. The city was New Orleans. We used to go over to their house when we were young and didn't have much money. We would play cards and their lovely daughter played in the floor.
The years passed and the girl grew up in New Orleans and became addicted to drugs. My friend got another promotion and moved to another city. His beautiful daughter had been through drug rehab and everyone thought she was clean. She flew to visit her Mom and Dad. Within just a few hours, she found a drug dealer, bought some heroin, and died of an overdose.
Did my friend or his wife neglect the daughter? I don't know, but it is possible their neglect led to the untimely death. Then again, maybe it is unrealistic to expect that you can have enough control to keep the child out of trouble, especially when they attend public schools.
One thing I am sure of, my friend and his wife will always blame themselves whether they actually should or not.

Answer 4

You raise your children while giving them two things..... Roots and wings.

You want them to have a good base to start out with and you want them to be strong enough to branch out on their own.. You want to give them the ability to leave the nest and survive.

But you and your family are not the only thing that makes up your child. There are many outside influences that add to your child's make up.

But as a mother and now a grandmother who is raising 2 of her grandchildren I can tell you something else... I do not blame parents when children go bad. I hurt because I know that the mother must be dying inside to know that her child could have cause such death and destruction.

But I also know that as a mother, you will find a way to blame yourself for any wrong doing that your child has done.

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Answer 5

No, I don't think as a parent we are responsible for how our children come out all we can do is try to teach them good morals but in the end it is up to the child to do what is right. Children learn by many different sources their peers, the media, and their parents.That is why i believe you can have two children brought up by the same parents and both children can be so different.
I would be crushed if one of my children turned out to be a terrorist, murderer or rapist.
I personally have never blamed the parents but blame the person who has done the evil and think it is unfair to blame anyone else.

Answer 6

Actually, I do fault parents for their children's actions. I believe more parents should be held accountable for their children's abhorrent behaviors.

I'll never forget the news story about 5 years ago when two YOUNG children (6 & 10) lured a little toddler from his parents at a shopping mall and brutally murdered the toddler in a field outside the mall. The children were found guilty and were I actually admitted to an institution.

But, what about the parents? Where the hell did these two young punks learn such behavior? Children's behaviors are learned behaviors. The BIGGEST role model in any child's life are his/her parents. Someone modeled this behavior for them. One answer... their parents.

Fast forward 30 years to a grown child. Look at Kim Jong il. Look at the crazy madman he's become. Who has he modeled his life after... his father... another crazed madman... Kim il Sung. As the saying goes... "like father like son".

Although I agree with your point, you might want to use a different analogy.

Answer 7

Earnest T., my good friend, if one of my kids became a terrorist, I would feel personally responsible like I somehow let that kid down, and I would cooperate with the people who were trying to stop him. Putting trust in the leader of a Country and having them turn to the dark side isn't quite like having a kid go bad, but I do understand your analogy. If I were the leader of the Free World, and I assisted the leader in another country, only to have him become something sub-human, I would feel that it's my personal responsibility to undo what I did and help those who want to turn things around. It's OK to admit a mistake and then correct it. I wish more of our politicians understood that. As crazy as it sounds, I think that's exactly what Allen Dulles was doing with Cuba when Kennedy made him stop, and we've been paying (and the Cuban people have also been paying) for that mistake for 47 years.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Maybe we should ask Timothy McVeigh's parents how they feel. I know I don't blame them for the Oklahoma City bombings. I don't even think about them when I consider that atrocity. A parent can only love and nurture and try to the best of their ability to steer their children in the right direction. There are many outside influences that affect how people feel and think once they are no longer around the influences of their parents. I believe you can feel bad for the parents, you cannot necessarily blame them.
As for the US supporting brutal dictators...obviously the two that come to mind are Osama bin Laden and Saddam Hussein. Both times we supported these individuals it was to serve our own purposes. Saddam against the Iranians and bin Laden against the Soviets. There are always going to be shady characters that we must deal with on an "ally" type basis, we just have to decide how to handle them once they are of no use to us and we are of no use to them.

Answer 10

I really don't think that this is a valid analogy. We were in no way similar to a loving parent to Saddam Hussein or the Taliban. We supported both of them because it was in our best interest. Saddam was fighting a war with Iran. We knew he was a brutal dictator; yet we perceived it to be in our best interest to support him. Likewise the Taliban were fighting a war with the USSR in Afghanistan.