i met this guy who i really like and feel that i'm falling in love with... but, previously before i met him my ex-boyfriend's mother invited me to visit at her house and go to a revival with her and this revival happens to be the revival the guy i currently have feelings for is going to be at and if i go i won't be able to spend time with him cause i don't want to hurt my ex's mothers feelings.. my question is should i go visit are would it just cause trouble and i lose my current guy?
please answer quickly
2007-06-03 04:31:38 · 15 answers · asked by nikkiblue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All I know is you won't catch my shoes anywhere near a revival, no matter how cute the guys are...
2007-06-03 04:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is quite an interesting situation. It would be helpful to know how long your ex-boyfriend and you were going out; did his mom ask you to go to the revival while you two were still together or after, if you two are broke up why are you and his mom still talking, does the ex-boyfriend mind if you and his mom talk, what was the cause of that breakup, and is your ex-boyfriend going to be there also. Knowing that info will help me to put myself in your shoes better. Now if you feel you are falling in love with this current guy and feel he is feeling the same for you then don't let anything stop you two from being together. Here are 2 big questions to ask yourself and maybe by answering these questions to yourself you will have your answers. How would this current guy feel about you hanging out with your ex-boyfriend's mom? How would you feel if he was hanging out with his ex-girlfriend's Dad? If you are still having trouble answering these questions then talk with the guy you are in love with and see what he says about it. Goodluck. Life is really simple but people insist on making it difficult.
2007-06-03 04:48:11 · answer #2 · answered by Tgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You talk about this guy you're falling in love with, your ex-bf's mother invited you to a revival, and then you close by mentioning your current guy.
Sounds to me like if you currently have a guy, and the lady inviting you to the revival is the mother of your EX, then she knows you're dating others, so if you end up chatting w/this new boy you're infatuated with, she shouldn't be surprised and it's really none of her business since it's not HER son you're stepping out on.
As far as the current guy versus the new guy goes, you need to decide how serious you are about the current guy. Is it worth hurting his feelings for this new guy? Is your current relationship a long-standing one? Is your current guy good to you? How special is the relationship w/your current guy. Then weigh that against what you may lose by choosing the new guy or what you may gain by choosing the new guy.
Once you break up wth the current guy, you may (probably) won't be able to go back if things don't work out w/the new guy. Is that what you want?
You have to get your priorities in order, define to yourself what you want out of life, how to go about getting what you want while trying to cause the least amount of pain to others as possible (not using others as stepping stones to accomplish your own goals), and making life in general better for those around you. Which guy will be the best for those things and would treat you the best?
Then make the decision.
2007-06-03 04:39:23 · answer #3 · answered by funin317 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would cause trouble. Don't go. Just sit this one out and go to another revival with your ex's mother.
2007-06-03 04:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by Stephen B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A couple of things..... If your "current" guy is going to the revival, and he hasn't ask you to go with him, then you are absolutely open to go with your ex b/f mom. If he HAS ask you to go with him then tell your exb/f mom if you and she could go a different time. OR - you can ask your current guy, if he minds that you are going with someone else.
Hope it works out for you.
2007-06-03 05:06:01 · answer #5 · answered by Dog Mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with him and tell him you have a prior commitment that you don't feel it would be fair to break. Explain who it is and that the two of you have maintained a friendship even though the relationship with the son no longer exists. If he's the guy for you, he will respect your courtesy to another person.
2007-06-03 04:40:05 · answer #6 · answered by flopstock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go with your ex's mom and if you see that guy there talk to him. Bring him over and introduce him to her. Your not doing anything wrong so I'm not sure what your stressing about. The fact that you are still friends with your ex's mom shows your mature and have respect.
2007-06-03 04:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by Angela C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell ex's mom you have met someone new and let her know you will be there with new guy. She will understand, why would'nt she. Keep it real with her and you won't have a problem.
2007-06-03 04:40:00 · answer #8 · answered by lynnette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Kidding Right ?
ur going to a place where ur current guy that u like and THINK ur falling in love with , and ur going to IGNORE him while ur there , wake up and smell what ur shoveling ! u dont love this guy , sounds to me like ur a user ,, U love this guy ? i think not , u may want to call him before this event takes place and tell him not to show up , or dont go urself , if u done me that way i would tell u were to stick it !!!!!
2007-06-03 04:41:19 · answer #9 · answered by R S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain the situation to your new boyfriend completely and tell him youre not sure as what to do,in that you dont want to start trouble with him. He will let you know
2007-06-03 04:40:39 · answer #10 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋