I work as a manager in my office and there is this married guy who is a reporter, he's not doing an investigative story or anything but he's working on an issue that will directly affect his finances. I have helped this guy out so much, but he continues to ask for more and more information and I am no longer able to help him and he knows it.
But, for whatever reason he wants my private home email address and I gave him my cell number. He likes to call me
or come to my work around 4:00 p.m. at least twice a week and we'll stay there until about 7 or 8:00 p.m. strategizing how to resolve his issues.
I have no intentions on making out with him, and I don't understand why I am having dreams of making out with him.
His wife called and indicated that she really wanted to meet with me. His wife is 11 years older than him and I am 3 years older than him. I have no problem meeting with her. I really don't understand why he keeps coming around me...
2007-06-03 04:28:12 · 20 answers · asked by Ebonee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Keep your relationship strictly professional. Staying at work with him until 7 or 8 has obviously made his wife suspicious. Your dreams have picked up on something too. You need to set some limits with him.
2007-06-03 04:37:10 · answer #1 · answered by MNature 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This reminds me of a lady I know who wanted to know if she had to go to bed with a man she'd never met who propositioned her on the phone. She wasn't sure if she should do it, but he was a minister and maybe God was telling her to screw him . . .
Where's your backbone, girl? This man has no business involving you in his issues. You could lose your job if his story DOES turn out to be 'investigative' (which it probably IS). Change your cellphone number and refuse to see or speak to him under any circumstances or for any reason whatsoever.
You are at best an unpaid assistant and at worst a real patsy. Start making yourself busy. Go volunteer at a senior citizens' home, take up knitting with a passion, or join 3 clubs by tomorrow afternoon.
Or maybe this is all a joke . . .
2007-06-03 05:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet the wife and find out what she wants. Do it in a public place; not where you work. Have a friend who will call you about 15 minutes after the appointed time, so you can escape if need be. Or have one or two friends be in the same location--like a coffee shop or restaurant.
2007-06-03 04:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by M S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you are not- so- secretly enjoying the situation.
If you are an office manager, I will assume you are not stupid, normally. I will also assume that you are choosing to be stupid in this situation if you are really trying to convince yourself you haven't a clue why he keeps coming around.
If you want to jump him, you don't need any ones approval. But don't expect even a group of strangers on the Internet to 'buy' that you are clueless here.
2007-06-03 04:47:28 · answer #4 · answered by flopstock 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I t sound as if your young and he is taking advantage of that. Kinda of like manipulating you to spend time so he will get what he wants, which is to sleep with you. His wife knows whats up, weather you have had a relationship with him or not. She will probably let you know that she isn't cool with your friendship and or he's done this before. My advise is to stay away from him do yourself a favor lat someone else be his friend.
2007-06-03 04:37:36 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, his wife in her mind believes he is cheating, and she do not trust him, with good reason, on her end. You need to cut this guy short, simply because he is a misleading person, and you a not interested. His older wife must now look alot older and he's now looking for another older, but younger looking woman. He should be at home stratgizing with is wife.
2007-06-03 04:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by lynnette 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cause he is a jerk and wants to have an affair. I'd tell his wife what he is like around you, cause women know. She knows that he is not acting normal......she wants to confront you. Tell her the truth, that he is coming on to you, but you are not interested and know he is married. She'll be happy that he was trying to do that with you, and not with some bimbo that WOULD sleep with him! They can then work out their problems, and I doubt he'll hang around you so much anymore :P
Either that, or he's scouting for them to have a 3some, and thought you'd be the ideal choice, and now she wants to see before buying! :P
2007-06-03 04:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by vega_five 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a Hindu you should get your first wife divorced If you do not get divorce you can not marry a second woman. As a Muslim girl ,she can not marry a Hindu unless you are converted to Islam.
2016-05-20 01:10:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to get into your pants and you are being kind of receptive without realizing it. He's making excuses to spend time with you and you are letting him. If you don't want to have alot of trouble just lay it all on the line for him and tell him you don't want any kind of relationship because he is married. And I wouldn't meet up with her because she's just trying to warn you off. Just tell her the facts too. That you don't want a relationship with her husband.
2007-06-03 04:37:55 · answer #9 · answered by Stephen B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to completely avoid him, as much as possible. When it affects your job that is when things get to be too much. Tell him you are busy working on another project to talk with him when he goes there so late, and you only give your private email to your family, whatever you can think of, to get him away from you. As long as you keep giving him information, and talking to him, he will keep doing it.
2007-06-03 04:32:23 · answer #10 · answered by WE 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋