I asked a question a while ago about 3 being a crowd, my friend had gone off with someone else and left me. I was told to maybe talk to her, and get a 4th friend. I thought this would be alright.
HOWEVER
She's still being off. I'm increasingly getting shoved away by this new girl, who is really nice by the way, and I guess it makes it harder. They leave me out of everything, they don't even phone me when a whole group of people are going out, they practically live in each others houses. I told my friend, she said she'd do something, she really hasn't.
I dont understand why she just went off me. We were really good friends... why does she just go off? She told me that when she was looking for more friends, and she was sorry for leaving me out. I'm fine with her with other people, but she really has cut me out. Sometimes she flat out ignores me.
Why does she do this? How can someone who seemed really nice just turn in to a secretly horrible person?
2007-06-03 04:16:48 · 9 answers · asked by tialaingo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She doesn't seem like a very nice person. Sounds like she just wants to have fun, with the most fun people, and will leave anyone else in the dust. Move and, and make better friends!
2007-06-03 04:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by vega_five 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
below is a poem, don't know who wrote it to give them the credit, but i felt it has helped me understand things better when a friendship ends. especially notice this line: "Then, without any wrong doing on your part,
or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something
to bring the relationship to an end. "
hope this helps.
People come into your life for a Reason, a season, or a Lifetime.
When you know which one it
is for a person, you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it
is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty,
to provide you with guidance and support,
to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.
They may seem like a Godsend,
and they are!
They are
there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrong doing on your part,
or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something
to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and
force you to take a stand.
What
we must realize is that our need has been met,
our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered,
and now it is time to move
on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons:
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the
lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use
in all other relationships
and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thank you for being a part
of my life!
2007-06-03 11:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by casw1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think i know how you feel, i did the same thing to one of my friend before. Of course she will never tell you the truth. But look at the group of people that she is hanging out with right now, are the different then herself?(like you know more popular, i prefer to call them sluts but anyways, more athletic...)If they are then ask her why did she change her self, just to fit in with those people, and leaving her true friend behind.and if they're just ordinary people, then its her lost..=) and getting yourself someone new (as a friend) to get her jealous is not the answer.
2007-06-03 11:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by smplytffny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through this exact situation -- Friend "couples" change/grow/breakup just like traditional "couples". There will be typical cycles of happiness, and frustration. Sounds like she is trying to 'find her friendship match' and unfortunately her
'friendship ideals' don't match up with yours. This doesn't mean you are any less of a 'good friend', you are.... I found that doing stuff I love (water sports), I found some great friends ... Are all those people I interact with my friends, absolutely not..
i hope this helps.
2007-06-03 11:26:53 · answer #4 · answered by jubjub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person likes you, he/she wouldn't leave you out of things ie true friends will never do that to you. People change. Move on, be a better person and find a new friend.
2007-06-03 11:25:38 · answer #5 · answered by Bonna Feeday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend might not really be a friend!!!! consider searching for a new gal pal... she could be better that the last one :) Don't sweat it she will soon realize what shes missing.
2007-06-03 11:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by steph 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she heard that you talking about her or something, i don't know, and noone else really could know either except her!
2007-06-03 11:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually no they havent im always pretty picky about who i pick on but usually its no one
2007-06-03 11:21:25 · answer #8 · answered by monno 125 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them how you feel.
2007-06-03 11:18:45 · answer #9 · answered by engineer46526 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋