My husband saying that he is talking to her xwife regarding his son. why my husband not happy with my 12 yrs old son. and he always happy when his own son come to our home. His way of talking to his son and with my son is diffrent. My husband spending money, food for my son but not that cheer as a one father. Always my son feel alown. what i have to do.
2007-06-03 04:05:20 · 11 answers · asked by SUR 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is the most selfish question I have ever read on here. I don`t even want to get into explaining why it`s important for him to talk to his ex and why his own son is important to him. You are jealous of the attention your husband gives his own son, and you`re jealous your husband needs to talk to his ex concerning his son. If your son feels alone spend time with him and get his own father to spend time with him.
2007-06-03 04:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST THING YOU HAVE TO DO IS TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND AND TELL HIM HOW YOUR SON FEELS ABOUT THE WHOLE SITUATION. I GATHER THIS SON IS NOT HIS. AM I CORRECT? WELL THE FATHER YOUR HUSBAND, WILL ALWAYS FEEL CLOSER TO HIS OWN SON, ONE HE DOESN'T LIVE WITH HIM, SO HE IS GLAD WHEN HE SEES HIM. AND ANOTHER THAT IS HIS BLOOD, YOU CANNOT BLAME THE MAN FOR THAT.. NOW YOU CAN TELL HIM HOW YOUR SON FEELS, AND MAYBE HE WILL TRY TO ACCOMMODATE YOUR SON ALSO. WHERE IS THE FATHER FOR YOUR SON? IS HE IN HIS LIFE? YOU NEED TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR SON, AND FIND HIS NATURAL FATHER, HE IS THE ONE THAT YOU SHOULD BE CONCERNED ABOUT, NOT YOUR HUSBAND, IAM SURE HE IS DOING THE BEST HE CAN BEING THAT IS NOT HIS NATURAL SON.
I DON'T MEAN TO BE DISRESPECTFUL TO YOU, BUT YOU HAVE TO LOOK AT IT FROM BOTH END OF THE SPECTRUM. GOOD LUCK.
2007-06-03 04:14:23 · answer #2 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is drawn to his own son for that exact reason; blood relative where as your son is only related to him by marriage. Hes not being fair to both boys no matter how theyre related to him shouldnt matter, but to him it does. Youre probably drawn closer to your own son more than his buts thats just natural when it comes to blood relatives. You can bring this to his attention and hopefully soon it will dawn to him what hes doing and straighten this out but expect it to continue for a littl while longer til he figures this out. Without starting marital problems there isnt much more you can do. Good luck
2007-06-03 04:15:59 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a sad situation but maybe your husband feels he spend more time with your son than he does with his own so he trys to make up for missed time ....he should be intitled to time with his own son on his own but also needs to make the effort with your son as well seeing as he lives with him ..
hope it all works out
you need to talk
2007-06-03 04:09:24 · answer #4 · answered by sweetchant1lly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi Bethany, honey your son's gay no remember in case you like it or no longer. Being gay isn't a sin and in case you have been truly Christian you will not be ingesting shellfish or placed on clothing made out of two categories of fabric. you will desire to study to be greater open minded, you do no longer additionally recognize for effective that god even exists and yet you employ him as an excuse to be close-minded and sort of caught up if i'm truthful. He has a mag with bare adult men in it for gods sake take a sprint additionally he's a 17 365 days previous boy he has an incredible sort of hormones working by way of him, he's probable additionally masturbating. As to what you will desire to do approximately this: enable him recognize which you recognize yet additionally you will desire to enable him recognize that that's okay to be gay. Boys are 4 cases greater in all threat to commit suicide than women and in case you do no longer settle on your son the way he's then you certainly're a terrible person because of the fact i'm effective the bible taught you to love your infants. in assessment to regular thought, you are able to no longer decide on once you're gay or no longer, in case you do not have self belief me then evaluate this: why could everyone decide directly to be close out out of your loved ones and called a shame and be bullied on a each and on a daily basis foundation?
2016-10-09 09:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with jane marple. it sounds like you are simply jealous of your husbands first family, and that is incredibly unfair to him and selfish of you. i am a single dad, my son lives with me, and my ex-wife and i are still good friends. anyone ive dated that had a problem with that got kicked to the curb immediately. i was actually engaged and called off the wedding because of jealousy issues.
as far as the treatment of your son, i agree...tell him about it...but not at the expense of HIS son.
if you complain about his talking to his ex, though, he may be looking for a 3rd wife. i would!
2007-06-03 04:33:54 · answer #6 · answered by bowke28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband about it. It's not uncommon for people to show favoritism for their own kids over their step-kids, but it's not very kewl.
Communicate. The only way to fix issues in your relationship is to take them up with him..
2007-06-03 04:09:27 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since they are the 2 NATURAL parents of that child its pretty smart for them to talk to each other about the boy. You are going to have to buck up and just deal with it cause its not your place...he has a mother.
2007-06-03 04:09:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you should take grammar and spelling lessons. Secondly, you need to tell him to stop being a jerk because there is another son involved here, not just his. it should be equal.
2007-06-03 04:22:01 · answer #9 · answered by engineer46526 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got the idea that your son is his step son and the other is his bio son. I this is right BLOOD's THICKER THAN WATER! Deal with it!
2007-06-03 04:31:49 · answer #10 · answered by Gardner? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋